Why Change Feels Hard for Busy Working Women and How to Break the Cycle for Good
- Brainz Magazine
- 5 days ago
- 4 min read
Updated: 5 days ago
Written by Vinitha Edward, Life Transformation Coach
Vinitha Edward is a Life Transformation Coach and Founder of Transform & Thrive, empowering women to build meaningful habits and shift their mindset through journaling. She inspires women to embrace personal growth and create lasting transformation in their lives.
Change is something most women desire, including healthier routines, better focus, more balance, deeper confidence, or simply more time for themselves. Yet even with strong intentions, the follow-through often feels impossible. This is not because women lack discipline, but because they live in a constant loop of responsibilities, emotional labor, and mental overload. Understanding why change feels difficult is the first step toward creating a life that feels aligned instead of overwhelming.
The hidden struggle: Wanting change while feeling stuck
Even when you want to wake up earlier, take care of your wellbeing, or pursue a personal goal, something pulls you back.
Your body feels tired
Your household needs you
Your routine feels repetitive
Your mind is overstimulated
Work drains your mental space
Distractions steal your focus
By the time you get a moment of peace, exhaustion overshadows motivation.
You want change, but your daily reality keeps you in survival mode.
Why this happens and how to break free
1. The comfort zone: A safe space that becomes a silent barrier
Most working women do not stay in their comfort zone because they are unmotivated. They stay because they are already carrying too much. The brain prefers predictable, energy-saving routines, and when you are stretched thin, change feels like another burden.
Try this instead:
Start with one micro change per week
Use habit stacking
Celebrate tiny steps
Small discomforts signal growth, not danger.
2. Distraction and mental overload: When your brain is too full to focus
Distraction is not a discipline problem, it is a cognitive overload problem. Your mind juggles work, household responsibilities, emotional labor, constant decisions, and nonstop notifications.
How to regain focus:
Use 10 to 20-minute focus windows
Turn off non-essential notifications for one hour
Keep your phone out of reach during important tasks
Set environment cues such as timers, post-its, or a clear desk
Focus is a skill supported by structure, not pressure.
3. Old belief systems: The silent rules shaping your life
Every woman carries beliefs formed by culture, childhood, workplaces, and past experiences. Common beliefs include:
“I’m not good enough.”
“Others know more than me.”
“My ideas won’t matter.”
“I must be perfect.”
Rewrite your script. Ask:
Is this belief true or simply familiar?
Where did it come from
What belief supports the woman I am becoming
When beliefs shift, actions shift.
4. Low self-esteem and comparison: The quiet confidence killers
Many women minimize their achievements and magnify others. Social media, workplace standards, and lack of appreciation amplify this.
Rebuild self-worth:
Keep a weekly wins journal
Celebrate micro achievements
Acknowledge invisible emotional labor
Value progress over perfection
Self-esteem grows through consistent self-recognition.
5. Low energy levels: The most overlooked barrier
Energy is not just physical. It is hormonal, emotional, and mental. Chronic fatigue makes change feel impossible.
Energy-aware planning:
Do important tasks during high-energy hours
Use low-energy times for slower tasks
Rest without guilt
Support your hormonal health
Your energy is your compass.
6. Planning vs. execution: Why to-do lists fail busy women
Perfect plans break down when life gets unpredictable. Execution struggles come from:
Overscheduling
Decision fatigue
Emotional overload
Unrealistic expectations
Use micro planning:
Plan one day at a time.
Choose two priority tasks.
Add one self-care non-negotiable.
Leave buffer time.
Plans should support your real life.
7. Confidence that depends on recognition
Many women wait for external validation before they feel confident, but external validation is inconsistent.
Build internal confidence:
Keep small promises to yourself.
Speak up one more time than usual.
Improve one skill per month.
Act before you feel ready.
Confidence comes from action.
8. Difficulty with consistency: A system problem, not a personal failure
Women don’t struggle with consistency, they struggle with systems that don’t match their reality.
Build consistency through ease:
Reduce your goals.
Make habits tiny and doable.
Track weekly, not daily.
Allow flexibility.
Consistency is built through sustainability, not perfection.
9. Imposter syndrome: The fear of being not enough
Many working women quietly feel unqualified, despite being highly capable. Imposter syndrome grows when you:
Compare yourself
Try to do everything
Chase perfection
Avoid risks
Shift into self belief:
Focus on one project or habit at a time.
Teach or share what you know.
Track small wins.
Choose progress over perfection.
Action dissolves impostor feelings.
10. Commitment: The daily practice that makes change real
Many women want change but struggle to stay committed because their lives are already overflowing. Commitment becomes harder when you:
Wake up tired
Put everyone else first
Lose momentum during busy weeks
Delay starting
Feel guilty prioritizing yourself
Build real commitment:
Choose one daily non negotiable for five to ten minutes.
Anchor habits to existing routines.
Prepare small things in advance.
Set a must finish list today with one to two actions.
End each day with a two-minute self-reflection.
Expect progress, not perfection.
Commitment grows through tiny daily promises.
The real truth about change for busy women
Change is not a dramatic life overhaul. It is a collection of small, intentional shifts repeated with care.
Change is:
Allowing yourself to grow slowly
Resting without guilt
Taking up space
Balancing life with compassion
Stepping out of comfort zones gently
You don’t need stricter discipline. You need clarity, structure, and self-kindness.
Your future self doesn’t want perfection, she wants intention. If you are a busy woman ready to break old patterns and build habits that truly stick, book a transformation session with me. Book here.
We will identify what is holding you back and create a simple, personalized plan that fits your real life. Your transformation starts now, your future self is waiting.
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Vinitha Edward, Life Transformation Coach
Vinitha Edward is a Certified Life Transformation Coach and Founder of Transform & Thrive, a platform that empowers women to create meaningful habits and mindset shifts through journaling and conscious living. She helps women overcome obstacles, build confidence, and find balance through intentional growth. Blending practical strategies with emotional awareness, Vinitha guides clients to move from feeling stuck to thriving with purpose. Her mission is to transform lives one step at a time.
