top of page

Emotional Intelligence ‒ The Ability To Recognize, Understand And Managing Emotions

May 2, 2022
3 min read

Written by: Katarzyna Dorosz, Executive Contributor

Executive Contributors at Brainz Magazine are handpicked and invited to contribute because of their knowledge and valuable insight within their area of expertise.

Emotional intelligence determines how well we live is the key to being happy.


Those who develop it are more effective in all aspects of life, but most of all are happier.

As early as 1920, Edward L. Thorndike described what he called "social intelligence" the basic ability to understand and motivate other people. In the 1940s, David Wechsler made it clear that no intelligence test would be valid unless emotional aspects were considered.

According to Professor Daniel Goleman, a brilliant brain and a high IQ are completely useless, if we do not understand what empathy is. If we don't know how to read our own emotions and other people's emotions, if we're strangers to our own hearts and lack the social awareness to connect, manage fear, and be assertive, then IQ means nothing.

So what is emotional intelligence?


It is a way of viewing intelligence beyond its cognitive aspects (such as memory and problem solving). We are talking primarily about our ability to effectively pay attention to others and ourselves, to connect with our emotions, manage them, and self-improve, to inhibit our impulses.

Frederick Dodson said, “Pay attention to something else and your emotions will change. Change your emotions and your attention will shift."

Professor Goleman described the specificity of emotional intelligence: We need to detect the emotions associated with each of our actions. We need to develop our own emotional language sometimes it is not enough to say “I'm sad”, we have to be more specific. “I'm sad because I feel disappointed, a bit angry, and confused at the same time”.


Let us control our thoughts so that we can control our behavior. Let's look for the reasons behind the behavior of others, and learn to understand the different points of view and the emotions of others. Let us express our emotions clearly. Let's improve our social skills. Let's learn to motivate ourselves and fight for the things that can bring us closer to true happiness.

Mayer was the first to describe this element of our psyche. Emotional intelligence is a human ability that allows us to perceive, understand and deal with our own emotions and with the emotions of those around us.

Emotions really have great power, in stimulating us to change. This is because they directly affect our behavior and the way we think, and therefore play an extremely important role in shaping our personality. If we have emotional intelligence in our lives, we will be aware of the importance of ethics in everything we do. And this regardless of whether we are at work, with the family, or in another place, we will always follow the same rules and always be able to distinguish good from the bad.


The past stays behind us and we live in the present.

The key to success in life it is said, is academic intelligence, measured by IQ, which quite often parallels academic performance.


Based on many years of research, it is stated that emotional intelligence plays a large role in our personal and professional life, which influences how we use our knowledge and skills. Emotional intelligence comprises five emotional and social competencies.


These are:

  • self-consciousness

  • self-regulation

  • motivation

  • empathy

  • social skills

"Emotional intelligence accounts for 80 percent of the success in life." ‒ Daniel Goleman


Follow me on LinkedIn, and visit my website for more info!


Katarzyna Dorosz, Executive Contributor Brainz Magazine

Katarzyna Dorosz is a leader in the field of brain performance, mental performance, and improving memory and quality of work.


She is a world-renowned expert for senior and mature individuals who also conducts research on longevity. She is also a lecturer and author of several books.


Katarzyna works with many prestigious American universities about attaining meaningful longevity in Life and how to maintain brain function.


She also supports women around the world through motivational lectures. Her attitude and stubborn pursuit of purpose show how important changes and progress in life are.

She is also the author of the TV Show "Te Power of Life".


During lectures, she uses the "Educational kinesiology and Emotional intelligence" and developed her own methods of exercises that provide excellent memory, concentration exercises as well as relaxation, and a set of physical exercises to improve the condition (adjusted to the age and flexibility of the body).


In business training, Katarzyna uses the popular Japanese Kaizen method, i.e. a philosophy based on changing lifestyle ‒ an endless process of improving and improving the quality of the company.

 
 

This article is published in collaboration with Brainz Magazine’s network of global experts, carefully selected to share real, valuable insights.

Article Image

The Side of Joy No One Talks About

Why joy can’t exist without contrast, and how embracing life’s full emotional range makes happiness more meaningful and lasting. Do you truly know what joy is? For a long time, I wasn’t sure I did...

Article Image

What If Your Child Chose You?

We spend so much time thinking about what we will teach our children. We imagine the values we will pass on, the opportunities we will offer, and the love that will help them feel safe in the world...

Article Image

When Your Values No Longer Fit and What Misalignment Can Reveal

Values alignment at work is easy to talk about when things are going well. It becomes much more revealing when what matters to you begins to conflict with what you experience around you. In this...

Article Image

Staying One Step Ahead of AI

I asked a student this while coaching him through a research paper. Like many students, he had taken key points straight from AI without questioning them. My question stopped him and prompted a...

Article Image

The Loneliness of Being Easy to Love

You are sitting opposite someone who genuinely cares about you. They ask how you are. You say you're good. You listen to their stories, laugh at the right moments, offer reassurance, make space for whatever...

Article Image

Why Wait Until Forty to Heal What We Could Prevent and the Case for Emotional Immunity in Childhood

Almost every therapy session, a familiar scene plays out. A high-achieving woman in her forties sits across from me. She has a respected career, a beautiful home, and every external marker of...

The Side of Joy No One Talks About

What If Your Child Chose You?

When Your Values No Longer Fit and What Misalignment Can Reveal

Staying One Step Ahead of AI

The Loneliness of Being Easy to Love

Why Wait Until Forty to Heal What We Could Prevent and the Case for Emotional Immunity in Childhood

How Chasing Rejection Could Change Your Life

How to Use Medical Qi Gong for Healing

Why I Don’t Want My Sound Bath Students to Sound Like Me

bottom of page