Why High Performers Need to Learn Self-Regulation
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Rosanna Holmström is a breathwork facilitator, public speaker, and cybersecurity professional. She teaches leaders and high performers how to regulate their inner state and access clarity, resilience, and sustainable performance.
Pressure is part of life. Stress, deadlines, responsibility, and ambition are not the problem. The real issue begins when the nervous system never receives a signal that it’s safe to slow down, let go, and recover.
In high-performing environments, many people live in a near-constant state of alertness, always “on,” always bracing for the next demand. Over time, this keeps the nervous system locked in survival mode. Focus narrows. Decision-making becomes reactive. Recovery is compromised. Health starts to erode.
Performance may continue, but it’s sustained on borrowed time. Often it looks like high output on the outside and a constant elevated pulse, shallow, disrupted sleep, and a mind that never truly switches off on the inside.
According to the World Health Organization, depression and anxiety, often strongly linked to work-related stress, account for an estimated 12 billion lost working days globally every year. This is not just a personal issue, but an organizational and economic one as well.
After years of working with people under sustained pressure, one pattern shows up again and again: it is rarely motivation, ambition, or discipline that’s missing. What’s missing is the nervous system’s ability to regulate, downshift, and recover.
What is self-regulation, and why high performers can’t sustain success without it
Self-regulation is the ability to shift your internal state in response to pressure. It’s the difference between reacting automatically and responding intentionally. Between staying present or becoming overwhelmed. Between sustaining performance and quietly paying for it over time.
When the nervous system never receives a signal of safety, the body stays in a prolonged state of activation. This affects:
Decision-making and judgment
Emotional regulation
Sleep quality and recovery
Immune function and long-term health
You may still perform, but with increasing friction, effort, and cost. High performance without regulation eventually collapses under its own weight.
Why willpower and discipline are not enough
Many high performers pride themselves on resilience, grit, and pushing through discomfort. These qualities can drive results in the short term, but they do not replace regulation. The nervous system does not respond to logic, goals, or ambition. It responds to signals of safety or threat.
When pressure is constant, and recovery is insufficient, the system stays in a defensive state. Over time, this leads to:
Narrowed thinking
Increased reactivity
Impaired long-term planning
Emotional fatigue
Burnout or health breakdown
Sustainable performance means being able to regulate your internal state in real time so clarity, focus, and presence don’t disappear under pressure, but remain available over time.
The cost of ignoring stress
Globally, the cost of unregulated stress is staggering. The World Health Organization estimates that depression and anxiety cost the global economy approximately US$1 trillion every year due to lost productivity, not because people don’t care or try hard enough, but because prolonged stress directly impairs cognitive capacity and decision-making.
This is no longer just a personal well-being issue, it is a systemic performance problem affecting organisations, leadership, and long-term economic resilience, as outlined in the WHO’s report on mental health in the workplace.
But beyond statistics, the cost shows up in more subtle ways:
Leaders who lose their ability to listen
Teams operating in constant urgency
Individuals who can’t switch off, even when work is finished
People who perform well but feel disconnected, exhausted, or flat
This is not a mindset issue. It’s a physiological one.
Why the nervous system is the missing link in performance
The nervous system governs everything from attention and emotion to recovery and resilience.
When regulated, it supports:
Clear thinking
Emotional steadiness
Adaptive decision-making
Efficient energy use
Grounded leadership
When dysregulated, it prioritizes survival over strategy. High performers don’t fail because they lack ambition. They struggle because the system driving that ambition never gets to reset.
This same principle has been explored in one of my Brainz articles, How Breathwork Is Changing the Corporate World and Why Leaders Can’t Ignore It, which highlights how regulation underpins leadership clarity and long-term performance.
Breathwork: The fastest way to regulate your nervous system
Breathwork is one of the most direct ways to influence the nervous system in real time. The breath sends continuous signals to the brain about safety or threat. Slow, controlled breathing activates the parasympathetic nervous system, the branch responsible for recovery, clarity, and regulation. Fast, shallow breathing reinforces stress and activation.
Research continues to support this:
A 2023 meta-analysis confirmed that breathwork interventions, especially slow, intentional breathing, significantly reduce stress, anxiety, and depressive symptoms, supporting its role in emotional and physiological regulation.
A workplace field experiment in Frontiers in Psychology found that a structured breath-based yogic breathing intervention significantly improved employees’ stress, anxiety, emotional well-being, and general health in a real organizational environment.
Breathwork is not just about relaxation, it is about restoring access to your full cognitive and emotional capacity.
From burnout to regulated power
This approach sits at the heart of my private coaching container, Regulated Power, a three-month, one-to-one, online-based space for people who operate under sustained pressure and responsibility. It’s designed for high performers who want to continue showing up with clarity, strength, and presence, without slowly burning themselves out in the process.
Because burnout rarely arrives overnight. It creeps in quietly. It often starts with subtle signals that are easy to dismiss: difficulty switching off after work, a constantly elevated pulse, disrupted sleep, emotional flatness, irritability, loss of joy in things that once mattered, or the feeling that rest no longer restores you. Many people continue performing through these signs, until the body eventually forces a stop. And coming back from burnout is often far harder, longer, and more complex than preventing it in the first place.
In my work, the focus is therefore not just recovery, but prevention. Teaching the nervous system how to regulate before it reaches the wall. How to downshift after pressure instead of carrying stress from one day into the next. How to build a capacity for ambition that is sustainable over time.
I’ve seen firsthand how powerful this work can be. One client I worked with had reached full burnout and was on antidepressant medication. Through a consistent breathwork and nervous system regulation practice, alongside medical supervision, he was able to gradually taper off his medication and rebuild a sense of safety, energy, and emotional stability in his body. What changed wasn’t his workload, it was his nervous system.
This is what Regulated Power is about: helping your nervous system recover, regulate, and support your ambition, instead of constantly working against it, because leadership, creativity, and long-term performance cannot thrive in survival mode. And the earlier we start listening to the body’s signals, the more resilient and grounded our performance becomes.
You can read more about my coaching container and apply at Regulated Power.
If this resonates, whether for your own performance or within your organisation, you’re welcome to explore my work further via Instagram, LinkedIn, and visit my website.
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Rosanna Holmström, Breathwork Expert and International Speaker
Rosanna Holmström is a breathwork facilitator, public speaker, and cybersecurity professional. She helps leaders, founders, and individuals recovering from burnout regulate their inner world and access clarity, resilience, and sustainable energy. Through her brand Breathe With Rosie, she integrates breathwork and nervous system awareness into leadership, culture, and personal transformation.
