ADHD in Men and Untangling the Complexities, Risks, and Strengths
- Brainz Magazine
- May 13
- 6 min read
Written by Rosie Elvin, Coaching, Workplace Training
Rosie is a senior lecturer in interior architecture and design and founder of 'ADHD Focus', a business which specialises in talks raising awareness about ADHD, coaching and creating e books and video courses, for students, parents and individuals with ADHD.
ADHD is often discussed in relation to children or, more recently, the growing wave of adult women receiving late diagnoses. In contrast, when it comes to men, ADHD is frequently portrayed through high-profile success stories, entrepreneurs like Richard Branson, actors such as Ryan Gosling, and elite athletes like Michael Phelps. These examples highlight how ADHD traits like energy, risk-taking, and creative thinking can contribute to innovation and peak performance when properly supported.
ADHD in men also presents its own unique set of challenges, ones that can shape their lives in ways that are often misunderstood. From risk-taking behaviours to struggles with emotional regulation, and from addiction to encounters with the criminal justice system, the impact of ADHD on men is significant. Understanding these patterns is key to offering support and, more importantly, finding ways to harness the strengths that come with the condition.
The masking of ADHD in men
While many boys are diagnosed earlier due to visible hyperactivity, the expectations placed on men as they grow older can lead to different forms of masking. Society often teaches men to suppress vulnerability, push through difficulties without seeking help, and channel their restlessness into socially acceptable outlets like sports or high-risk careers. The result? Many men develop coping mechanisms that are unsustainable in the long term, leading to burnout, relationship difficulties, or struggles with emotional regulation.
ADHD in men often manifests in impulsivity, risk-taking, and hyperactivity. This can lead to entrepreneurial success, creative problem-solving, and an ability to think outside the box. But it can also contribute to reckless behaviour, difficulty maintaining stable employment, and an increased likelihood of turning to substances as a coping mechanism.
ADHD, addiction, and risk-taking
Research has shown a strong link between ADHD and addiction, particularly in men. The brain's search for dopamine, combined with impulsivity, can lead to substance abuse, gambling, and other high-risk behaviours. Many men with ADHD report feeling a sense of relief when using substances, as it temporarily quiets their restless minds or helps them focus. However, this self-medication often spirals into dependency.
Statistics paint a concerning picture. Men with ADHD are more likely to engage in reckless driving, experience legal troubles, and struggle with alcohol or drug misuse. Cambridge University Press published research demonstrating a reduced life expectancy in adults with ADHD. Celebrities with ADHD have spoken about the challenges they’ve faced, but there are many other cases where the outcome is tragic. The headlines regularly feature stories of male celebrities with ADHD caught in drink-driving incidents, facing substance abuse struggles, or even experiencing fatal overdoses.
ADHD and the criminal justice system
Men with undiagnosed or unsupported ADHD are disproportionately represented in the criminal justice system. Impulsivity, difficulty with authority, and struggles with emotional regulation can lead to altercations, legal issues, or incarceration. Studies suggest that at least 25–30% of incarcerated individuals have ADHD, and without proper intervention, many remain trapped in cycles of reoffending.
The lack of awareness around ADHD in the justice system means many men never receive the support they need. Instead of receiving ADHD-informed therapy, coaching, or medication, they may face punitive measures that fail to address the underlying neurological factors contributing to their behaviours.
Relationships, emotional regulation, and the struggle with shame
ADHD doesn’t just affect careers and risk-taking; it can also have a profound impact on relationships. Men with ADHD may struggle with emotional outbursts, forgetfulness, and difficulty maintaining stable partnerships. Emotional dysregulation means frustration can quickly escalate into anger, often leading to conflicts in both personal and professional settings.
There are plenty of useful resources to support relationships affected by ADHD. ADDitude Magazine offers a wealth of insightful articles on communication, emotional regulation, and navigating ADHD within partnerships. A particularly relatable and honest book is Dirty Laundry by Richard Pink and Roxanne Emery, which explores the impact of ADHD on relationships from both the neurodivergent and partner perspectives, offering validation, humour, and practical advice.
