Why Being Relatable is Making You Replaceable
- Brainz Magazine
- Jun 2
- 5 min read
Anne-Sophie Reinhardt is a Certified Mind-Body Eating Coach, author, and podcast host helping women reconnect with their self-worth and create bold, magnificent lives. Featured in The Huffington Post and on German TV, she blends expertise and intuition to guide clients toward authentic transformation.
Have you ever wondered if trying too hard to be liked is holding you back? In today’s competitive world, blending in can make you invisible and easy to overlook. This article explores why being relatable might be the very thing that’s making you replaceable and how to stand out instead.
Why shrinking yourself to be “one of them” is costing you the life you actually want
You already know how to make people comfortable.
You know how to say the right thing.
You know how to take up just enough space, but not too much. You know how to tone it down, smooth it out, and keep it light.
You know how to be the one everyone likes, trusts, and relates to. But here’s what I’ve learned the hard way:
Being relatable is not the same as being remembered
Because let’s be honest.
The people who inspire you most?
They’re not the ones who made you feel comfortable. They’re the ones who woke something up in you.
The ones who didn’t care if you liked them, because they were too busy living fully. And the life you really want?
It’s waiting for you on the other side of being liked.
Why you fell for the relatable trap (it’s not your fault)
Humans are wired to belong. It’s called social survival wiring. So your brain learned to ask:
Will they approve?
Will they like me?
Will I still belong if I go all in?
That’s why being relatable feels like the safest choice.
But here’s the problem:
The need to belong and the need to express yourself are two very different needs.
And the more you filter yourself to fit in, the more you kill your ability to:
Live fully
Lead yourself boldly
Go after the life you actually want
That’s why fitting in eventually starts to feel suffocating. You belong, but you disappear in the process.
What happens when you stop performing relatability
Psychology calls this authentic self-expression, and research shows it’s linked to:
Higher well-being
Stronger emotional resilience
Deeper life satisfaction
When you stop filtering yourself to fit, you stop playing small.
And when you start showing up fully in all your grit, ambition, and aliveness, you start attracting people, opportunities, and experiences that match who you really are.
This is how you go from optional to unmissable.
What you can do instead (5 real shifts that move you forward)
You don’t have to change who you are; you just have to stop hiding the parts that make you powerful. Here’s how:
1. Say what you actually think, unfiltered
You weren’t born to be vague. You weren’t born to be palatable.
You weren’t born to stay neutral, so nobody feels uncomfortable.
But most of us have learned to soften our words:
“I kind of think”
“Not sure if this makes sense, but” “I don’t know, maybe it’s just me”
It’s a reflex. But it’s killing your clarity. Here’s the shift:
Say the thing. Say it fully. Say it like you mean it.
Example: When I started saying, “I believe in being both, soft and strong, disciplined and free, wild and focused”, people leaned in. They finally knew what I stood for.
2. Take up more space, physically and energetically
You’ve done it, made yourself smaller to fit the moment, shrunk your energy so others wouldn’t feel threatened, toned down your excitement so you wouldn’t be “too much.”
Stop.
Stand up straighter. Speak a little louder.
Let yourself take up space without apologizing.
Example: When I started owning my full energy on stage, online, and in conversations, I stopped feeling invisible. I felt alive. And people noticed.
3. Do the scary thing before you feel ready
I’ve run marathons on all seven continents. I’ve woken up at 4 a.m. for months to train. I’ve achieved things my younger self couldn’t even imagine.
And here’s what I’ve learned:
You never feel ready to do something big.
You just decided to start anyway.
Example: I signed up for my first marathon with no idea if I could finish. I didn’t wait until I felt ready. I trained anyway. And I crossed that finish line.
4. Raise your standards for what you accept in your life
Adventure, achievement, and freedom don’t come to those who wait for permission. They come to the ones who expect more from themselves and from life.
That means saying no to:
Playing small to make others feel safe.
Settling for “fine” when you know you want extraordinary.
Shrinking your dreams because they seem “too big.”
Example: I stopped saying yes to the life I thought I was allowed to have. I started chasing the life I actually wanted and I built it one bold move at a time.
5. Speak to the people who are ready to live like you are
The world doesn’t need another watered-down voice.
It needs people who show up fully, raw, real, and ready. So, stop speaking to everyone.
Start speaking to the ones who are already craving more:
More adventure.
More meaning.
More truth.
More life.
Example: When I started owning my story, the dark parts, the victories, the wild dreams, I stopped attracting people who wanted to watch life happen. I started connecting with people who wanted to live it fully.
How this shift changed my life (and my results)
Here’s what changed when I stopped trying to be relatable:
I started running the races no one in my world dared to try.
I started living out dreams that once felt impossible.
I started taking myself seriously in my body, my goals, and my life.
And yes, I made more money because I stopped doing “safe” things that didn’t light me up. Because when you stop performing for approval, you stop being replaceable.
And that’s when people and life start showing up for you fully.
The bottom line: You have to decide who you’re going to be
Here’s the choice you face:
Stay small, safe, and overlooked.
Or show up fully, boldly, and unforgettably.
You weren’t born to blend in. You were born to live out loud.
So stop performing for approval. Stop hiding your fire.
Stop waiting for permission.
Start living like you’re already the legend you’re here to become.
Want to go deeper?
At annesophie.us, you’ll find tools, stories, and conversations that challenge the old rules and help you write your own. From podcast episodes to personal insights, from bold truths to rebellious reminders, it’s all waiting for you.
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Anne-Sophie Reinhardt, Mind-Body & Life Coach
Anne-Sophie Reinhardt is a Certified Mind-Body Eating Coach, author, and podcast host specializing in empowering women to reconnect with their self-worth and embrace bold magnificence. With certifications in mind-body practices, business coaching, and life coaching, Anne-Sophie blends expertise and intuition to guide her clients toward transformative breakthroughs. Featured in The Huffington Post and on German TV, she is the host of Boldly Magnificent and Escape Diet Prison, where she shares strategies for living unapologetically and creating extraordinary lives. Explore her work to find inspiration, tools, and stories that celebrate the power of self-love and authentic living.
