Most people come to therapy convinced that the fights with their partner are about the dishes, the money, or their partner’s parents. Underneath almost every recurring fight, something older is running the show...

When something happens that leaves us feeling uncomfortable, disrespected or unsafe, we often turn to someone we trust. We might tell a partner, a parent or a friend. We might ask for their perspective...

What happens when the person you intended to spend eternity with, the person you naturally entrusted with your secrets, hopes, and dreams, has been studying you intently? Not to learn how to love...

An unexpected lesson in potential, effort, and togetherness at my school’s 50th anniversary celebration. I nearly wrote off a piece of fabric before I had even worn it. It was the adire chosen as our...

What if the book a child reads today becomes the inspiration behind the dream they pursue tomorrow? What if a story opens their eyes to a world they never knew existed, awakens an interest they had never...

There is so much preparation for the arrival of a baby. We prepare the room, choose the stroller, wash the tiny clothes, and think about the birth. Yet how much space do we make for the changes that...

You can read your partner's mood from the sound of their keys in the door, and by the time they say hello, you've already adjusted. Losing yourself in a relationship happens through small, skilled...

Have you ever watched your child become so overwhelmed that words could no longer explain what they were experiencing? Have you mistaken a meltdown for a temper tantrum? Or wondered what to do when...

When conflict repeats, the problem may not lie in either person's behaviour alone but in the system of expectations, roles, and responses that emerges between them. Understanding conflict requires looking beyond...

Back in 2015, I needed some graphics work done. I ended up hiring a freelancer, someone I had never spoken to on the phone, never met in person, and only communicated with through typed messages.

Sometimes, words of longing lodge in your throat. You hesitate, questioning whether you even have the right to miss the one person who everyone around you insists you shouldn’t. Yet, you do miss them...

We are investing more than ever in understanding ourselves. We take personality assessments, journal, reflect on our triggers and talk openly about our patterns. Self-awareness has become one of the...

Parenting can leave adults feeling exhausted, especially when a child’s emotions stir up their own unmet needs. Learning to listen, accept feelings, and set limits can help children develop a stronger...

How often should people be having sex? Once a week? Several times a week? What happens when sex becomes less frequent? Does it mean desire is fading, a relationship is struggling, or people are simply...

In this day and age, ignorance regarding the cause of pregnancy does exist! Imagine that! Sadly, this occurs when a child is raped, a child too young to be perceived as fertile, and the child, of course...

A feeling may pass while the pattern organising it remains. Jungian complexes and a mathematical idea called a kernel offer a way to think about why we get stuck in some emotional situation and what...

Have you ever walked away from a conversation feeling as though someone had pulled the plug on your energy? Nothing dramatic happened, and the person may even be someone you love, yet you feel heavy...

An agreement can look balanced on paper while leaving one person afraid to say no. For families dividing substantial wealth, that distinction matters as much as the value of the assets themselves...

Every Halloween, we open our doors to superheroes, tiny monsters, and neighbors we may not have spoken to since last October. For a few hours, our neighborhoods become filled with conversation, imagination...

Imagine being just 12 years old and feeling responsible for your parent's happiness. You know when they're upset before they say a word. You listen to their problems, reassure them when they're distressed...

People often assume coaches have it all figured out. The truth is that I had to learn some of my hardest lessons the painful way. My work is rooted in understanding people. But this experience forced...

It hurts to know your partner still seeks sexual pleasure but doesn't have much interest in having sex with you. You probably miss feeling desired: knowing your partner wants you without having to ask...

When was the last time you played just for the sake of playing? Not because it was productive. Not because it accomplished something. Not because it checked a box on your list of things to do. Simply because...

For many years, I thought I was financially secure. I had been married for nearly three decades. We had a home, assets and what looked from the outside like a comfortable life. Before having my children...