Are You Chasing Your Dreams Away? Lessons From a Recovering Chaseaholic
- Brainz Magazine
- 3 days ago
- 7 min read
Written by Kate Castro, Singer/Songwriter/Keynote Speaker
Kate Castro is known for her resilient mindset and founder of SenseK8 LLC. She is a singer, songwriter, and keynote speaker who teaches people the importance of embracing uncertainty during adversity to lead a happier life. You can see Kate in the TV show “Women In Power” coming soon in 2026.
From a very early age, I felt compelled to cultivate a strong mindset in certain areas of life because of my environment. Although I lived in a loving household, there was a scarcity of material and financial resources. I grew up in a house where abundance was not the mindset. My parents were always worried about how much things would cost. How much were the groceries going to cost that week? Did we have enough for new clothes? Ensuring we kept the furnace no higher than 68 degrees because oil wasn’t cheap was a must. When we are born into an environment of scarcity, the mindset of lack lingers for a long time unless we know how to change it.
Most of us have been told to pursue our dreams, no matter what they are. At a certain age, a parent, an aunt, a friendly caretaker, or a teacher told us to chase our dreams. Figure out what you want to do in life and pursue it. Not everyone has been fortunate enough to have people who encourage them to live out their dreams, as many folks don’t get the chance to be dream chasers because of family responsibilities, bills, obligations, and/or emotional trauma that hold them back.
The external chase
It was visceral for me, the inner knowing that I wanted success. Financial success, because I knew what it was like to live without it. I had to work hard for many things I had since the age of 12, when I started babysitting, and 14, when I had a paper route to earn money. If I wanted something, I needed to earn money to get it because money didn’t grow on trees. My mom and dad were hard workers, but that didn't mean they made a good living when I was little. This hard work and eagerness to earn more money instilled in me a clear ambition, for sure. Making money meant I was more valuable-or so I thought. Even as a little girl, I knew there was a difference between the rich and the poor, or at least the perception behind the socioeconomic status. I had the notion that I wasn’t as good as the girl from a wealthy background who lived on the south hill. Even though I was unaware that I was equating my worth with my family's finances at a young age, I was caught in cycles that are clear to me now, which created a lot of resistance in my adulthood. I was seeking to be of greater value in the face of external forces. Because of that, my attachment to my desired outcome pushed those things away or made them more challenging to attain. Whether it was to procure a higher status at work, not only for money but also for my ego, the constant effort to be thinner, and the lifestyle I desired in a certain amount of time, I was giving off a frequency of desperation to the energy world. Society often conditions us to believe that worth must be earned or proven. We strive for excellence in every aspect of career, family, and personal development, yet measure our value by external markers such as titles, achievements, finances, and social approval. This relentless pursuit of validation rarely satisfies, no matter how much we accomplish, it often feels insufficient.
The mindshift
As a longtime student of quantum physics, I now understand that everything really is energy. Believing and living as an energetic being who vibrates at a high frequency, I have been able to alchemize several circumstances from pain into purposeful learning. Everything is interconnected. In his book PEMF: The 5th Element of Health, physicist Bryan Meyers explains how food, water, sunlight, oxygen, and Earth’s magnetic field are vital to life. The frequencies of the Earth’s magnetic field are necessary for the human body’s energy production. It makes sense, then, that we are energetic beings and that the power of our minds is beyond what we have ever known. I expanded my consciousness by weaving together scientific and spiritual concepts. During my cancer journey, I meditated daily and sent energetic love to the trees, animals, and people I love because I believed it would make me feel better. In doing so, it made me feel healthy and cared for. I applied this concept to money in my spiritual practice as well. Money is a tool, and when we think of it as abundant rather than scarce, more shows up to help us live with additional options and navigate our lives freely. Even when material things haven’t shown up yet, I hold the vision in my mind that it’s already taken care of and on the way.
I’ve dedicated a lot of my life in the past fifteen years to becoming more energetically aware of everything. Dr. Wayne Dyer was the catalyst of this awareness in my twenties. I realized that what I believe to be true will be my truth. I was all action for years-I had to do, rather than being conscious of my limiting beliefs of things not unfolding unless I made them. Now I think there is no limit to the abundance available to me. I changed my mind and now vibrate on the level of what I want to attract. When we think we are abundant, we attract more of what we desire.
The missing piece
The ambition to follow your passions carries significant weight in life, while the fortitude to plow through obstacles builds resilience that endures, though wholeness, after all, stems from within. I have faced plenty of adversity in my lifetime, and I’m grateful for it now, because I know those hard times brought me to a clearer place. The ability to reflect on and learn from the most challenging situations brings so much clarity that we can move forward confidently in all aspects of life. This clarity made me realize it all boils down to "worthiness."
I was seeking to feel worthy. Until I felt the worthiness inside, the hard work and hustle were the only way to get things done, often with accolades to follow, but sometimes at the expense of stress, burnout, and little playtime. One can go on like this for years without realizing there is another way, a more fulfilling, less stressful way to live.
I chased opportunities and people because I wanted to reach my next goal or attain something I thought would make me happy and more valuable. Pursuing goals is essential to a successful life, but not when you don’t leave room for patience. I chased certain people because I so badly wanted things to happen on my timeline. I was afraid opportunities wouldn't present themselves unless I made them happen. Time and time again, in the face of unwanted outcomes, I realized my past ways were not the best course of action. It’s like chasing a butterfly, the more you go after it, the further it flies away. After much self-reflection and inner work, I know it was a scarcity mindset. “If I don’t get this person to see me, I’ll miss out. I need so-and-so to see my talent. Jane Doe must hear the lyrics in my songs,” and on and on. Sometimes, though rarely, those relationships did develop and produced beautiful projects.
Alignment
Once I realized the extent to which I had been operating in lack, my life changed. When we release the need for others to like us, know we’re awesome, like our work, and so forth, there is a tremendous amount of energy to create from! I no longer chase. I radiate and align with opportunities that fit my passions. Everything is now drawn to me because I changed how I feel and how I identify with it all. This transformation occurred because I embodied the feeling of being worthy of the things I desire. The elevated version of myself changed my life. I created a frequency that turned the old lack mentality into abundance. Choosing to encompass the new version of me became the new reality.
Awareness
The outside validation I once longed for dissipated. I did the inner work, and I finally realized that I was doing certain things for approval. My decisions are no longer driven by fear or urgency. I make decisions easier, and I do less because I know that opportunities will meet me if they are meant to.
No hustling. I plant seeds of my desires in the ether, then I relax and play while I wait. There is wisdom in the wait. Observe. Trust. I take inspired action when I feel it. There are times when the old version of me arises, where I want to act out of impulse, but then I pause. I become aware of the old chase mentality and realign my thoughts with the expanded me. The photo connected to this article is from a recent trip I took with my family to London. In it, I am enjoying the scenery, unaware that my stepdaughter was taking my picture, simply allowing the environment to be.
There are some people that I still want to work with whom I chased in the past. Maybe those collaborations will come to fruition one day, but it won’t be from the old, rushed energy I once had.
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Kate Castro, Singer/Songwriter/Keynote Speaker
Kate Castro is a singer, songwriter, and keynote speaker. A cancer diagnosis provoked a personal and spiritual awakening. Healing and transformation lead her to guide others to find what lights them up in life. Founder of SenseK8 LLC, living in possibility and embracing uncertainty is what Kate encourages others to experience. All challenges have the ability to be opportunities. You can see Kate in the TV show “Women In Power” coming soon in 2026.
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