Turn Your New Year’s Resolution into Your Lasting Legacy
- Brainz Magazine
- 1 day ago
- 5 min read
Written by Gemma Gains, Director
Gemma Gains is a Space Holder and Facilitator in the world of healing and transformation. She specializes in the subtleties of reading and harnessing energy.
Your embodied behaviour becomes your child’s inheritance. We have all embarked on our festive journey through overindulgence, perceived momentary time freedom, and the traditions maze we adopted from generations past. What a wonderful time to end up lost! This setup often leads us to make New Year’s resolutions that live and die, way before Jesus at Easter. Ready to make them stick this year?
A legacy is built from childhood, we are all capable of building lasting abundance for our children and our children’s children. This not only improves the lives of our family, but also of the community and the world.
When we are in alignment, body, mind and soul, we create magic, miracles and dreams do come true. The mind, the body and the soul. The intention, the thought and the action. This is not about doing more, this is about choice.
Directional intention: The heavy cargo resolutions train
If we look up the word “resolutions”, in Latin, Resolution means Release. But we don’t, do we? We start new relations with supplements, gym schedules and diets that feel like punishments.
How are we expecting our resolutions to go the distance if we are creating them from Fear, guilt, or shame? Unregulated, low self-worth or lack? How could we ever manifest a new self from a place of self-improvement, which implies we aren’t enough?
We list goal-based wishes.
Lose weight
Earn more money.
Stop procrastinating
Work on Mental Health
Spend more time with family
Can you easily see the thread pulling these all together? Imagine stepping onto a station, excited to get to a set destination, looking forward, thinking to yourself how great it is that you are doing something for yourself! Finally! Then sitting down, getting comfortable and then realising you are on a train that is going in completely the wrong direction?
The transmission principle
What if I said that your resolutions were inherited from your parents? You are trying to drop what they could not.
You didn’t learn how to be through your parents’ teachings, explanations, or sacrifices. You learnt how to be through their nervous system states and emotional responses. How to relate to work, money, rest and play all by being a witness.
Your parents’ behaviour, repeated conversions and the environment they built were your reality. Their embodied behaviour and emotional environment became your inherited identity and the baggage that you carry…
That is why so many of us get so incredibly stuck when we say ‘I’m never going to be like my dad/mum!’
“From shirtsleeves to shirtsleeves in three generations”
In societies that value hard work, duty, endurance and output, wealth, status and success decay…
England: "Clogs to clogs in three generations”
China: "Wealth does not sustain beyond three generations"
Japan: "Rice paddies to rice paddies in three generations”
Scotland: "The father buys, the son builds, the grandchild sells, and his son begs"
The stiff upper lip is not strong enough to hold true wealth, as it is not supported by internal capacity. Values based on competition and scarcity lead to resentment and then entitlement. Wrapped up in ‘I want my kids to have the things I didn’t’…
Children who grow up in convenience are like butterflies who have someone else break them from the cocoon, they never learn how to fly. Their wings never gain the strength from the struggle.
Dead end – Money legacy
We have beliefs that working harder, longer, always searching for the highest figure in our bank accounts, will cover them for life. “Make things easier”
“I am doing this for my children” Absence dressed up as provision?
While we don’t see them, missing sports practices, our absence is felt at special moments where our children long to be seen. After those gruelling days, we are tired, overstimulated and stretched, and our children navigate feeling our unavailability and rush.
Inheriting that earning money means loss of connection with the people I love the most. That work literally feels like abandonment. That success comes with a huge emotional cost that they don’t ever want to feel again.
The wealth you are building could be resented. The blessing, blocked unconsciously, and they could avoid ambition or burn out completely. Believing their worth is in work and not in themselves.
Dead end – Pain legacy
Stress is passed on. Shame, Guilt, and Anger pile up. Generations of pain, physical, emotional and spiritual, are passed on like a hot knife through butter. The only way to stop it is to address emotional regulation, relationship to discomfort, and to find purpose beyond survival.
As a society, we are taught to avoid discomfort, to believe that play is not valuable, and that living in stress, depletion, and quiet resentment is normal.
When we suppress our emotions, hide our pain and live in constant stress, we are expressing that life equals strain. That Joy is optional and that our needs are a burden.
Our children observe and respond.
They begin to carry our unprocessed pain and amplify it through their growth. They grow up too fast, having difficulty with pleasure, rest and ease and replicate our emotional contraction.
The bullet train to nowhere
The truth is that what we hold on to, what we tolerate, becomes our child’s normal. Not at all because you wanted it that way… Because it was the load you were given. You don’t have to go back the way you came. You can find your way to your destination by resetting the internal compass. Presence instead of productivity, awareness stimulates.
Become the man at the station – Define your legacy
When we manifest from alignment, we turn the curse of the third generation on its head. How would you like your grandchildren to feel? Loved? Safe? Respected? Valued? Confident? Intelligent? Capable?
What would your children have to feel to pass that feeling on? Now, how do ‘you’ have to feel… To pass that on? I can guess that it’s the same feelings? Did you have to lose weight? Did you have to earn more money? Alignment is a station, your manifestation train has no choice but to go in the right direction.
Travel light
What can I give you to take away? Travel light, this New Year, let go of your old identity, let the opinions, expectations and stories fall away.
Free yourself from your inherited legacies, not by disowning your parents, but by coming into alignment yourself through compassion for the past, present and future. Forgive yourself. Time is not linear, there is no ‘dead end’, only infinite opportunity. What you choose today will change all time.
Your internal compass, shifted a small degree, will transform your destination considerably, watch. Instead of ‘losing weight’, signing up to the gym, dieting and punishing yourself. Play with your kids every day. You will reach All 5 goals mentioned above and more. So I ask.. Would you want your grandchildren to feel what you feel now?
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Gemma Gains, Director
Gemma is a space holder, guiding you as a compassionate, protective, and dedicated shepherd through the subtle energies of your field. With patience and wisdom, Gemma uses her intuitive card readings, deep conversation, and body work to help release blockages and heal generational traumas, realigning your energetic flow. Drawing on principles of quantum physics, Gemma can help you understand how your inner world reflects your relationships with yourself, others, and the Earth. As your unwavering guide, Gemma is dedicated to supporting you in returning to a "right" relationship with yourself, while leaving you with full autonomy over your healing journey. Her intention is to empower you to reconnect with your true self and cultivate harmony within your body, energy, and the world around you.
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