Reclaiming Joy in the Body You Have – 3 Steps to Release Body Shame and Honor Your Temple
- Brainz Magazine
- Aug 29
- 5 min read
Jasmine is an exceptional Trauma-informed Emotional Eating Holistic Health and Wellness Coach who gracefully manages her roles as a dedicated mother, wife, and leader in various church ministries. Her journey is marked by notable accomplishments, such as co-authoring two Amazon number 1 Best-Selling books and attaining the esteemed title of a number 1 International best-seller.
You don't always talk about it, but you feel it. That quiet pressure to change, slim down, tighten up, especially when seasons shift and the world starts talking about "beach bodies," summer wardrobes, and cleanses to get you "back on track." The messages are everywhere, and they're not subtle. By the time warmer weather arrives, it can feel like your body is being held up for review.
Even if you know better, even if you've grown spiritually and emotionally, you might still carry a lingering sense that your body must look a certain way before you can feel free in it.
But freedom was never meant to begin with appearance. It begins with perspective.
You were never called to obsess over your image. You were called to live, serve, and move in alignment with the woman God created you to be. That includes your body, not as a project to fix, but as a temple to honor.
If you've felt disconnected from your body or pressured to change it to be more "acceptable," let this be a gentle turning point. There is a way to care for your health that is rooted in grace, not shame. It begins with three steps that can help you return to peace.
1. Identify and release the lies
Before you can rebuild trust with your body, you must recognize what broke it.
Somewhere along the way, you began believing that your body was not quite right. Maybe it was something someone said. Maybe it was years of dieting, striving, or measuring your worth by a mirror. You may not even remember when it began, but you've carried the weight of it ever since.
Cultural lies about beauty and fitness are deafening. They don't just affect how you see yourself; they shape how you show up in the world. They keep you from saying yes to what God is calling you toward. They convince you that shrinking is safer than being seen.
But those lies are not from God.
Here's what to do: Take time to identify the specific messages you've internalized about your body. Write them down. Notice how they sound in your mind: harsh, critical, demanding. Then speak truth over each one: "My body is not my enemy. My worth is not determined by my appearance. I am fearfully and wonderfully made."
Your body was never meant to be a battleground, a distraction, or your source of shame. Begin letting those lies go, one truth at a time.
2. Anchor your identity in spiritual truth
When you look at your body, what do you see? More importantly, what are you looking for?
If you're searching for evidence that you're behind or broken, you will find it. But if you're looking for signs of design, purpose, and dignity, you will find that too.
Scripture reminds you that your body is not an afterthought. It is fearfully and wonderfully made (Psalm 139:14). It is a temple, not because of how it looks, but because of who dwells within (1 Corinthians 6:19-20).
This means you can stop measuring yourself by the world's standards. You can stop waiting to "fix" yourself before finding peace.
Here's what to do: Create new daily practices that reinforce your true identity. Begin each morning by thanking God for your body and its capabilities. Replace critical self-talk with scripture-based affirmations. When you catch yourself in comparison or criticism, pause and ask: "How does God see me right now?"
Honoring your temple isn't about controlling it. It's about caring for it with reverence. It's not about living in fear of others' perceptions. It's about living in alignment with who God says you are.
3. Cultivate compassionate action
Lasting change doesn't start with harsh rules. It starts with kindness.
If you want to feel different in your body, you must relate to it differently. Choose compassion over criticism, presence over perfection, and grace over grinding willpower.
True care happens in small, consistent actions, choosing to walk because it feels good, not as punishment; nourishing your body with foods that energize rather than restricting out of fear; resting when you need it instead of pushing through exhaustion. These aren't signs of giving up. They are signs of living from wholeness, not lack.
Here's what to do: Ask yourself these three questions daily:
What would it look like to care for my body with love, not fear?
What rhythms truly support both my well-being and my calling?
What spaces have I avoided, photos, social events, conversations, because shame was making the decisions?
Then take one small, loving action based on your answers. Maybe it's taking a gentle walk, preparing a nourishing meal, or saying yes to that invitation you've been avoiding.
You don't need to wait for a new season to reclaim joy in the body you have. It begins now, in how you speak, how you move, and how you honor what God has already given you.
Your ongoing journey to reclaim joy
This path will not always feel linear. You'll have days when old thoughts resurface and you're tempted to turn against yourself again. When that happens, remember: You are not starting over. You are simply returning to truth, to grace, to the sacred space of your own body.
Your health is not a trend, a size, or a formula. It's a reflection of how you choose to live, serve, and steward what God has entrusted to you.
If you find yourself wanting support as you navigate this journey, someone to help you identify those lies, anchor your identity in truth, or develop compassionate rhythms that truly serve you, know that you don't have to walk this path alone. Sometimes, having a guide who understands both the spiritual and practical aspects of this work can make all the difference.
Let this be your gentle invitation, not to try harder, but to come home.
Back to the temple you've been given. Back to the truth that never changed. Back to the joy that's waiting for you, right where you are.
Jasmine Kelly-Stephens, IIN Holistic Health and Wellness Coach
Jasmine is an exceptional Trauma-informed Emotional Eating Holistic Health and Wellness Coach who gracefully manages her roles as a dedicated mother, wife, and leader in various church ministries. Her journey is marked by notable accomplishments, such as co-authoring two Amazon Number 1 Best-Selling books and attaining the esteemed title of a Number 1 International best-seller.
Jasmine's personal story spans several decades, interwoven with the trials of comfort, stress, and emotional eating. This deeply personal struggle propels her unwavering commitment to addressing the emotional eating crisis, and guiding women towards healing, restoration, and liberation. At the heart of her mission is the empowerment of women, helping them liberate themselves from the chains of shame and guilt linked to emotional eating, all while drawing on her expertise in trauma-informed care. Through this transformative process, women rediscover their relationship with food and their bodies, embracing a journey of self-love and acceptance that brings forth renewed energy, freedom, and confidence to fulfill their divine callings within the Kingdom.
Jasmine firmly believes that the healing experienced by women extends its positive ripples outward, fostering healthier relationships within families and communities. This ripple effect creates a transformative impact for everyone involved. While Jasmine offers personalized coaching tailored for Christian women entrepreneurs, her passion knows no bounds. Actively spreading the message of transformation through speaking engagements and workshops, she aims to reach anyone open to the journey toward healing and well-being.
