How to Stay Grounded in High-Stress Situations and Practical Mindfulness for Professionals
- Brainz Magazine
- 3 hours ago
- 5 min read
Rita Haley, LMHC, is a leading behavioral health provider and emotional wellness coach specializing in CPTSD and mind-body medicine. She is the founder of Ground & Center, LLC, an online mental health and wellness program, and has guest-starred on platforms such as the Money Loves Women podcast.
Stress is part of being human, especially in professional life. Deadlines, conflict, uncertainty, and performance pressure: these situations often stir up more than just busyness. They can activate old patterns, such as over-functioning, freezing up, people-pleasing, anxiety, or just plain shutting down.
And if you’ve been the “go-to” person, the one who holds it all together for others, these moments can feel especially destabilizing. You might look calm on the outside, but feel completely unmoored inside.
Here’s the truth: you don’t need to eliminate stress to feel more grounded, and honestly, you couldn’t even if you tried. Some stress is a natural part of life. What matters most is having a way to stay connected to yourself in the midst of it.
Mindfulness isn’t about escaping the moment; it’s about meeting the moment from a more centered place. A steadier place. A place that already exists within you.
What it really means to be grounded
Being grounded means being present in your body, clear in your thinking, and connected to your values even when things feel intense.
When you’re grounded:
You respond instead of react.
You make decisions from clarity, not fear.
You honor your limits instead of overriding them.
But under stress, it's easy to slip into survival patterns like:
Fight: snappy, defensive, controlling
Flight: distracted, overworking, avoiding
Freeze: numbing out, procrastinating, disconnecting
Fawn: appeasing, over-accommodating, abandoning your needs
These aren’t personal failures, they’re your nervous system trying to protect you. But they can pull you away from your power.
Groundedness is not a personality trait. It’s a practice. And like any practice, it gets easier with time.
4 ways to ground in real time
You don’t need a 30-minute meditation cushion moment to come back to yourself. You just need micro-moments, simple, body-based practices you can use in the middle of your day. Here are four to try:
1. Anchor breath
When you feel anxious or scattered:
Inhale slowly through your nose.
Exhale even slower through your mouth.
Repeat three times, letting your shoulders soften.
This signals to your nervous system that you’re safe to pause.
2. Feet on the floor
When you feel unsteady or overwhelmed:
Place your feet flat on the ground.
Feel the support beneath you, soles to floor, seat to chair
Name what’s holding you up: “The floor is solid. The chair is here. I’m supported.”
This brings your awareness out of your head and into the present moment.
3. Name three things you see
When your mind is spinning:
Slowly look around and name three things you see.
(“A plant. A coffee cup. Light on the wall.”)
It’s a simple shift from internal chaos to external awareness. And that’s often all you need to reset.
4. Hand on heart
When you feel emotionally raw:
Gently place one hand over your heart.
Take a slow breath and say to yourself,
“I’m safe in this moment.”
This small gesture is surprisingly powerful; it brings reassurance when words fall short.
Each of these tools takes less than a minute. The key is intentionality, choosing to pause and reconnect when your instinct is to push through or shut down.
Personalize your grounding tools
Grounding doesn’t have to look the same for everyone. The more you tailor these practices to your natural rhythms, the more effective they become.
Ask yourself:
What tends to pull me out of presence? (e.g., multitasking, criticism, silence, overthinking)
What helps me come back? (e.g., music, movement, scent, deep breaths)
Your grounding cue might be the smell of eucalyptus, a favorite mantra, or even stepping outside for 60 seconds. Honor what works for you.
Boundaries begin with grounding
One of the most powerful benefits of mindfulness is how it supports boundaries. When you’re grounded, you’re more likely to:
Say no without apology
Pause instead of reacting
Make choices from your values, not your stress
Groundedness is about staying aware and connected to your experience, so you can center on your intentions and choose how you respond. It’s a practice that helps you move through challenges, surprises, and adversity not by avoiding them or reacting impulsively, but by showing up for yourself with honesty and care. It’s not about being perfectly calm; it’s about cultivating the kind of self-leadership that keeps you anchored, even when life gets messy.
Practice, not perfection
You won’t get this “right” all the time. That’s okay.
Stress will knock you off center. That’s not failure, it’s an invitation to return. Again and again.
Grounding is a muscle you build. And like any strength, it comes through repetition, not perfection. One breath, one pause, one moment of presence at a time.
You can be the calm in the chaos
You don’t have to wait for the world or your workplace to calm down before you feel steady.
You can be the calm. You can stay rooted in who you are, even in the storm. You can meet pressure without abandoning yourself.
Start small. Choose one of the practices above and use it once this week, maybe in a meeting, on a commute, or after a hard conversation.
Notice what shifts when you come back to your center. That’s where your power is. That’s where clarity lives. And that’s how real change begins.
If you're looking for ongoing support in building these skills without the cost of traditional therapy, you're warmly invited to join me in one of my upcoming workshops. Plus, get 10% off your first workshop here.
Read more from Rita Haley
Rita Haley, Licensed Psychotherapist and Wellness Coach
Rita Haley has, over the course of her career, endeavored to help hundreds of adolescents and adults overcome traumatic losses and experiences. After confronting and conquering her own trauma, Rita decided to transform her memories of pain into power and walk with her clients down the long, winding road to recovery. She approaches every case with immense empathy, compassion, and care. Because of the current shortage and ever-increasing need for mental health services, she founded Ground & Center, LLC, an online means of accessing therapeutic interventions with a licensed professional. It is her belief that ALL persons are deserving of compassionate and quality mental health services, and she is committed to providing a means to access them.
