When Self-Doubt Takes a Seat at the Table – 5 Ways to Manage It
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Written by Naomi Pereira, Career and Leadership Coach
Naomi is an ICF-accredited coach and HR leader whose 15+ years of experience across Financial services enable a practical, insider's perspective on workplace dynamics, leadership, and career growth. Naomi founded N.Pathcoaching, offering coaching to mid-career professionals on building confidence and lifting performance to drive career growth.
Self-doubt at work shows up at every level, even in the boardroom. If you have ever watched others speak up, step forward, or progress and wondered why confidence seems effortless for them, this article is for you. Learn how to give self-doubt a seat at the table without letting it lead your agenda.
What is self-doubt?
Nearly every mid-career professional I coach comes face-to-face with self-doubt at some point in their career. It is the gap between what you are capable of and what you believe you are capable of in the moment. It is that gap, not your ability, that holds so many talented people back.
How does it show up at work?
In the workplace, it is amplified by the perceptions of others and can take on a superhuman force that blocks out rational thought. In the race to impress, we put the opinions of others ahead of what we know to be true about our own skills.
Self-doubt makes us overthink a comment in a meeting, hesitate before speaking up, question whether we are ready for the next step, or conclude that we are simply not good enough. It even has a seat in the boardroom.
This always surprises people, but having partnered with some exceptionally talented executive leaders, I can tell you that self-doubt knows no bounds. The only difference is that these leaders have learned to make their self-doubt work for them.
5 practical ways to make self-doubt work for you
Embrace the vulnerability: Self-doubt exists to protect us. It can stop us in our tracks and make us question ourselves, but if we do not let it consume us, it can lead to greater self-awareness. That awareness is an important leadership quality, one that narcissistic personality types tend to lack. So listen to what your self-doubt is telling you and share your vulnerabilities with those around you. It is not weakness. It is honesty.
Personify it: One way to reduce the power of self-doubt is to separate it from your identity. Personify it. Give it a name, and notice what it tells you, when it appears, and what it might be protecting you from. This helps you separate the emotion from who you are and from what you are trying to achieve.
Reframe it as growth: Self-doubt often creeps in when we step outside our comfort zone, particularly when we do not have all the answers. Maybe you have taken on a new role, are leading a high-profile project, or are simply facing a brand-new situation. Reframe that feeling as part of your growth, and self-doubt becomes a tool for your development rather than a barrier.
Stop hiding behind it: When self-doubt takes over, we move into avoidance territory, telling ourselves, “I’m not going for the job because it’s not the right time,” or “I said no to leading the project because it’s just not me.” We convince ourselves that there is a plausible explanation for why we cannot do something when the real driver is fear of failure. If you are anything like me, that offers only temporary relief before it turns into disappointment. When you catch yourself making excuses, note them down so you can see the patterns. This may help you uncover the truth you are hiding from yourself.
Validate the story: When self-doubt leads you to a conclusion, such as “I’m not good enough,” “I shouldn’t have said that,” or “I’m not ready,” pause and test it. What are you basing that on? What else could be true? What evidence supports a different interpretation? If the conclusion cannot be validated, it may be self-doubt shaping the story rather than reality presenting the facts.
Final thoughts on self-doubt at work
Self-doubt at work does not need to determine the direction of your career. In fact, I encourage you to see it as a leveller, shared by an entry-level graduate just as much as by a CEO.
When we learn to recognise it, test it, and keep it in perspective, it drives growth and self-awareness. At N.Path Coaching, I work with mid-career professionals to take more deliberate ownership of the inner narratives that shape how they show up.
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Naomi Pereira, Career and Leadership Coach
Naomi Pereira is a senior HR Leader across financial services and media, bringing deep insight into the realities of workplace dynamics, leadership, and career growth. Once a quiet achiever who stayed in the shadows, she set out on a path to support others early on in their careers, to rise above the labels, hierarchy, and limiting beliefs that can hold you back at work. As an accredited ICF coach and founder of N.Pathcoaching, Naomi offers a safe space for her clients to explore the challenges that they quietly carry at work – that boldly impact their potential - like self-doubt, a toxic manager, burnout or workplace change, so they can take their next step with confidence and clarity.
