Meaning Systems, Words, and the Body – How Christmas Activates Our Deepest Emotional Patterns
- Brainz Magazine
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Written by Sheila Marina, Energy Healer
Sheila Marina is an Energy Healer and the founder of Planet of Peace Energy Healing, a holistic practice offering emotional release and energy healing. With over 35 years of experience, she helps others restore balance through The Emotion Code, mind-body techniques, and compassionate leadership.
At the age of 41, I returned to school in the evenings with a clear intention. I was going to earn a psychology degree and better understand the human mind. I enrolled at York University, full of curiosity and ambition. Somewhere along that academic journey, I was introduced to a concept that would quietly stay with me for years, long before I understood how profoundly it connected to my life’s work.
It was the work of Fathali M. Moghaddam, who spoke about how human beings live according to internal “meaning systems.” These are the invisible frameworks through which we interpret our experiences, relationships, identity, worth, and safety. At the time, I found the concept fascinating. Years later, I now see it as foundational to everything I do as an energy healer.
Today, I am deeply in love with helping people release trapped emotions. I am equally in love with teaching others that the body already knows how to heal itself. And I am unwavering in my belief that the words we use to describe our lives become biological instructions to the body.
At no time of year is this more clearly revealed than at Christmas.
We do not live by events, we live by meaning
According to the theory of meaning systems, we do not simply react to circumstances. We respond to what those circumstances mean to us.
Two people can experience the same family gathering, the same holiday table, the same absence of a loved one, yet have completely different emotional reactions. Why? Because each person is living from a different internal meaning system shaped by childhood experiences, family roles, trauma, culture, and unspoken emotional agreements.
This idea mirrors what many modern healing and psychology professionals now describe, healing that goes far beyond symptom management alone.
Some meaning systems sound like this:
“I must keep the peace to be loved.”
“My needs come last.”
“Holidays mean sacrifice.”
“I’m only valuable when I’m useful.”
“If I rest, I’m lazy.”
These belief structures form quietly, often before we have language for them. They then follow us into adulthood, into our relationships, our careers, our health, and especially into emotionally charged seasons like Christmas.
Christmas as an emotional amplifier
Christmas has a beautiful way of awakening generosity, love, and connection, but it also has an equally powerful way of activating unresolved emotional material.
For many, Christmas stirs:
Grief for those no longer present
Family wounds that never fully healed
Financial pressure and silent worry
Loneliness beneath forced cheer
Exhaustion from over-giving
The ache of unmet expectations
Our meaning systems decide, automatically, how we interpret and respond to all of it.
This mirrors the deeply psychological ways our perception can be shaped and even destabilized.
One person’s nervous system hears, “This is family time.”
Another hears, “This is survival time.” And the body responds accordingly.
The words we use become the body’s instructions
In my healing practice, I listen not only to what people feel, but to what they say about their lives.
“I have to get through it.”
“This always happens to me.”
“I’ll survive somehow.”
“That’s just how I am.”
“It’s too late for me.”
Language shapes emotional reality. When we learn how to reframe our words, the nervous system begins to reorganize itself.
When words contradict truth, when the soul knows one thing but language speaks another, energy becomes trapped. This is not weakness. It is an intelligent adaptive response.
The body already knows how to heal
One of the most beautiful truths I have witnessed again and again is this.
The body does not need to be forced into healing. It simply needs permission.
When trapped emotions clear, the nervous system naturally reorganizes. The breath softens. The shoulders drop. The thoughts quiet. The heart begins to feel safe again.
This aligns deeply with the growing understanding that recovery requires listening to the body, not overriding it.
We do not need to relive trauma in order to release it. We do not need to suffer in order to be worthy of peace.
Letting go of old emotional armour
Many people arrive at Christmas carrying emotional protection they built long ago. Letting go does not mean breaking. It means softening.
And we are also being invited into a new understanding of emotional authenticity beyond forced positivity.
A Christmas invitation (not a prescription)
This Christmas, instead of trying to fix yourself, I offer you a softer invitation:
What meaning am I carrying into this season?
Whose emotional weight am I still holding that no longer belongs to me?
What word do I want my body to live by this winter?
Rather than survive or endure, perhaps the body is ready to learn, receive, rest, soften, and belong.
This is the same inner reorientation that allows pain to transform into purpose.
And as the year closes, many of us are also being called into true emotional completion.
A gentle closing
Christmas will always carry emotion. Beneath every reaction is a story. Beneath every story is a meaning. And beneath every meaning is a body quietly asking to be heard.
If this season feels heavy, you are not broken. You are human. And healing does not demand perfection, only willingness.
May your words this Christmas be kinder to your body. May your body feel safe enough to exhale. And may your meaning systems gently evolve toward peace.
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Sheila Marina, Energy Healer
Sheila Marina is an Energy Healer with over three decades of experience guiding others toward emotional freedom and inner peace. Rooted in 35 years of service in child and family support, she founded Planet of Peace Energy Healing, a sanctuary for healing, release, and renewal. Blending The Emotion Code, Body Code, Belief Code, and Reiki, Sheila offers a path to transformation that honors both the wisdom of the body and the whispers of the soul. A former Area Director with Toastmasters and Group Facilitator with Sashbear.org, she brings a compassionate presence to every step of the healing journey. Her mission is to help others reconnect with their truth and move forward with clarity, peace, and purpose.
