The Festive Miracle You Actually Need
- Brainz Magazine
- 10 hours ago
- 9 min read
Written by Dr. Dain Heer, Speaker and Author
Dr. Dain Heer is an avid explorer of possibilities and an internationally recognized author and speaker. As the founder of the annual International Being You Day and Co-creator of Access Consciousness, one of the largest personal development movements practiced in 176 countries, Dain serves as a catalyst for empowering individuals to realize they can change anything in their lives. For over 30 years, he has encouraged people to view their differences as strengths, amplify their uniqueness, and fully embrace their greatness!
Buckle up, buttercup! We are approaching that time of year again. Depending on where you are in the world, the signals might look different. Maybe it’s the twinkling lights and looping carols, or perhaps it’s the frenetic energy of year-end deadlines, the chaotic rush of travel, or the impending gathering of extended families.
Regardless of what you celebrate, be it Christmas, Hanukkah, Solstice, or simply the closing of a calendar year, there is a collective global expectation that we should all be wrapped in a warm, fuzzy blanket of joy. But let’s be honest. For many of us, this season often feels less like a fairy tale and more like an energetic obstacle course.
Have you ever walked into a family gathering or a busy airport feeling ridiculously happy, vibrating at a high frequency, excited for what’s to come? And then BAM, you cross the threshold. Your father makes a comment about politics, your partner stresses about money, or you simply step into a crowded room, and poof, your happiness vanishes.
You feel it being yanked, sucked out, vibrated right out of you. Suddenly, you’re cranky, heavy, exhausted, and wondering why you even bothered. You probably blame yourself. You think, “Why am I so stressed? Why can’t I just relax? I should be grateful. What is wrong with me?” I have some news that might just be the best gift you receive this year. There is nothing wrong with you. Actually, what you are calling “stress,” “anxiety,” or “heaviness” is a sign of your superpower. You are a psychic radio receiver, and it is time to learn how to change the station.
The science of the tuning fork
Here is the science of the energetic world. Every thought, feeling, and emotion has a specific energetic vibration. Sadness vibrates differently than joy. Loneliness vibrates differently than exhilaration.
We are like human tuning forks. We go along, happily vibrating at our own lightness, and then we tap into another frequency. It might be your brother’s anger, your spouse’s anxiety, or the collective panic of millions of people worrying about the future of the world. And because you are far more aware than you think, you pick up on all those frequencies.
But here is the trap. Because we haven’t been taught how this works, we instinctively match that vibration. We entrain to it. We make it ours.
It doesn’t matter if you are a man conditioned to “fix” problems or a woman conditioned to “nurture” everyone. The result is the same. We have been taught that the heavy energies, the drama, the trauma, the seriousness, are more “real” than the lightness. So, we tune into the density of the world around us. We put on the heavy coat of our family’s dysfunction or society’s expectations, and we wear it as if it were our own skin.
It can feel extremely suffocating. I know that firsthand. It is essentially what made me want to leave this planet many years ago.
But what if the heaviness you feel this season isn’t yours?
What if the fatigue you feel walking through a shopping district isn’t yours?
What if the anger you feel watching the news isn’t yours?
What if the loneliness that creeps up on you when you finally get some time to yourself isn’t yours either?
Let that really sink in. This is like a law of the universe. Ninety-nine percent of your thoughts, feelings, and emotions do not belong to you.
You, my friend, are a psychic sponge. You have tuned into lifetimes of stuff you don’t need. You have accumulated so many ideas, judgments, and expectations from others that you haven’t seen a clear sky in ages.
If you don’t acknowledge this, you turn into a pressure cooker. But if you acknowledge it, you become free.
The game-changing tool: “Who does this belong to?”
I’d like to share one of the simplest and most effective tools for navigating the intensity of family, travel, and global expectations during this holiday. Want to try it? What do you have to lose? It’s a simple question that acts like a vacuum cleaner for your psyche.
Next time you’re stuck in a long line and feel frustrated, or sitting at the dinner table and feel a wave of sadness, pause. Don’t judge yourself. Don’t try to figure out why you feel this way. Don’t use your logical mind to find the source.
Just ask, “Who does this belong to?”
You don’t need a name. You don’t need to know if it’s your boss, your mother, or the person sitting three rows back on the plane. You just need to ask the question.
Here’s the key. Notice what happens to the energy when you ask. Does it get lighter? Does the heaviness lift, even a little? Do the clouds start to part?
If it softens, it’s not yours.
If it’s not yours, you can’t fix it. You can’t process it. You can’t analyze it away. The only thing you can do is acknowledge it and send it back.
So, if it lightens, say, “Return to sender with consciousness attached.”
Why consciousness attached? Because whoever it belongs to is the only one who can change it. Sending it back with awareness isn’t throwing garbage. It’s giving them the gift of clarity to handle their own stuff, so you don’t have to carry it for them.
The Yellow Sticky Note Technique
When I first received this tool, I didn’t really think it could change anything, but I still wrote “Is this mine?” on a yellow sticky note and put it by my bed. What did I have to lose?
The next morning, I woke up feeling the heaviness of it all, the world, me, my life. I was about to cry into my pillow. Then my eyes landed on that note, “Is this mine?”
A giant no screamed in my head. It was like a huge exhale. My whole morning shifted into a different vibration, an energy congruent with me, waking up to possibility.
I challenge you to try this. Put a sticky note on your bathroom mirror, dashboard, or laptop. Or tattoo it on your hand. Remind yourself that you are an aware being. When the overwhelm hits, look at that note. Ask the question.
