Why Women Must Learn to Love Themselves Fully
- Brainz Magazine
- Aug 7
- 3 min read
Written by Samantha Sphinx, Life Coach
Samantha Sphinx, founder of Athalia Restoration, and I, Samantha Sphinx, help others transform their lives and homes. Her diverse experiences fuel her passion for restoring lives and creating sustainable futures for all humanity.
There is a quiet revolution happening within the hearts of women across the world, a rising, a remembering. It doesn’t roar at first. It whispers through our bodies, pulses in our intuition, and aches in our bones. It’s the knowing that we were never meant to live small, silent, or in service to systems that taught us to disconnect from our bodies and our truth.
We were born powerful. But that power was conditioned out of us through generations of patriarchy, religious shame, cultural expectations, and unspoken rules about what it means to be a “good woman.” We were taught to abandon our needs to please others, to chase perfection over pleasure, to suppress our desires, and to disconnect from our sensuality in order to be accepted, approved, or chosen.
But what if the very thing we've been taught to fear, our power, is the thing that sets us free?
Reading Pussy: A Reclamation by Regina Thomashauer was a portal for me. For the first time, I felt permission to truly honor my body, my sensuality, my pleasure, and the innate power that lives between my hips. Regina reminds us that our “pussy” is not a vulgar word but a sacred one. It's the seat of our life-force, our intuition, our creativity, and our magnetic pull. When a woman connects to her pussy, not just sexually, but spiritually, she returns to herself.
Then Existential Kink by Carolyn Elliott came along and shattered even more illusions. She taught me that we don’t just heal by focusing on the light, we heal by embracing our shadows: our jealousy, our guilt, our rage, our secret desires, the parts of us we’ve judged or tried to hide. When we stop resisting them and begin to find pleasure in all of who we are, we unlock a level of freedom that is indescribable.
It’s not always easy. The path back to ourselves requires bravery. It asks us to question everything we've been told, to unlearn shame, to let go of comparison, and to stop measuring our worth by how desirable or productive we are. It requires us to sit with ourselves, quietly, honestly, and listen to the voice beneath the noise. The voice that says: You are already enough. You’ve always been enough.
When we begin to love ourselves, not just in theory, but in practice, everything changes.
We stop looking for validation from people who don’t see our light.
We stop accepting crumbs when we are at the feast.
We stop waiting to be chosen and realize that we choose ourselves.
And when a woman fully chooses herself, body, mind, soul, and spirit, she becomes unfuckwithable. She doesn’t need to fight for power. She is the power. Her energy speaks before she does. Her boundaries become sacred. Her dreams expand. Her reality shifts.
This is not about ego. It’s about embodiment. It’s about deep, spiritual, sensual self-love. The kind that doesn’t require permission, approval, or performance. The kind that radiates from within and draws in everything aligned with her truth.
And the world responds to that. It must.
So I say to you, sister, let go. Let go of the guilt. Let go of the fear. Let go of trying to be what they told you to be. You were never meant to live inside a box. You are wild. You are wise. You are worthy of a life that turns you on and lights you up.
Reclaim your body. Reclaim your voice. Reclaim your pussy power.
Because once you love you, fully, unapologetically, the world can’t help but love you back.
Samantha Sphinx, Life Coach
Samantha Sphinx is unapologetically candid and empowers others to transform their lives and homes to improve their overall quality of life. Her diverse background, spanning healthcare, fitness, interior design, home renovation, and DIY, fuels her passion for guiding individuals toward healthier, more fulfilling lives. She's dedicated to restoring lives and homes. Connect to learn more.
