How Twin Flames & Soulmates Activate Past Life Memory and Reveal the Karmic Patterns You’re Here to Heal
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Stephanie Smit, also known as Giek, is a visionary artist and reincarnation researcher. She bridges art, mysticism, and esoteric science to uncover past lives, guide spiritual awakenings, and help others align with their soul purpose.
Why do certain connections feel instantly familiar, as if you’ve known someone forever, even when you’ve just met?
Why do some relationships awaken profound love, creativity, or spiritual insight, while simultaneously triggering deep wounds, obsession, or intense push-pull dynamics?
From a reincarnation and subconscious-pattern perspective, soulmate and twin flame connections don’t appear randomly. They activate past life memory, soul-level recognition, and unresolved karmic themes that are ready to be seen, felt, and integrated.
In this article, I’ll explain the logic behind these connections, how they work energetically, why they can feel so overwhelming, and how to navigate them in a way that supports true soul growth rather than emotional burnout.
Soulmates, twin flames & soul frequency
Every soul carries a unique energetic signature, what you could call a soul frequency.
Soulmates are souls that vibrate on a very similar frequency. This similarity allows for deep resonance, recognition, and emotional intimacy. You don’t just understand each other, you feel each other.
Twin flames go one step further. They vibrate on the exact same soul frequency. From an energetic perspective, this creates a mirror so precise that it can feel shocking, intoxicating, or destabilizing.
When two people meet who resonate this closely, the encounter often acts as an activation point:
Dormant spiritual or creative abilities may come online
Intuitive sensitivity may increase
Emotional material long buried may suddenly surface
I’ve seen (and experienced) that this “activation” can feel like a spiritual glow-up and an emotional unraveling at the same time. That paradox is usually the first clue: something deeper than ordinary attraction is happening.
Why these connections trigger past-life memory
As explored in my previous articles on past life imprints and subconscious programming, memory doesn’t only live in the mind, it lives in the energetic system.
High-level soul connections often activate:
Unresolved past life relationships
Unfinished dynamics (betrayal, loss, abandonment, power imbalance)
Shared missions, talents, or responsibilities that were interrupted
This is why these connections can feel bigger than this lifetime. You may experience:
Déjà vu
Vivid dreams involving the person
Sudden emotional intensity without a clear present-day cause
One reason I take this seriously in my own work is that the emotional reaction is often too specific to be explained by the present story alone. When the trigger feels older than the moment, it often is.
Importantly, intensity alone is not evidence of dysfunction; it is often a predictable feature of psychologically and emotionally significant bonds.
The push-pull dynamic explained
One of the most misunderstood aspects of twin flame and high-level soulmate dynamics is the push-pull pattern.
Here’s the energetic logic behind it:
When two souls meet at this level of resonance, unintegrated trauma begins to surface. This can include abandonment wounds, control issues, fear of intimacy, or fear of loss, sometimes originating far earlier than this lifetime.
Typically:
One person becomes more consciously aware of the connection
The other feels overwhelmed by the intensity and pulls away
The more one person fixates, obsesses, or tries to “hold on,” the more suffocating it can feel to the other. Not because there’s no bond, but because the bond is exposing material they’re not yet ready to face.
In my own experience, the moment someone “ran,” it was tempting to interpret it as rejection or a sign that I did something wrong. With time, I saw it differently: the running often reflects nervous-system overwhelm, not the absence of love.
What the connection is actually asking of you
Despite popular narratives, twin flame and soulmate connections are not primarily about union with another person. They frequently function as mirrors, often confronting you with aspects of yourself that remain unresolved, disowned, or insufficiently integrated. What feels like intense focus on another person is frequently intertwined with deeper layers of self-perception, attachment, and identity.
High-intensity bonds tend to expose precisely where self-love is conditional or where emotional stability becomes overly dependent on external reassurance. The resulting turbulence is therefore not merely relational, it reflects internal dynamics rising into awareness through the connection.
In this sense, these relationships can feel so destabilizing because they are not only encounters with another, but encounters with yourself. Patterns of fear, longing, defensiveness, or idealization become amplified, making previously invisible structures of the psyche difficult to ignore.