Shame is a recurring theme in men with ADHD. Many grow up feeling like they are constantly getting things wrong, missing deadlines, forgetting anniversaries, or struggling with impulse control. This shame can lead to avoidance behaviours, shutting down emotionally, or overcompensating in ways that are exhausting and unsustainable.
This is often compounded by what could be described as mental hyperactivity. This term refers to the overwhelming thoughts that race in the minds of people with ADHD, particularly when they are triggered by seemingly minor situations. As Stuart Mills, founder of The Noisy Brain, explains:
"It can start with the slightest, smallest, most innocent word or sentence that a friend, colleague, or family member has spoken. It was probably said in passing, without any malice intended. But it gets lodged and stays inside your head. Whirling around our brain, creating anxiety and torment, or it can hide quietly until it decides to reappear at the forefront of our thinking at any random time."
For men with ADHD, this kind of mental hyperactivity can be just as disruptive as physical hyperactivity. The racing thoughts can lead to heightened anxiety and emotional distress, making it harder to maintain control over one's reactions and relationships. These intrusive thoughts often go unnoticed by others, contributing to a sense of isolation and frustration for many men struggling with ADHD.
Testosterone and ADHD in men
Testosterone, the primary male sex hormone, plays a key role in traits commonly associated with ADHD, such as impulsivity, risk-taking, and emotional regulation. Research suggests that men with ADHD may experience different testosterone levels compared to those without the condition.
Testosterone peaks during adolescence and early adulthood, when many men begin to show signs of ADHD. This hormone affects brain areas involved in motivation and emotional regulation, which are also impacted by ADHD. Elevated testosterone can contribute to impulsivity, a core symptom of ADHD.
Understanding the connection between testosterone and ADHD can help provide more comprehensive care, and addressing both neurological and hormonal factors may lead to more effective treatment.
Shifting the narrative: Strengths and support
Despite the challenges that can come with ADHD, men with the condition often possess incredible strengths. Their ability to think in a non-linear way frequently leads to unique problem-solving skills. Many are naturally creative, energetic, and willing to take risks, qualities that drive innovation. These traits are commonly found in successful entrepreneurs, athletes, and creatives, all of whom thrive when they are supported in the right way.
It’s important to recognise that ADHD is a neurological difference, not a deficit. Men with ADHD can benefit from tailored support, whether that’s through coaching, therapy, medication, or workplace accommodations. In addition, there are several self-care practices that can have a significant positive impact. Exercise is a powerful tool for managing ADHD symptoms, as it can help reduce restlessness and improve focus. Cold water therapy, which has gained popularity recently, can also provide mental clarity and boost mood, though it’s important to consult with a professional before trying it. Meditation is an excellent way to improve emotional regulation and mindfulness, helping to calm the mind and manage impulsivity. Resources like The Adult ADHD Podcast and A Hunter in a Farmer’s World can offer valuable insights and a greater understanding of ADHD.
Moving forward
Conversations about ADHD in men need to shift from focusing solely on challenges to embracing a strengths-based perspective. Society must move beyond outdated stereotypes of ADHD as merely hyperactive boys who struggle in school. The reality is far more complex, and by understanding the risks and strengths associated with ADHD in men, we can create environments where they can thrive rather than just survive.
If you or someone you know is struggling with ADHD, seeking support from professionals who understand the condition can be life-changing. ADHD is not a flaw; it’s a different way of experiencing the world. With the right support, men with ADHD can build successful, fulfilling lives while managing the challenges that come with their unique wiring.
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Rosie Elvin, Coaching, Workplace Training
Rosie is dedicated to razing awareness and supporting individuals with ADHD across various sectors. She also conducts talks and workshops for university staff equipping them with essential tools to support students and staff with ADHD. Additionally, Rosie offers online courses to parents and careers to empower them to provide effective support to students with ADHD during their university experience. Rosie emphasizes that ADHD doesn't define a person and believes in empowering individuals to achieve success. As an ADHD coach, she provides insights and identifies resources to help individuals thrive.
