This Too Shall Come To Pass – Stories Of Courage, Pain, Resilience And Freedom
- Dec 27, 2021
- 6 min read
Updated: Dec 28, 2021
Written by: Selina Cheshire, Executive Contributor
Executive Contributors at Brainz Magazine are handpicked and invited to contribute because of their knowledge and valuable insight within their area of expertise.
Are you having a mental struggle and feel like you are on a rollercoaster ride and the future is unclear? Are you asking yourself why am I having this experience why am I choosing this experience?
My name is Selina Cheshire. I am a mother I am an author I am a wellness coach, I am a cancer survivor, Hodgkin’s Lymphoma stage 4 and I was divorced after 7 years of marriage, young but it became a blessing.
I was on the verge of giving up on life after I looked in the mirror to find that I was just skin and bones, my eyes were sunken in yet so big, my skin was unbelievably dark, yes, I know I am dark but that was something else. I was in extreme pain. I found myself going through a tunnel, and yet when I looked at my daughter, begging me to stay, I decided to give life another chance, needed to be there to support her and my son, to hold and play with my grandchildren.
When I was lying on the hospital bed, a lot of dark thoughts were going through my mind, thoughts of a nasty divorce that left me with nothing, thoughts of losing my mom when I was only 14 years old, living a life without anyone to direct me or cheer me on, thoughts of dying without leaving anything, no legacy for the future generation challenged me.
Who here has ever experienced loss of a loved one through death or through divorce? Which one do you think is better? I am sure you will agree with me that when the person you love makes you feel unworthy, death would be better. You might be confused like I was before, living in the environment I knew, unworthy or going out there and paint your own canvas? My own canvas looked more enticing, so I took a leap of faith and left the marriage bed. I asked for a divorce for my sanity’s sake and for my kids. I did not want to die leaving my children on their own, I had to do it for them even though I had no clue how I was going to survive because I had no job, no qualifications but I just trusted the universe, trusted God my creator. I had my sewing machine and my faith.
After leaving the marriage home, I had no clue where I was going and who was going to give me shelter while I was trying to map out a way. My first thought was my brother’s, eldest one. I stayed one week then went to Mozambique, Beira for a week swimming in the Indian Ocean. This was an amazing time because it helped me clear a lot from my thoughts and relax a bit, thanks to my friend Emilia Reid whose parents lived in Beira and could accommodate me. After a week of fun, I went back to reality.
As if I was not going through confusion and stress, my brother’s in-laws saw it fit to chase me from their sister’s home because they thought I was not a fit to be in their environment, I had to go, and no one cared. I went to another brother who lived in another city, stayed for a few months and the wife again came after me and chased me out of their home. I became homeless and the systems in my country of origin, they do not have anything they could offer me. I just had to survive through the sympathy of family members. I went to an aunt, her house was a bit small, so her daughter felt sorry for me and offered me temporary accommodation in her house. To cut the story short, I ended up being able to get my own place and opened a repair and sewing shop!!!! This was an exciting time for me, who could have ever dreamt that one day I could look after myself and be someone else.
I changed my mind, stopped feeling sorry for myself. I took a big leap of faith and went to train as a teacher, worked for 3 years and left teaching for other reasons even though I enjoyed teaching. I moved countries and ended up in England and had no clue about how things worked. I ended up as an asylum seeker and stayed a life of being looked after by the government for a few years. I hated it because I was now used at looking after myself.
In 2008 I got my freedom and started working as a Christian Science Nurse. I enjoyed it so much that I was offering my services to everyone and anyone in the U.K. I was driving around and flying as needed. I stopped looking after myself, neglecting the things I was taught when growing up, cooking and spending time with family. I only thought about making money, feeding others such that my body ended up giving in. I developed cancer and that was a toll order, wake-up call. I am here today because I had to take drastic actions, I had to change my lifestyle and had to do it fast. Unfortunately, I did not have any idea that I could get help from coaches/counselors who had been trained to do so. The reason I wanted to be a Wellness Coach was to serve others, and to share knowledge of the power of mind with those who are not aware of it.
The are two ways to learn these earthly lessons which I have come to understand. The hard and long way is unconsciously through pain and suffering. The fast and pleasant way is through consciously seeking the appropriate knowledge and growing in the appropriate season. If you can use the seasons wisely, your life will be a lot smoother and empowered for you.
You might be surprised to see that your thoughts are everything. Take a moment and look around you, everything you see started as an idea, and grew as it was shared and expressed, until it grew into a physical object. You become what you think about. Your life can be what you are imagining and believing in. The world is literally your mirror, enabling you to experience in the physical plane what you hold or carry as truth – until you change it. This is true internally and you know it, and most people do, and is the reason most people know instinctively that positive or right thinking works.
I am here because I changed my thoughts about who I was. I was not a sick a person, but my body was reacting to something that I was putting in it, I was doing something wrong, I needed to change everything I was doing to make it work for me. I began to see myself as a happy, healthy and free individual. You can change your situation and begin to live a life on your own terms by takin charge of your own health and you will become unstoppable.
What would it look like if you were able to get past your limitation and insecurity? Just imagine walking in the woods, walking by the lake, sea or even a river, reconnecting with yourself? How would you feel?
I know this is possible because I was there. I thought I had reached a point of no return; I was lying to myself. The moment I changed my mind, my thoughts, everything went in my favour. You are powerful and nothing can stop you from achieving what you want in this life. Take charge, you are worthy, you are precious. Never allow someone’s opinions about you to control who you are.
Do not forget I am a coach and here to help. I am on Facebook, Instagram, and LinkedIn as Selina Cheshire. Let’s do this together and glad and excited to serve. And visit my website for more info!
Selina Cheshire, Executive Contributor Brainz Magazine
At the age of 14, Selina was requested to look after her young siblings when her mum was on her death bed. She married young because she thought it could help her brothers in a better way, being a married woman. She married for the wrong reason, divorced early with nothing but her sewing machine. She became obsessed with upgrading herself and ended up in the U.K. all alone. With courage and persistence, she changed the status quo, survived stage 4 Hodgkin’s Lymphoma. Now she is teaching others to love themselves regardless, sharing her story as a speaker and coach around the globe. She is dedicated to empowering 1 million women in her lifetime.
