Why Opening, Not Pushing, Leads To A Calmer, Empowered Birth
- Brainz Magazine
- Dec 4, 2024
- 3 min read
Written by Elizabeth Alleva, HypnoBirthing Mommy
Elizabeth Alleva is the founder of HypnoBirthing Mommy, dedicated to empowering women during pregnancy and childbirth. With a focus on personalized support, she helps expectant mothers embrace their inner strength and navigate their birthing journeys with confidence.
When you think of childbirth, the image of a mother “pushing” with all her strength is likely one of the first things that comes to mind. For generations, we’ve been taught that labor requires effort, force, and endurance. But what if I told you that birthing your baby doesn’t have to feel like a battle? In fact, the key to a calm, intuitive, and empowered birth often lies in doing less—not more. It’s not about pushing but relaxing, opening, and allowing your body to do what it is naturally designed to do.
The power of relaxation and opening
Your body is built for birth. During labor, the uterus—a powerful, intelligent muscle—creates natural surges (or contractions) that move your baby down and out. This process is assisted by the natural expulsive reflex, an instinctive action your body triggers when the time is right.
When a mother is relaxed, her body opens more easily. The baby can descend smoothly, guided by the uterus’s natural movements. In contrast, tension, effort, and forced pushing can disrupt this process, creating resistance rather than flow.
Why pushing can be counterproductive
Forcing yourself to push—especially when directed to do so—often works against the natural process of birth. Here’s why:
Creates tension in the pelvic floor: Forceful pushing tightens the very muscles that need to be released, making it harder for the baby to move through.
Disrupts the body’s reflexes: The natural expulsive reflex functions best when the body is calm and unhurried. Effortful pushing can override this reflex, making labor longer or more difficult.
Increases stress: Pushing on command can feel overwhelming or stressful, taking mothers out of the focused, relaxed state that supports a smooth birth.
A different way: Relaxing and allowing
Instead of focusing on pushing, consider focusing on opening. Here’s how you can shift your mindset and your practice:
Deep breathing: Gentle, deep breathing helps the body relax and keeps oxygen flowing to you and your baby. During each surge, visualize your body opening like a flower, creating space for your baby to move.
Trust the reflex: Your body knows how to birth. When you let go of effort and surrender to the process, the natural expulsive reflex takes over, moving your baby without needing force.
Stay in the moment: Tune into your body’s sensations. When the urge to bear down arises naturally, follow it without strain or urgency.
The benefits of opening instead of pushing
Choosing to relax and open rather than push forcefully can transform the birth experience:
Gentler for your body: Reduced tension in the pelvic floor minimizes the risk of tearing.
Easier for your baby: The baby experiences a calmer, smoother transition into the world.
More empowering for you: You remain in control, aligned with your body’s instincts, and connected to the process.
Rethinking birth culture
Birth is not about fighting your way through—it’s about surrendering to your body's incredible wisdom. By releasing the idea of pushing and embracing the concept of opening, you allow yourself to experience birth as nature intended: calm, intuitive, and powerful.
Your journey to empowered birth
Every birth is unique, and every mother deserves the freedom to approach it in a way that feels right. As a HypnoBirthing educator, I’ve seen the transformative power of relaxation and trust. You don’t need to push to bring your baby into the world. You need only to open, relax, and allow the process to unfold.
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Elizabeth Alleva, HypnoBirthing Mommy
Elizabeth Alleva is the founder of HypnoBirthing Mommy, dedicated to empowering women during pregnancy and childbirth. With a passion for supporting expectant mothers, Elizabeth provides personalized guidance to help them embrace their inner strength and navigate their birthing journeys with confidence and grace. Committed to creating a nurturing environment, she helps families achieve positive and empowering birth experiences.
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