Start The Year with Intentions, Not Resolutions – A Mindful Approach to the New Year
- Brainz Magazine
- 1 day ago
- 4 min read
Jenny Gaynor, author and founder of Calm Education, teaches SEL tools to help kids, families, and teachers build confidence, connection, and calm.
Every January, millions of people set New Year’s resolutions with the hope of creating a better, healthier, or more productive version of themselves. The crazy part about this is that consistent research shows most resolutions fade by early February. The problem isn’t that we lack motivation. It is that the resolution mindset is built on pressure, perfectionism, and an all-or-nothing mindset.
If you’re looking for a gentler, more understanding, and sustainable way to create real change in your life this year, consider shifting from resolutions to intentions. This simple shift can help you stay grounded, emotionally regulated, and aligned with what truly matters, without the guilt that resolutions can often create.
Why resolutions fail and what makes intentions different
Many New Year’s resolutions focus on outcomes: lose weight, save money, exercise more, stop a habit, or overhaul your life overnight. While motivating at first, outcome-based goals often trigger stress, perfectionism, and self-criticism when we slip. Intentions, however, focus on:
Values rather than outcomes.
Daily choices rather than achievements.
Presence and awareness rather than pressure and perfectionism.
Self-compassion rather than shame and criticism.
This makes intentions emotionally supportive, especially for adults juggling family, work, and the mental load of daily life. Intentions help you connect with how you want to feel and who you want to be, which leads to more realistic and sustainable behavior change.
How to set New Year intentions
If you’re new to intention setting, here’s a clear and mindful process. First, reflect on how you want to feel this year. Ask yourself: What do I want more of? What do I want less of? How do I want to show up in my relationships, work, and life?
Next, choose a few core intentions. This means choosing a word or two that you want to live by this year. Some popular intention words include calm, presence, connection, joy, balance, confidence, creativity, and resilience. Choose words that support your own personal growth and mindfulness.
Third, link each intention to a small, daily practice. This step turns intentions into realistic habits. For example, if your intention is calm, you might choose a daily practice of taking three grounding breaths before reacting to something stressful. Or, if your intention is connection, you could choose to put your phone down during meals with your family. Take time to think through small practices that support your intentions.
Fourth, write a clear intention statement and post it somewhere you will see it daily. This structure boosts clarity and attention to your intention every day. You could say something like, “This year, I intend to show up with (intention word) by practicing (action) when life feels busy or stressful.”
Finally, revisit your intention often throughout the year. The best part about intentions is that they are flexible. As your life shifts, your intention can shift too, without guilt or pressure. You might choose to tweak or change your intention as you move through the year.
If you drift from your intention, it is important to remember that you haven’t failed. You can always come back to it. This returning is where real growth happens. It builds emotional flexibility, compassion, and consistent mindfulness over time.
Intentions for families and workplaces
Intention setting is adaptable across homes, classrooms, and organizations. Parents can help their children choose intentions such as “be kind with words” or “try new things.” These can help children and families guide emotional regulation in ways resolutions often cannot.
Teachers can help students choose intentions such as “I will ask for help when I am frustrated” or “I will lead by example.” These can help support students socially and emotionally throughout their learning.
Teams and leaders in the workplace can focus on how to work together more cohesively. Leaders and employees can choose intentions such as “we intend to communicate clearly” or “we intend to listen before responding.” These can help support workplace culture, collaboration, and psychological safety.
Intentions reduce the nervous system pressure that resolutions often create. Instead of reacting from stress, intentions help us pause, regulate, and respond with alignment. At home, in schools, and in the workplace, this can improve communication, leadership, parenting, decision-making, self-worth, and emotional resilience.
Final thoughts
A gentler New Year starts with one question: How do I want to feel, and who do I want to be this year?
Let your intentions guide your choices with kindness, presence, and clarity all year long. As you stand on the threshold of a new year, consider this: you don’t need another resolution that focuses on your weaknesses. What you need is a gentle invitation, an intention, that helps you focus on your strengths.
Let this year be less about fixing and more about feeling. Make it less about doing more and more about aligning with what matters. Let go of perfection and embrace presence.
Want to explore more?
For a thoughtful discussion on this approach that breaks down why intentions can be more sustainable and meaningful than resolutions, check out this piece in Psychology Today.
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Jenny Gaynor, Social Emotional Learning Coach and Founder
Jenny Gaynor is the author and founder of Calm Education. She teaches children, families, and teachers essential SEL (Social Emotional Learning) skills. Her mission is to help others build confidence, resilience, and healthy connections. Jenny is a former educator with over 20 years of classroom experience. She holds certifications in both elementary and special education. Jenny also has training in yoga, meditation, and SEL facilitation. She lives in Barrington, Rhode Island with her family and therapy cat, Tiller.
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