From a developmental perspective, such connections often invite a shift toward greater self-alignment: cultivating a grounded sense of identity, strengthening emotional boundaries, and learning to relate without losing inner stability. The work becomes less about securing the relationship and more about stabilizing the self.
Paradoxically, as this internal anchoring strengthens:
Obsession softens
Emotional reactivity decreases
Relational clarity improves
You become deeply attractive to these soul-level connections, and will naturally attract new soulmates, not by chasing, but by embodying your own soul frequency fully.
Twin flames as catalysts
Twin flames are often powerful catalysts. They shake loose what no other relationship could. This can feel:
Ecstatic
Devastating
Disorienting
Transformative
Often, one person “runs” from the intensity while the other becomes hyper-focused on the connection. This doesn’t mean the bond is failing, it means different levels of readiness are at play.
A common misconception is that twin flames are meant to work together physically in this lifetime. In reality, much of the work happens on a higher, non-physical level: growth, healing, and energetic alignment.
I’ve found that when the more conscious person commits to their own healing, rather than trying to pull the other closer, the entire dynamic changes. Not always into a relationship, but always into more clarity and self-respect.
Why past life insight changes everything
To truly understand the triggers within these connections, looking only at the current lifetime often isn’t enough.
Many of the wounds activated:
Didn’t originate here
Have repeated across incarnations
Are linked to specific shared histories
By exploring past lives, patterns become clearer:
Who were you to each other?
What was left unresolved?
Was there loss, separation, betrayal, or unfinished creative work?
In client work, I’ve repeatedly seen that once someone understands the theme of the shared past, they stop obsessing over the person and start working with the lesson. That’s when the connection stops feeling like a trap and starts feeling like a path.
Karmic astrology as a supporting tool
Astrology can offer additional insight into these dynamics:
Which placements are being activated
Where karmic lessons repeat
How each person triggers the other’s growth edges
While astrology isn’t the core explanation, it can help contextualize why certain themes feel unavoidable, and where growth is being demanded.
For readers interested in how specific karmic placements may reflect recurring life themes or relational triggers, I explore this further in my earlier Brainz Magazine article, What If the Root of Your Struggles Began in a Past Life?
Navigating these connections consciously: Practical tips
1. Prioritize meditation and inner connection
Meditation helps regulate the nervous system and strengthens self-awareness, reducing emotional reactivity. In intense soulmate or twin flame dynamics, what often becomes activated is not just emotion, but the traumatized mind, habitual thought loops rooted in fear, projection, and old survival patterns.
Meditation becomes essential here because it trains your ability to observe thoughts rather than automatically identify with them. This subtle shift allows limiting, trauma-based narratives to loosen their grip, creating space for greater clarity, stability, and grounded perception.
2. Feed your soul through passion and purpose
Creative expression, meaningful work, and embodied engagement with your interests help stabilize the nervous system and reduce unhealthy fixation on another person.
In periods of intense attachment or relational obsession, creative practice can also serve as a powerful regulating mechanism. Strong emotional energy does not have to be suppressed, it can be redirected. Channeling that intensity into writing, music, movement, or other forms of expression often transforms rumination into integration.
Many individuals find that what initially feels overwhelming becomes a source of creativity, insight, and self-connection when given a constructive outlet.
3. Allow any outcome
This is not “giving up.” It’s energetic maturity. Releasing attachment restores your sovereignty and creates space for truth to reveal itself.
4. Learn your trigger language (and communicate it)
If you’re in a soulmate relationship, recognize that you’re often activating deep emotional material in each other. Developing the ability to name your internal reactions can radically improve relational clarity:
“When you go silent, my abandonment fear activates.”
“When I feel controlled, I tend to withdraw.”
Equally important is learning to pause before reacting when you feel triggered. A trigger is not just discomfort, it is information. When approached with awareness rather than immediate defensiveness, it can reveal unresolved patterns, sensitivities, and unmet needs.
