The Way of Play – Building Brains, Bonds, and Better Futures
- Brainz Magazine
- Jun 10
- 3 min read
Sarah Fernandez, a distinguished Psychologist and Certified Youth Mental Health Specialist, is known for her work in empowering young minds. She is the founder of S. Fernandez Center for Wellness and the author of the journal books, Mindful Moments (2023) for children and Understanding Me (2025) for adolescents.
In our fast-paced world of schedules, screens, and endless to-do lists, we often overlook one of the most powerful tools for helping children grow, learn, and thrive: play. While it may appear to be simple fun or a way to pass the time, play is essential for a child. It is their language, their classroom, and their safe space all in one.
What is play?
At its core, play is a voluntary, joyful, and meaningful activity that allows children to explore their environment, express their thoughts and emotions, and make sense of the world around them. It is not merely an activity, it is a vital process that supports every aspect of a child’s development.
Types of play
Understanding the different types of play helps adults support children more effectively:
1. Free play
This is child-initiated and led. It has no set rules or outcomes and often unfolds naturally. Whether dressing up in costumes, building with blocks, or inventing stories with dolls or action figures, free play encourages creativity, independence, imagination, and self-expression.
2. Adult-child collaborative play
In this type of play, the adult enters the child’s world without taking control. The adult follows the child’s lead, engages with curiosity, and shares in the experience. This fosters trust, enhances communication, and strengthens the emotional bond between individuals.
3. Adult-planned and directed play
Here, the adult takes the lead in organising structured activities with specific learning goals. Examples include board games, educational activities, or guided role-play. This type of play helps teach teamwork, turn-taking, and following instructions.
Play is a child’s first language
Children may not always have the vocabulary to express how they feel but they act it out through play. Toys become their words, and stories become their sentences. Through play, children communicate their fears, joys, hopes, and challenges.
As the saying goes: “When children can’t say it, they play it.”
This makes play not just a form of expression, but also a window into a child’s emotional world. By observing and engaging in their play, adults can better understand and support their emotional needs.
Play builds the brain
Play is not just fun, it's brain food. Research shows that play enhances cognitive functions such as memory, attention, and problem-solving. It lays the foundation for academic learning and equips children with the mental flexibility to navigate life’s challenges.
Emotional growth through play
Play also fosters emotional development. It allows children to:
Safely experience emotions
Recognise and name what they feel
Learn how to manage and express emotions
Make better decisions
Through pretend play and role-playing, children learn to manage frustration, disappointment, and conflict. These "emotional rehearsals" help build resilience and confidence.
Play connects and heals
Beyond cognitive and emotional benefits, play fosters a profound sense of connection and security. It strengthens relationships, creates space for open communication, and helps children feel seen and valued. For those who have experienced stress, trauma, or emotional struggles, play can be profoundly therapeutic.
Are you promoting play?
Many parents and caregivers wonder: “How can I help my child learn or behave better?” One of the simplest yet most impactful answers is: to play with them.
It doesn’t take expensive toys or elaborate setups. What matters most is your presence.
Ask yourself:
Do I take time to play with my child?
Am I allowing space for unstructured, free play?
Am I engaging with my child’s interests with curiosity and care?
By making play a part of your daily connection with your child, you're not only having fun but also supporting their development in powerful, lasting ways.
Play is not a luxury, it is a necessity. Through play, children discover who they are, learn how to relate to others, and figure out how to navigate the world.
Let’s make a conscious effort to prioritise play in our homes, schools, and communities. Because when we make time for play, we don’t just raise children we raise thinkers, feelers, dreamers, and doers.
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Sarah Fernandez, Psychologist | Youth Mental Health Specialist | Advocate for Children and Adolescents
Sarah Fernandez, Psychologist, discovered her passion for youth mental health after witnessing her younger sister struggle with anxiety and panic attacks. Seeing her sister suffer in silence ignited Sarah’s desire to understand what was happening beneath the surface. She dedicated her studies to exploring mental health and brain development in children and adolescents. Today, she is committed to giving a voice to young people like her sister, ensuring they are seen, heard, and supported.
