Ego vs Higher Self – How to Tell Who Is Running Your Life
- Brainz Magazine
- 5 days ago
- 4 min read
Angela Attar is a Holistic Healer & Spiritual Guide, Reiki Master, Homeopath, and Spiritual Coach. She specialises in Emotional and Energy Healing, helping individuals release blocks, restore balance, and reconnect with their true selves through integrative mind-body-spirit practices.
Many people experience an ongoing inner conflict, a sense of overthinking, emotional reactivity, or feeling disconnected from themselves despite doing “all the right things.” Life may appear stable on the outside, yet internally, there is confusion, exhaustion, or a constant feeling of being on edge.
This inner tension often comes from two very different forces competing for control, the ego and the higher self. Understanding the difference between ego vs higher self, and recognising which one is guiding your thoughts, decisions, and emotional responses, can be profoundly transformative.
What is the ego?
The ego is not something to get rid of, nor is it inherently negative. It exists to protect us. It develops through life experiences, conditioning, and moments where safety, emotional or physical, is felt uncertain.
The ego’s role is survival. It scans for danger, seeks control, and tries to prevent discomfort or rejection. It often speaks through fear-based thoughts, self-doubt, comparison, or the need for certainty. While its intentions are protective, when the ego dominates, life can begin to feel heavy, reactive, and exhausting.
What is the higher self?
The higher self represents the calm, grounded part of us that is connected to truth, integrity, and inner knowing. It is not loud or demanding. It does not rush or pressure.
Rather than reacting, the higher self responds. It is aligned with values rather than fear, trust rather than control. Decisions guided by the higher self tend to feel steady and clear, even when they involve challenge or change.
Ego vs higher self: Key differences
Understanding the contrast between these two inner voices makes them easier to recognise in daily life.
The ego operates through fear, the higher self through trust
The ego feels urgent, the higher self is patient
The ego seeks external validation, the higher self relies on inner alignment
The ego overthinks, the higher self knows
The ego tightens the body, the higher self softens it
Neither voice disappears entirely, but awareness allows choice.
Signs the ego is running your life
Many people recognise ego dominance not through dramatic moments, but through subtle, ongoing patterns, such as:
Constant overthinking and second-guessing decisions
Emotional reactivity or feeling easily triggered
A strong need for reassurance or approval
Difficulty resting or slowing down
Feeling disconnected from yourself despite effort and productivity
These patterns are common during periods of chronic stress and nervous system overload, and they are not personal failings.
Signs you are listening to the higher self
When the higher self leads, life does not become perfect, but it does become clearer. Common signs include:
Decisions feel calmer, even when they are not easy
Emotional responses soften rather than escalate
Increased self-trust and reduced need to explain yourself
A sense of alignment rather than force
Feeling more present in the body rather than stuck in the mind
This shift often feels subtle but deeply grounding.
Why so many people are stuck in ego mode
Modern life places enormous strain on the nervous system. Constant stimulation, emotional suppression, unresolved experiences, and long periods of “pushing through” leave little room for stillness or reflection.
When the nervous system remains in a prolonged state of stress or survival mode, the ego naturally becomes louder in an attempt to maintain control. This is especially common in those who are responsible, empathetic, or used to supporting others. Ego dominance, in this sense, is often a sign of overwhelm rather than weakness.
Research into how the nervous system responds to prolonged stress shows that ongoing stress can significantly impact emotional regulation, decision-making, and overall wellbeing.
How to begin shifting from ego to higher self
The transition from ego-led to higher-self-led living does not happen through willpower alone. It begins with gentle awareness.
Simple practices can support this shift:
Pausing before reacting
Creating moments of quiet without distraction
Reconnecting with the body through breath or stillness
Allowing emotions to be felt rather than pushed away
Receiving support rather than managing everything alone
Practices that focus on calming the nervous system naturally can be particularly helpful in creating the internal safety needed for this shift to occur.
Living from alignment, not survival
When the higher self begins to guide more of your inner world, life often feels less effortful. Decisions come from clarity rather than fear. Healing becomes deeper because it addresses root causes, not just symptoms.
Living from alignment does not remove challenges, but it changes how they are met, with steadiness, trust, and self-respect.
Start your reconnection journey
Feeling disconnected from yourself can be unsettling, but it doesn’t mean anything is wrong with you. Often, it is simply a sign that your system has been in survival mode for too long.
If you feel drawn to explore this more deeply, personalised Emotional & Energy Healing sessions can support you in reconnecting with your inner clarity, regulating the nervous system, and gently releasing what no longer serves you. This work can also form the foundation for a longer-term journey of inner alignment and self-trust.
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Angela Attar, Holistic Healer & Spiritual Guide
Angela Attar is a Holistic Healer & Spiritual Guide, Reiki Master, Homeopath, and Spiritual Coach. She works with individuals seeking to release emotional blocks, restore balance, and reconnect with their true selves, with a special focus on empowering women on their healing journeys. Through her integrative approach combining Reiki, homeopathy, and spiritual coaching, Angela helps clients build resilience, clarity, and a renewed sense of inner strength. Her mission is to guide others back to their authentic power so they can live with greater purpose, freedom, and fulfilment.
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