How to Lead Without a Title and Earn Respect at Every Stage of Your Career
- Brainz Magazine
- May 27
- 5 min read
Updated: Jun 26
Chris Lally is the Founder and Executive Leadership Coach of Lally Coaching & Consulting and an Independent Certified Executive Director of the Maxwell Leadership Team. With over a decade of executive experience in acquisition, policy, and organizational strategy, he helps leaders grow influence, lead with integrity, and drive impact.
You don’t need a title to lead. In this article, I share real-life lessons from my journey—from paramedic to federal executive and Leadership coach—on influencing others, growing professionally, and earning respect at every career stage. These insights will help you lead with confidence, integrity, and purpose, whether entry-level or aspiring to lead.
From paramedic to public service: The unexpected start of my leadership journey
I worked full-time as a paramedic when I entered federal service through the Air Force Copper Cap program. I wasn't fresh out of school—I was transitioning from a demanding, high-stakes environment into government contracting. I didn't have a title or authority, but I had a choice: wait until I was "in charge" or start leading by example.
Early on, I noticed inefficiencies in our workflow—bottlenecks that frustrated the team and our mission. I didn't wait to be asked. I started suggesting improvements, documenting processes, and even coaching newer interns who came in behind me. No one permitted me to lead, but no one needed to. I realized that Leadership is earned through action and attitude and is not granted by position.
One of the earliest leadership principles I connected with came from Dr. John C. Maxwell, who said, “Leadership is influence, nothing more, nothing less.” That line stuck with me, but what gave it meaning was applying it in real-time without a safety net. I wasn't influenced from the top—I was learning to lead from within.
Choosing growth over approval: The career-changing shift
Like many young professionals, I initially thought climbing the ladder was about proving my worth to others. I wanted to be seen as capable, impressive, and promotable. But the real turning point came when I realized Leadership isn't built on praise but on growth.
One of the most defining lessons came when I volunteered to lead a high-visibility sourcing project early in my career—one that several more experienced colleagues had quietly passed on. But I said yes anyway. Within weeks, I navigated outdated data, conflicting stakeholder expectations, and the pressure that kept me at night.
At one point, I made a judgment call that delayed part of the timeline. I owned the decision, but I also owned the consequences. I had to brief Leadership, revise the approach, and rebuild internal trust. It was uncomfortable, humbling, and precisely what I needed.
That failure became a mirror: Was I in this to be praised or to get better?
From that moment on, I started chasing growth instead of approval. I sought out mentors who challenged me. I asked for feedback that didn’t always feel good. I accepted assignments others avoided. I leaned into discomfort because I knew that was where transformation lived.
Zig Ziglar once said, “You don’t have to be great to start, but you have to start to be great.” That quote reminded me that momentum begins with movement – not perfection. So, I kept showing up, learning, and doing the hard things when no one else was watching.
That mindset helped me earn a reputation for delivering results and doing so with integrity, resilience, and grit. Eventually, that led to my promotion to Contracting Officer and leading a team of supervisors and specialists as a division chief. But the habits that earned those roles were built long before I had a title.
Why real leaders serve first – and lead second
Now, as an Acquisition Support Division Chief, I see leadership through a different lens – one I wish I had understood much earlier. Leadership isn't about power; it's about responsibility. It's not about directing others; it's about serving them.
Dr. Martin Luther King Jr. said beautifully: “Everybody can be great because anybody can serve.” I carry that truth with me daily. Leadership means asking, “How can I help you succeed?” rather than “What can you do for me?”
Some of the most meaningful moments in my current role haven’t come from high-level strategy or big-picture planning. They’ve come from quiet, intentional conversations—when I paused to listen to a team member who felt overlooked or when I advocated for someone's promotion before they even believed they were ready. Leadership often shines in the quiet moments. It's about creating space for others to thrive. I remember a team member who felt disheartened by some feedback. Instead of sidestepping the issue, I leaned in and asked, "How can I best support you right now – with clarity, confidence, or coaching?" It's amazing what a little encouragement can do! That simple question opened the door to a deeper conversation and allowed us to identify both the support they needed and the strengths they hadn't yet recognized in themselves.
That approach became part of what I now call my “3C Servant Leadership Check-In”:
Clarity – Have I made expectations, priorities, or feedback clear?
Confidence – Am I building their belief in themselves?
Coaching – Am I offering guidance that helps them grow, not just get it done?
This simple framework helps me stay anchored in service, especially during busy days when leadership could easily become transformational.
Great leaders are not gatekeepers—they are door-openers. They remove obstacles, create clarity, foster trust, and take ownership of outcomes—even when things go wrong. I aim to do that every day—not perfectly, but intentionally. Serving first isn't just a leadership philosophy—it's the only kind of Leadership that truly lasts.
What to remember when you’re leading without authority
If you're reading this and wondering if you have what it takes to lead, you do!
Remember, you don't need a title to be a leader. This realization can empower you and give you the confidence to step up and make a difference.
Understand that you don't need permission to serve others. This freedom allows you to act on your altruistic instincts, positively impacting without waiting for validation.
Realize that you don't have to wait for someone to permit you to act with integrity, courage, and purpose. It takes courage to act on your values, but this determination sets you apart as a leader.
Start where you are. Show up. Speak up. Look for ways to contribute, improve, and elevate others. As leadership coach Robin Sharma said, “Leadership is not about a title or a designation. It’s about impact, influence, and inspiration.” Leadership is not a finish line – it’s a series of intentional choices made day after day. And often, it begins the moment you stop waiting.
Ready to lead without the title?
Whether you're just starting your career or stepping into a new leadership role, remember this: Leadership isn't about the position – it's about the purpose. You don't need a title to lead but the courage to show up, grow, and serve with intention.
From paramedic to federal executive and certified leadership coach, I've lived this path and learned that the most respected leaders influence from the inside out.
If you're ready to grow your influence, elevate your impact, and step confidently into your next season of Leadership – without waiting for a title – let's connect.
Visit Lally Coaching & Consulting, LLC, and start your leadership transformation today.
Christopher Lally, Business Owner and Executive Leadership Coach
Christopher Lally is the Founder & Principal Leadership Coach of Lally Coaching & Consulting and an Independent Executive Director of the Maxwell Leadership Team. With over a decade of executive experience in acquisition, policy, and team leadership, Chris specializes in helping professionals lead with clarity, integrity, and influence. He partners with corporate clients and individuals to deliver a customized coaching, training, and leadership development solution. Chris brings a values-based, result-driven approach to every engagement, drawing from real-world leadership challenges and proven frameworks. His mission is to equip leaders to rise, lead from the high road, and create lasting impacts.
