Why You’re Still Enough Even When You’re Not Doing Anything
- Brainz Magazine
- Jul 23
- 4 min read
Ryan is a Psychotherapist and Intuitive Guide, blending coaching and Tarot to help curious seekers navigate change, build meaningful lives, and create deeper connections.
We live in a culture that, frankly, isn’t designed to help us feel the truth of our worth. Everything is externalised and therefore, everything becomes conditional. Our value gets measured by productivity, pace, and performance. But what happens when the momentum drops, when you wake up with “iron for blood” and can’t muster the energy to keep striving?
As a therapist, intuitive guide, and creative, I’ve noticed a pattern in myself and others: the belief that stillness equals failure. That emptiness must be filled. That softness is weakness.
But what if those quiet moments, the ones where we curl inward, withdraw, or feel emptied out, aren’t signs of brokenness, but invitations into a deeper kind of wholeness?
This article explores what it means to be enough, even in our non-doing. Especially there.
The lie of constant productivity
Look around at our world, we don’t really need more productivity; we need more humanity. From a young age, we’re conditioned to believe that rest must be earned. That value comes from output. But this mindset quietly erodes our ability to be present with ourselves, especially in moments of exhaustion or emptiness, when our bodies need us the most.
Even when I’m curled on the couch, with nothing to show for the day but breath and presence, there’s a voice inside that demands an explanation. A voice that fears stillness means failure.
Learning to recognise this inner critic, and meeting it with awareness and, eventually, compassion, can begin to unravel the cultural lie that constant productivity is the only path to worth.
Meeting the inner protectors
That harsh internal monologue that questions stillness isn’t random. It’s a form of self-protection, an anxious, loyal part of us that panics when we slow down. It tries to motivate us through fear because it learned, somewhere along the way, that stillness is dangerous.
For me, this protector came online because, as a young child, I was often isolated. And so my nervous system began to equate stillness with a kind of threat.
But here’s the nuance in working with these parts instead of pushing against or feeling smothered by this internal protector: we can gently meet with it. I have learned in these moments to exhale into the place of tension in my body, and to actually thank it for its dutiful watch over me. I then reassure it, “Easy. I’m still here. We’re okay. I can breath deeply here.”
When we see these inner voices not as enemies, but as frightened over protective guardians, something softens. We reclaim agency over our internal world.
The hidden intelligence of emptiness
What if emptiness isn’t a void to be fixed, but a threshold? A meaningful pause before the next emergence?
When we stop filling every gap, we begin to simply listen and feel. And then we can just be. Emptiness becomes fertile, a place where the roots of our being hook into something deeper, drawing nourishment not from striving, but from stillness.
This isn’t passivity. It’s a reclamation. A remembering that we don’t need to shine constantly to still be light. I truly believe recovery is a sacred invitation because it’s here we can be most tender with ourselves, while also shedding the societal conditioning that taught us rest is somehow a flaw.
Enoughness is not conditional
The biggest revelation for me, both personally and in my work, is this: enoughness isn’t something you earn. It’s not measured by energy levels, creativity, productivity, or how well you show up for others.
It’s not a prize at the end of a to-do list. It’s something you are. Even when the vessel feels almost empty. Especially then.
Because there’s always more to do, but never really more to be. That’s the penny-drop moment. In any given breath, there is nothing more you can be, because you are already here, already enough. That’s not a concept; it’s a state of being that your body can recognise before your mind ever does.
The mind, of course, will try to loop us back into striving. It will conjure lists, compare timelines, resurrect old expectations. But none of that lives in the present moment.
You are not your pace.
You are not your output.
You are not your lowest day, or even your highest.
At your core, you are not a single-dimensional doing, but a multi-dimensional being. And this is not something you achieve, it’s something you remember.
If you’re ready to reconnect with that truth
Feeling seen somewhere in these words?
I work 1:1 with self-aware souls to tune into the quiet frequencies beneath their lives using Tarot and intuitive presence to help them hear what their psyche is really trying to say.
As a therapist and spiritual guide, I draw from lived experience, deep listening, and a knack for helping you see what’s been waiting to land.
If you’ve been feeling in-between unanchored, unclear, or like something’s stirring just beneath the surface, I’d love to support you in this season of your becoming.
By the end of our session, you’ll walk away clearer, more confident, and aligned with a perspective and plan that feels true to you.
If you’re ready to stop holding back, let’s begin. You can book your session here!
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Ryan Findlay, Transformational Coach and Intuitive Guide
Ryan is a Psychotherapist and Intuitive Guide, specialising in Tarot as an efficient tool for subconscious change, emotional release, and clarity as clients move through life’s transitions. Known for his grounded, relatable approach, Ryan serves as both a compass and a steadying hand. His mission is to guide others toward game-changing insights, deeper connections, and aligned, empowered living.
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