Letting Go of Hypervigilance and Finding Calm – An Interview with Hypnotherapist Vicci O'Reilly
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Many high-functioning women appear steady on the outside while silently navigating hypervigilance and emotional overwhelm. In this feature, Vicci O'Reilly explores how trauma shapes identity and how integrating hypnotherapy, somatic work, and spiritual practice creates lasting emotional safety and resilience.
Vicci O'Reilly, Emotional Wellness Hypnotherapist
Who is Vicci O'Reilly?
I am an emotional wellness hypnotherapist who works with highly sensitive women who have built their identity around being needed.
Long before I had the language for attachment patterns or nervous system responses, I was a child learning how to read volatility. I grew up in an environment shaped by unpredictability. There were moments of instability that required me to become very attuned, very quickly. I learned to monitor tone, to anticipate shifts, to stay quiet when necessary. I learned that being useful and emotionally accommodating reduced risk.
Those adaptations were intelligent. They kept me connected. They helped me survive. But survival strategies have a way of following us into adulthood.
I became perceptive, emotionally intelligent, and capable. The woman who could hold space for everyone. The one who seemed steady. Inside, I was still scanning. Still bracing. Still believing that connection required vigilance.
There came a point where the strategies that once felt protective began to feel suffocating. I reached a moment of reckoning where I realised I did not know how to feel safe unless I was managing everything around me. That awareness was confronting. It forced me to look at the beliefs beneath my behaviours.
I hold a bachelor’s degree in psychology, and I am a qualified hypnotherapist with trauma-informed certification, alongside training in Reiki and meditation facilitation. My academic education gave me understanding. My clinical training gave me methodology. My lived experience gave me urgency.
What I recognised is that many high-functioning, highly sensitive women are not struggling because they are weak. They are struggling because their nervous systems are organised around old beliefs about safety, love, and responsibility.
My work exists to help women build an internal anchor so they no longer have to earn security through self-abandonment.
What inspired you to combine hypnotherapy with somatic and spiritual healing for trauma recovery?
The inspiration came from the gap between insight and change.
For years, I understood my patterns intellectually. I could explain anxious attachment. I could describe people-pleasing. I knew exactly why I reacted the way I did.
And yet, in real relational moments, my body would still tighten. My chest would constrict. My thoughts would race. Awareness did not stop activation.
There was a period in my life where everything felt like it was unravelling internally. On the outside, I was functioning. On the inside, I felt fragmented. I remember recognising that no amount of analysis was recalibrating my nervous system.
That was the turning point.
Hypnotherapy allowed me to work at the level where beliefs were originally formed, rather than just where they were discussed. Somatic awareness helped me identify activation in real time rather than after the spiral. Spiritual practice, for me, became less about transcendence and more about accountability, integration, and self-trust.
Trauma is not only cognitive. It is physiological. It is relational. It becomes identity.
By integrating subconscious belief work, body awareness, and grounded spiritual practice, I found a way to address the root rather than the symptom. That integration now forms the backbone of my work.
Can you explain how hypnotherapy rewires subconscious beliefs and what that means for emotional resilience?
Most emotional reactions are not random. They are driven by subconscious conclusions formed during moments when safety felt uncertain.
Beliefs such as “if I don’t manage this, I will lose connection,” or “my needs create instability,” become operating instructions. They run quietly beneath conscious awareness.
In a hypnotic state, the analytical mind becomes quieter, and the subconscious becomes accessible. From this place, we can revisit the emotional imprint beneath a belief without being overwhelmed by it.
The goal is not positive thinking. It is a re-organisation.
When someone experiences safety while expressing a need within hypnosis, or steadiness while witnessing intensity, the subconscious begins to update its assumptions. The meaning assigned to relational tension changes.
Emotional resilience then becomes structural. The nervous system no longer reacts to every disagreement as a threat. Space appears between stimulus and response.
That space changes everything.
Why is creating emotional safety a foundational step toward personal and professional growth?
Many of the women I work with are outwardly successful. They are competent, driven, and respected. Yet internally, they feel unstable.
Without emotional safety, growth is fuelled by fear. Fear of abandonment. Fear of being misunderstood. Fear of not being enough.
Women can achieve extraordinary things from that place. But it is exhausting.
When emotional safety is established, energy that was previously consumed by hypervigilance becomes available for clarity and creativity. Boundaries feel less confrontational. Decisions feel less loaded. Confidence becomes less performative and more embodied.
Safety does not eliminate ambition. It removes the desperation beneath it. From that place, growth becomes sustainable rather than self-sacrificial.
What advice do you give to women who feel stuck but are hesitant to begin their healing journey?
Hesitation is often protective intelligence.
If your system learned that vulnerability led to instability, beginning healing can feel like dismantling your defences. Of course, there is resistance.
I do not encourage women to tear everything down. I encourage them to begin with awareness.
Notice where you override your needs to maintain peace. Notice where you take responsibility for someone else’s emotions. Notice where you shrink to preserve connection.
These patterns are not evidence of weakness. They are evidence of adaptation. Awareness introduces space. Space introduces choice.
Healing is not about becoming someone new. It is about understanding the beliefs that shaped who you had to become, and deciding consciously whether those beliefs still serve you.
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Vicci O'Reilly, Emotional Wellness Hypnotherapist
Vicci O'Reilly is a trauma-informed hypnotherapist and emotional wellness mentor who helps highly sensitive women heal trauma patterns, regulate their nervous system, and reconnect with their intuition. With a background in psychology and over 10 years of experience in meditation, shadow work, and energy healing, she blends science and spirituality to support deep self-awareness and empowerment. She is the creator of the Chakra Archetype system and founder of the Conscious Connection Membership.ly
