5 Ways to Spend Quality Time With Your Kids and Pets When Newly Divorced
- Brainz Magazine
- Apr 9
- 4 min read
For the first half of her career, Debra Whitson was a prosecutor, and she spent the latter half specializing in Matrimonial and Family Law. She is an experienced mediator and collaborative divorce practitioner as well as a recognized expert in working with victims of domestic violence.
Going through a divorce can feel like your world has been turned upside down. As a newly divorced parent, you may be juggling a wide range of emotions while trying to create a sense of normalcy and stability for your children and, yes, your pets too.
It’s important to remember that while your family structure may look different now, your capacity to love, nurture, and connect remains just as strong. In fact, this period of transition can be an opportunity to form even deeper bonds with your children and pets by creating meaningful routines and moments of togetherness.
At WhitsonLaw, we understand how vital emotional support is during and after divorce. That’s why we’re sharing five heartfelt and practical ways to spend quality time with your kids and furry companions to help rebuild, reconnect, and rediscover joy.
1. Create new routines that include everyone
Divorce can disrupt the everyday rhythm your family once relied on. One of the best ways to re-establish a sense of security is by creating simple, predictable routines that involve both your children and pets.
Consider these ideas:
Morning “pet check-in” where your child helps feed, walk, or groom the family pet
A daily after-dinner walk around the neighborhood together
Sunday "family fun time" where you bake pet treats, make art, or do puzzles as a group
These routines don’t have to be fancy or time-consuming. What matters most is consistency and the message it sends: “We’re still a team, and we’re moving forward together.”
2. Get outdoors and move together
Fresh air and movement can do wonders for emotional healing, and it’s even better when you can share that time with your kids and pets.
Try these outdoor activities that benefit everyone:
Nature walks or hikes: Pack some snacks and explore a nearby trail where dogs are welcome. Let your child take the lead in navigating or spotting interesting wildlife.
Backyard playtime: Toss a frisbee, chase bubbles, or create an obstacle course for both the kids and the pup to enjoy.
Pet-friendly parks: Let your child socialize with other kids while your dog meets new furry friends. It’s great for everyone’s well-being.
These outings foster physical activity, laughter, and bonding. Plus, pets are natural mood boosters, helping children (and adults!) feel calmer and more connected during emotionally difficult times.
3. Work together on pet-centered projects
Getting your children involved in pet care can give them a sense of responsibility and accomplishment especially important when other aspects of their life may feel uncertain after divorce.
Here are some fun, collaborative pet projects to try:
Make a scrapbook or photo album of your pet’s adventures, complete with captions written by your kids
DIY pet toys or beds using safe materials and a little creativity
Build a pet care chart to track feeding, walking, and grooming responsibilities (great for co-parenting households, too!)
These activities serve multiple purposes: they promote teamwork, creativity, and empathy while reminding your child that love and care are constants in your home.
4. Have cozy, tech-free family time
One of the most comforting things you can do during the early stages of post-divorce life is to create an environment that feels safe, warm, and full of love. That can happen in something as simple as a quiet night in.
Make it intentional:
Turn off devices and have a “no screen” night cuddle up with your kids and pets for board games, books, or story time
Make a blanket fort and watch a family movie with your pet snuggled right in the middle
Share a favorite childhood memory and ask your kids to do the same while your pet snoozes nearby
These quiet moments help to rebuild emotional closeness. And pets? They provide unconditional affection, something children often need most during uncertain times.
5. Volunteer or give back together
Another meaningful way to spend time with your kids and pets is to channel your energy into giving back. Acts of service foster resilience, self-esteem, and a sense of purpose, all especially valuable when navigating change.
Depending on your child’s age and interests, consider:
Making homemade dog toys or treats to donate to a local animal shelter.
Collecting gently used pet supplies for families in need.
Volunteering for a dog wash fundraiser or adoption event (if your pet is social and loves other people!)
These shared experiences teach children empathy and reinforce the idea that even during difficult times, you still have the power to make someone else’s life better.
Divorce marks the end of one chapter, but it also presents a chance to write a new story with your children and your pets, one filled with connection, growth, and unconditional love.
You don’t need to be perfect. You don’t need to have every answer. What your kids and pets need most is your presence, patience, and a safe space where they can thrive.
We’re committed to supporting families as they transition into this next phase of life. From legal guidance to compassionate care, we’re here to help you move forward with confidence one step, one wagging tail, and one hug at a time.
Need support with your parenting plan, custody arrangement, or post-divorce guidance? Be sure to check out our website or give us a call at 518-412-4111 to schedule a consultation today!
You may be newly divorced, but you’re not starting over alone. Your kids and your pets are walking right beside you. Make every moment count.
Debra Whitson, Attorney, Mediator, Certified Divorce Specialist™
For the first half of her career, Debra Whitson was a prosecutor, and she spent the latter half specializing in Matrimonial and Family Law. She is an experienced mediator and collaborative divorce practitioner as well as a recognized expert in working with victims of domestic violence. Debra believes that legal battles are more harmful to families than helpful, and is passionate about helping people find ways to make their own decisions for their families, rather than leaving their outcomes in the hands of a stranger in a black robe. When court is unavoidable, Debra aims to educate and support people to make the legal process less costly, scary, uncertain, and stressful.
