Why Focusing on Your Emotions Can Make Your New Year’s Resolutions Stick
- Brainz Magazine
- 24 hours ago
- 8 min read
Written by Grinia Bradwell, Intuitive Author & Writer
Grinia Bradwell, PhD, is a scientist, author, and Reiki Master exploring the intersection of science, consciousness, and personal growth. She is the author of The Energy Field: The Paths We Take Are the Choices We Make, a reflective memoir exploring personal transformation, cultural change, and inner awakening.
We all know how it goes. On December 31st we are pumped, excited to start fresh in the new year. New goals, bold resolutions, or in some cases, a sense of defeat because we failed to achieve all the ambitious goals that we had set for ourselves in the past. But what if there was a new way to set yourself up for success, without making a commitment that you know wouldn’t last more than a few weeks? What if, instead of just focusing on outcomes, you also focus on how you want to feel?
Shifting the focus from rigid goals
Every new year begins with hope. We promise ourselves change, growth, and a better version of who we want to be. For many of us, those resolutions slowly fade within weeks. This happens because we often set rigid, idealized goals that are disconnected from our current reality. We focus on the outcome and forget about enjoying the journey. Traditional resolutions often focus on the final result, such as losing weight, earning more, or changing something specific about ourselves. What if there was a more fluid and natural way to achieve these goals while enjoying and rewarding yourself along the way?
The power of feeling your resolutions
Think about your goal and imagine that you have just achieved it. How does it make you feel? Does it make you feel happy or recognized? Does it make you feel healthy and energized? Does it make you feel loved, cared for, or heard? The goals you set for yourself and their outcomes are often linked to how you want to feel when you finally achieve them. But why wait until you achieve each goal to experience that feeling? By feeling first, you shift your mindset from lack and need to having. There are many resources that show the impact of this mindset shift in our ability to quickly manifest our goals and live a more fulfilling life. Let’s take a moment to review 3 examples of how you can make your resolutions stick.
1. Lose weight & be healthy
If your resolution is to lose weight and live a healthier lifestyle, it’s common to start by setting traditional goals, like losing a certain number of pounds, going to the gym a few times a week, or eating more vegetables. These are great metrics to keep you on track. However, the downside of this approach is that when life gets busy or unexpected challenges arise, you might lose focus and fall back into old habits due to stress or lack of motivation. You may even feel tempted to say, “I’ll try again next year.” This is where focusing on how you feel can help you stay on course.
Instead of just looking at the end goal, think about how you will feel when you’re at your target weight and healthy. You might feel energized, more confident, or proud of the way you present yourself to the world. The key is to realize that you can start experiencing those feelings now. Here are 3 simple steps you can take:
Morning routine: Take only five minutes when you first wake up and visualize yourself healthy and on your target weight. Focus on that feeling, see who you are around, what you are doing, what you are eating. Imagine yourself looking in the mirror and being proud of who you are. Feel it.
Gratitude for each step forward: Each day, identify actions or moments that bring you closer to those feelings. Maybe you ate a big salad, took a walk, or took a quick break from your screen during work. Each small step counts. Every time you take an action that aligns with your goal, take a moment to appreciate what it feels like to be on the path toward that healthier version of yourself.
No space for guilt: When you slip up or fall off track, don’t dwell on it. Instead, remind yourself of the positive steps you’ve already taken. Keep track of your small wins, so you can return to them in challenging moments. Remember, this isn’t a sprint, you don’t need to move fast, just keep moving at your own pace. And most importantly, tomorrow is a fresh start, and you have another opportunity to take one more step forward.
2. Grow financially
If one of your resolutions is to grow financially and build a healthier relationship with money, you might start by increasing your savings, paying off debt, boosting your income, or sticking to a budget. These are all great strategies to improve your financial situation, but for many people, taking these actions may be easier said than done, especially if you are living paycheck to paycheck and facing unexpected challenges such illness or job loss. In those moments, it can feel almost impossible to even think about long-term financial growth. This is where a shift in mindset can help.
Now ask yourself: how would you feel if your financial life were stable and you even had enough money to spend on things you love? Would it bring you a sense of accomplishment and pride? Would you feel more relaxed and joyful knowing that you don’t need to worry about how to pay your next bill? Would you feel generous knowing you could give to those less fortunate? You can begin cultivating these feelings now by following three steps:
Morning routine: Take five minutes each morning, right after you wake up, to visualize your ideal financial situation. What benefits does it bring to your life? Who is around you, and how do you feel? It may be hard to believe that simply thinking about it can create change but trust the process. The brain has remarkable capabilities, and when you clearly communicate what you want through visualization and emotion, it begins to shift your mindset, helping you recognize new opportunities and generate ideas that move you closer to living in that state.
