From Stress to Greater Calm and Serenity
Updated: Mar 26
Dr. Sandra Veronika Gross is a healing practitioner specialized in subconscious transformation and energy medicine. She holds a PhD in Business Technology and is a Certified Advanced Resonance Repatterning Practitioner. She offers 1:1 sessions, remote quantum-based healing, and regular healing seminars.
Have you tried to make changes, but noticed that the same patterns keep repeating themselves? Oftentimes, people come to see me who have already tried various methods to reduce their stress. They meditate, do breathing exercises, make sure to take breaks, spend a lot of time in nature, and try to structure their time better to consciously find moments of calm. And yet, they describe to me the same result from their well-intentioned efforts.
The relief lasts for a moment, but after a short while, the feeling of stress returns. They feel internal pressure and have the sense that they must constantly be on the go. They don’t know how or where to start solving their underlying problems, the situation that causes them stress.
If you know this feeling, you might doubt yourself, thinking that something is wrong with you or that you are not disciplined enough. And then, these kinds of thoughts create additional stress, on top of the original challenge.
What stress actually is
Stress is often understood as something that arises from external sources, such as work, deadlines, or conflicts. In reality, it is your system’s reaction to a situation that is perceived as significant, challenging, or threatening. What matters is not just the situation itself, but how you interpret it and what resources are available to you to alleviate it.
This explains why two people can react completely differently to similar situations. While one person remains calm, the other feels pressure or overwhelmed. Stress is therefore not purely an external phenomenon, but an interplay between external demands and internal processing.
Why stress often recurs
Most stress management methods focus precisely on where stress becomes apparent. They help us structure daily life, relax the body, and become more aware of our thoughts. These approaches are useful and provide excellent support for dealing with acute stress.
At the same time, experience shows that the experience of stress usually recurs if the underlying patterns remain unchanged. The situation may improve in the short term, but the underlying dynamics persist. Although one might relieve the immediate pressure, the same issues will keep cropping up. And deep down, we know this, leaving us in a state of anxiety.
In these situations, we might be inclined to try doing even more. But the answer lies in taking a more conscious approach to the various levels at which stress arises.
A holistic approach to stress: Body, mind, and soul
To tackle stress holistically, it is natural to consider the body, mind, and soul. One level alone is often insufficient; addressing two levels is a bit more effective, but the greatest change occurs when all three are interconnected. These levels do not operate in isolation from one another but influence each other.
When you start to consider them together, it is not just your approach to stress that changes. You also become aware of how your system reacts to demands, and you can address the root causes.
Body
The physical level encompasses everything that manifests externally and occurs in the body in measurable ways. This includes classic stress management techniques such as mindfulness exercises, exercise, or various prioritization tools. These approaches act directly on your nervous system but can only provide short-term stabilization.
These measures are particularly valuable in acute stress situations. They help you return to a regulated state and allow your body to rest. At the same time, it is evident that the experience of stress changes more sustainably when internal triggers are also taken into account. Our ongoing sense of well-being can then continue.
Mind
But for beneficial change, you need more. A change of perspective is required. Stress often arises not only from external demands but also from the fact that we do things we believe we must do, even though they do not feel right internally.
If you do something you enjoy, your day can be full, yet you don’t feel exhausted at the end of it. The activities that you want to do and those that inspire you give you energy. That is why it is worth considering which of the things you don’t feel right and what the reasons behind them are.
Often, inner drivers that operate unconsciously are at play here. These include, for example, the desire to do everything perfectly, to please everyone, or to avoid making mistakes.
Sometimes, these inner attitudes can cause pressure to continue to build even when external circumstances change.
Soul
Often, however, both the physical level and the mental shift in perspective are limited by what is happening unconsciously within us. At this level, it is about understanding how you react internally to demands and why you keep making certain decisions, even when they weigh on you.
These reactions are often based on patterns that have developed over many years and are stored in the subconscious. From your system’s perspective, these patterns make sense because they originally offered protection. That is precisely why they remain so firmly in place.
I see similar examples time and again in my work. One woman took on a great deal of responsibility in her job because she learned early on that she had to be strong. Another fails to set clear boundaries because she is subconsciously afraid of disappointing others. Yet another consistently works more than necessary because she has an inner drive to do everything perfectly.
Understanding unconscious patterns
These patterns do not arise by chance. They developed during certain phases of life, often in childhood, as sensible or necessary. Back then, the aim was to adapt, create security, or cope with situations in which one did not yet have the capacity for conscious decision-making.
In adult life, these strategies continue to have an effect, even if they are no longer helpful in every situation today. This can lead to the system being under constant strain. Many traditional approaches help people cope with this strain, while the underlying patterns often remain active in the background, unnoticed.
This sometimes creates the feeling of trying hard yet not really making any progress. And this is when it becomes helpful to address the conscious level as well.
What changes when the causes are addressed
Lasting change usually becomes possible when the underlying patterns are addressed, those that give energy to the stressful situation. This means that you need to understand which inner beliefs, experiences, and ways of reacting are at work in the background and how to change them in a targeted way.
In my work, we go back to the causes of the stressful situation and of the stress responses. We work with the underlying patterns in the subconscious so that not only the way we deal with stress changes, but the reaction itself. Many clients report that they weren’t feeling as triggered anymore, and with their new understanding, they could make better choices that made their entire experience feel calmer and more stable. The desire for these unhealthy situations either disappeared, or they could see the situation in a different light so that it now gave them energy instead of feeling depleted by it.
Conclusion
Taking a holistic approach to stress means considering body, mind, and soul together. Only when all three levels are taken into account does a change emerge that is sustainable in everyday life. You are not just regulating the state, but changing the foundation from which you react.
If you are interested in a 6-week program that addresses body, mind, and soul, please contact me to discuss the things in your life that are causing you stress.
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Dr. Sandra Veronika Gross, Healing Practitioner
Dr. Sandra Veronika Gross is a healing practitioner and subconscious transformation expert with over 17 years of experience. She holds a master’s degree in computer science and a PhD in Business Technology. Alongside her academic and professional career, she founded Sandra Gross Healing in 2007. She works 1:1 in personal healing sessions and remotely using Biofield Therapy and LebensTransfer, two quantum-based healing modalities. Sandra supports clients in resolving mental, emotional, and physical issues to create lasting change. She also leads seminars, group sessions, and regularly gives talks.