The 3 day energetic cleanse
We talk a lot about dietary cleanses or “Dry January” after the festivities, but what about an energetic cleanse during the chaos? Would you be willing to try this for just three days? For three full days, ask “Who does this belong to?” for every single thought, feeling, and emotion that pops up. Even the ones that feel deeply personal. Even the anxiety that feels like “just who I am.”
If the energy lightens, return it to sender. And no, this really isn’t easy. You will dip in and out of remembering. You might do it for an hour, forget for three while you’re arguing over board games or stressing about a flight delay, and then pick it up again. That’s okay. It requires presence. But if you commit to this, at the end of that third day, your mind will be the lightest, clearest, most expansive open sky you can imagine.
Imagine sitting at a dinner table, totally aware of everyone’s crazy, but not affected by it. You are the lighthouse, not the boat crashing against the rocks.
Tuning into the universe (no, not the world!)
Once you stop carrying the weight of the thoughts and feelings of everyone around you, you create space. And this is where the real magic happens. This is where we upgrade your software from “Psychic Radio of the World” to “Psychic Radio of the Universe.”
Most of us have unknowingly trained ourselves to only tune into this “world,” the limited reality constructed by thoughts, feelings, judgments, and cultural beliefs. We measure everything against what the world says is possible.
The world says the holidays are stressful. The world says you have to spend money to show love. The world says family is a must, and you are a failure if your family isn’t picture perfect. The world says the end of the year is a time for judgment about what you didn’t get done this year, so you can judge yourself appropriately in the coming one.
It’s like we’re wearing psychic blinders. We’re stuck in this tiny box of stories and conclusions, missing the crazy, infinite possibilities of the universe all around us. The universe is so much bigger than this “world.” And since you are part of the universe, a huge, magnificent part, limiting your psychic abilities to this tiny world is self sabotage on a cosmic scale.
When you tune into the world, you get drama. When you tune into the universe, you get contribution.
What if you could disconnect your psychic antenna from the “Global Drama” channel and tune it to the “Universe of Possibility” channel?
Asking for miracles
We tend to define miracles as grand, dramatic events, winning the lottery or a sudden, massive change. When we define miracles through the lens of this world, we miss the daily miracles happening in our lives.
Living a miraculous life is about awareness and acknowledgment. It’s about seeing the magic in the mundane.
What if, this holiday, you started every morning by asking this:
“Hey Universe, if I were truly being me today, what would I choose? What can I create? What miracles can I receive today?”
Notice I didn’t say, “What can I fix?” or “How can I survive this family visit?”
When you ask the universe for miracles, you might find that the traffic clears just when you need it to. You might find that the difficult conversation you were dreading dissolves into laughter. You might find a moment of stillness amidst the chaos that brings you to tears of gratitude.
These are the whispers of the universe.
When you lower your barriers, when you stop resisting the crazy and start including everything without judgment, you tap into Oneness.
Oneness isn’t about everyone agreeing on politics or religion. It’s not about everyone holding hands and singing in perfect harmony. Oneness is the ability to receive everything and judge nothing. It includes the burnt food, the grumpy uncle, the crying toddler, the delay on the tarmac, and the joy, all simultaneously.
When you are in Oneness, you don’t have to fight against the reality of the situation. You flow through it. You become a walking, talking breath of fresh air.
Your invitation
Give these tools a real go this season. Use them in the chaos, in the quiet moments, and everywhere in between. You may be surprised by how quickly the heaviness lifts when you stop owning what was never yours. And who knows, you might just discover that the miracle you were waiting for was actually you, all along.
Your energetic survival kit for the holidays
Feeling the pressure? Clip this out and keep it handy for when the festive chaos tries to knock you off balance.
The golden rule of energy: Remember, 99% of your thoughts, feelings, and emotions do not belong to you. You are a psychic radio receiver picking up on the world around you. If you feel heavy, it’s a lie. If you feel light, it’s the truth for you.
The “Is this mine?” question: Whenever you feel a sudden shift in mood, anger, sadness, stress, or fatigue, stop and ask, “Who does this belong to?” Don’t look for an answer. Just notice the energy. If you feel even a tiny bit lighter, it isn’t yours.
Return to sender: Once you realize it’s not yours, don’t analyze it. Just say, in your head or out loud, “Return to sender with consciousness attached.” Visualize that heavy energy leaving your body and going back to where it came from.
The morning miracle tune in: Before you get out of bed and check your phone, tune your radio dial to the universe. Ask, “Hey Universe, if I were truly being me today, what would I choose? What can I create? What miracles can I receive today?”
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Dr. Dain Heer, Speaker and Author
Having grown up in a challenging environment in Los Angeles, Dain faced constant adversity but chose resilience over victimhood. His determination to create positive change has fueled every aspect of his work, from facilitating global classes to authoring books and developing business ventures embodying benevolent capitalism principles.
Dain draws from his personal experience to inspire individuals from all walks of life to create the money, happiness, and life they truly desire. In his talks and workshops, he offers a set of tools and step-by-step energetic processes that help people break free from limiting conclusions and judgments, guiding them toward a place of choice and transformative change.
As a conscious and innovative business leader, Dain’s passion for possibilities and creating a better planet fuels all of his projects, including Castello di Casalborgone, a luxurious castle in Italy restored to its former glory, a thriving ranch in Houston, and EL Lugar, a fully sustainable eco-retreat in Costa Rica, designed in harmony with the earth.