Paradoxically, welcoming the trigger instead of resisting it often reduces its intensity. The moment you shift from “Why is this happening to me?” to “What is this showing me about myself?”, you move from reactivity toward integration and self-alignment.
When both individuals become conscious of these dynamics and take responsibility for their own triggers, relationships that once felt unstable or painful can evolve into deeply supportive, harmonious, and emotionally secure bonds. The same mechanisms that create friction can, when understood, become powerful drivers of intimacy, trust, and mutual growth.
5. Stop reading signs when you’re dysregulated
When your nervous system is activated, perception becomes distorted. Everything can start to feel loaded with meaning, intention, or hidden messages. Before interpreting the other person’s behavior, or assigning symbolic significance to events, pause and ground yourself first.
Regulation precedes clarity. Interpretation is most reliable when your system is stable rather than emotionally charged.
6. Ask a better question than “Are we meant to be?”
Try:
“What is this connection trying to heal in me?”
“What part of me is trying to come home to itself?”
“What lesson repeats here, and how do I complete it consciously?”
7. Trust timing over control
Deep relational and inner-growth processes unfold in their own rhythm. Forcing clarity or resolution too early often creates unnecessary resistance.
Patience with the other person’s process is equally essential. In high-intensity connections, one person often reaches insight or readiness sooner than the other. This imbalance is common and does not indicate failure.
Pressure tends to amplify withdrawal. The more urgently one seeks reassurance or definition, the more the other may retreat or shut down. Allowing space, while staying grounded in your own stability, frequently supports healthier movement than pursuit.
Sustainable connection requires not only depth of feeling, but respect for timing, autonomy, and individual pacing.
The deeper purpose of these meetings
Ultimately, these connections aren’t here to complete you. They’re here to remind you of who you already are.
Often, people realize they’ve met for more than romance:
Shared talents
Creative collaboration
Mutual soul growth
Whether paths converge or diverge in the physical world, the work remains the same: to embody your soul fully, trust the process, and allow life to arrange itself accordingly.
When you stop fixating on outcomes and start living in alignment with your soul, everything finds its place, naturally.
When approached consciously, these connections cease to be experiences that happen to us and instead become processes through which we come to understand ourselves more fully.
Continuing the exploration
For those who wish to explore these themes more deeply, I offer sessions focused on mapping symbolic patterns, relational dynamics, and recurring life themes through karmic and subconscious frameworks.
Readers interested in the broader research context can explore my ongoing work and projects, including Reality Cult and IWasJimMorrison.com, where I examine questions of memory, identity, and soul patterning through artistic and investigative approaches.
My artistic practice further investigates these ideas through performance and creative experimentation, an approach I describe as past life integration expressed through creative ritual and embodied work, shaped in part by observing how intense relational experiences can be transformed into creative process.
For additional perspectives and practical tools, you can also browse my other Brainz Magazine articles, which expand on subconscious patterns, karmic themes, and identity dynamics.
Stephanie Smit, Reincarnation Researcher, Multidisciplinary Artist, and Spiritual Guide
Stephanie Smit (Giek) is a visionary, multidisciplinary artist and independent reincarnation researcher. Through her work, she bridges experimental art, esoteric science, and intuitive guidance to help others uncover past lives and activate soul remembrance. She has uncovered over 250 past lives for clients using a unique method combining astrology, tarot, and Akashic insight. Her projects have been showcased at major museums and festivals across Europe, including the Van Gogh Museum and Harvard Divinity School. She also develops sacred performances, poetic lectures, and zero-waste fashion inspired by her visions. Giek's mission is to awaken spiritual sovereignty and co-create a New World rooted in divine creativity and karmic truth.
Further reading in this research series:
If you’d like to explore this work in more depth, these related articles expand on different layers of past-life memory, subconscious patterning, and collective resonance:
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Reprogramming the Subconscious: How Past Life Imprints Shape Your Mindset and Success
When More Than One Person Remembers the Same Past Life – What Shared Soul Memories Reveal About You
New Project Explores Why So Many Believe They Were Jim Morrison in a Past Life
