Why Great Leaders Should Put Down the Backpack and Set Clear Boundaries
- Brainz Magazine
- Jun 10
- 3 min read
Wilene Dunn is the CEO of WCD Enterprises, a marketing and publishing agency that helps authors, speakers, and entrepreneurs share their message through books, branding, and business strategy.
Not long ago, I shared a personal reflection on Facebook about boundaries, specifically, the unseen weight we often carry that doesn’t belong to us. The post struck a nerve, garnering thousands of impressions and sparking a surprisingly passionate debate.
At the heart of the message was this question:
“Is this my responsibility, or am I picking up someone else’s backpack?”
It’s a metaphor, of course, but one that cuts straight to the heart of modern leadership and professional wellness.
We’ve all done it. Carried more than our share. Taking on emotional labor, extra tasks, or interpersonal tensions in an effort to “keep the peace” or “be a team player.” And while helpfulness is often praised in professional settings, unchecked helpfulness can quietly morph into chronic over-functioning, resentment, and even burnout.
Boundaries are not barriers. They are bridges to clarity.
The post, while focused on personal growth, also has profound implications for leadership. Still, not everyone saw it that way. One individual went so far as to suggest I was advocating against compassion, against helping the sick or the poor. That’s quite the leap, considering I co-lead a pastoral care team where service is central to our mission.
So allow me to clarify:Boundaries are not about walking away from people in need.
They are about recognizing what is ours to hold and what is not.
In leadership, unclear boundaries create blurred expectations, overdependence, and fractured team dynamics. They stifle innovation by encouraging silent resentment rather than empowered responsibility. When we habitually pick up what others drop, whether that’s a missed deadline, an unresolved conflict, or an emotional outburst, we reinforce a system where our own priorities are sidelined for the sake of perceived harmony.
And here’s the hard truth:
Leaders are not at their best when they’re overburdened.
They are at their best when they model clarity, self-awareness, and trust.
Consider these principles:
Kindness is not martyrdom. You can be empathetic and still say no.
Helpfulness is not self-erasure. When you always fix things, you rob others of growth.
Boundaries are not unkind. They’re a form of respect, both for others and for yourself.
Ask any high-performing executive or successful entrepreneur, and they’ll tell you: saying yes to everything is a fast track to leadership fatigue. True leadership includes the discernment to know what belongs on your plate and what’s a distraction dressed as duty.
So, the next time you find yourself instinctively stepping in to fix, solve, or carry what’s not yours, pause. Ask:
“Is this my responsibility, or am I picking up someone else’s backpack?”
Just because you can carry it doesn’t mean you should.
Real leadership begins with self-leadership.
And self-leadership begins with boundaries.
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Wilene Dunn, Marketing and Publishing Agency CEO
Wilene Dunn is the CEO of WCD Enterprises, a marketing and publishing agency that helps speakers, authors, and entrepreneurs bring their message to the world. With over 16 years of experience, she offers expert guidance in branding, book publishing, business strategy, and accountability coaching. Whether you're launching a business, writing a book, or preparing to speak on stage, Wilene helps you move from idea to execution with clarity and confidence. If you have a message that matters, she can help you make it seen, heard, and impactful.