Gratitude is a seed: You don’t need to wait until your finances improve to be grateful. Think about one of the feelings tied to reaching your financial goals, such as accomplishment. Simple daily actions like making your bed, organizing your space, or completing a small task can already give you that sense of achievement. The same goes for generosity: giving isn’t limited to money. A kind word, a smile, or sharing a helpful lesson can make a difference in someone’s day. Even without money involved, you are still giving and being generous. Notice these moments and appreciate them.
Take a leap: now that you know how an abundant financial life feels, and you can see yourself living it with generosity and appreciation, the next step is to act. Place yourself in environments that can open the door to new opportunities, connect with people that embody a mindset of growth, achievement, and generosity. Show up with confidence, trust the process, and know that every step is moving you closer. All you need to do is to keep walking.
3. Meaningful relationships
If you are looking to build healthier, more meaningful relationships, you might consider spending more time meeting and connecting with new people, communicating more openly, spending more quality time with loved ones, setting boundaries, or being more present. These are all excellent ways to build a supportive and meaningful community around you. But why do so many of us struggle to do this? For many of us, personality traits, past experiences, or environment can interfere with our confidence or ability to put ourselves out there. If this resonates with you, know that this barrier can be removed by aligning your vision with the emotions connected to it.
How would you feel if you had supportive and meaningful relationships? Would you feel seen and heard? Connected and safe? Loved and cared for? Let’s begin building your ideal community by starting from the heart. Here are the three steps to help you create deeper, more meaningful connections:
Morning routine: In the first five minutes after you wake up, take a deep breath and visualize yourself surrounded by people who love and care for you. They may be friends, partners, or family members. If you have experienced difficult or unhealthy relationships in the past, imagine a bright light moving away those who caused you harm, placing them where they can no longer affect you. Imagine an invisible protective barrier around you, where only people with the best intentions can enter. In this space, you feel safe, you feel heard, and you feel loved. Hold onto these feelings and carry them with you throughout the day.
Gratitude is a bridge: When we are in a positive mindset, we naturally attract people and opportunities that align with that energy. Acknowledging the good around us goes a long way in bringing positivity into our lives. Start by noticing the simple things, the nature around you, the night sky, or a kind gesture from a stranger. Be grateful for living in a world full of opportunities. While it isn’t perfect, it still offers so much to appreciate. Try to find small things to be grateful for each day, even if it’s as simple as being alive and waking up to a new day filled with new possibilities.
Don’t be afraid to take the first step: Now that you’ve begun to shift your mindset toward positive feelings and gratitude, you can slowly put yourself out there. Take one step at a time if that helps you feel safer and more comfortable. Consider joining an online group focused on meaningful connections and aligned with your values, or take a course on a topic you love to meet like-minded people. As your confidence grows, allow yourself to take bigger steps. Notice how your new mindset and energy will begin to attract different types of interactions and relationships in your life. And above all, remember to love and honor yourself. Everything else will fall into place.
Aligning intention and emotions creates change
No matter what resolution you choose, whether it’s improving your health, growing financially, or building meaningful relationships, the message remains the same, when you align your intentions with emotions like gratitude, abundance, and love, your actions naturally follow. Progress becomes less about forcing discipline and more about gently guiding yourself in the direction you want to grow.
You don’t need to wait for the perfect moment or the final outcome to start feeling fulfilled. Each day offers a new opportunity to take a small step, practice gratitude, and build momentum. Over time, these feelings will shape your mindset and will influence your choices, helping your resolutions stick, not just for a few weeks but for the long run.
If this approach resonates with you, I invite you to continue the journey with me. I share daily positive notes, reflections, and reminders on my Instagram to help you stay connected to gratitude and intentional living. I’ve also created a gratitude book with daily gratitude prompts for reflection to help you anchor the feelings that matter most. Start where you are, take one small step today, and trust that meaningful change unfolds one feeling at a time.
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Grinia Bradwell, Intuitive Author & Writer
Grinia Bradwell, PhD, is a scientist, author, and Reiki Master who explores questions of perception, awareness, and personal growth. With a background in scientific research and a deep interest in consciousness and energy, her writing reflects on how logic and intuition can coexist. Through personal experience and thoughtful inquiry, she invites readers to expand perspective and reconnect with inner balance.
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