How to Release Old Patterns by Becoming the Version of You Who No Longer Needs Them
- Brainz Magazine
- Aug 12
- 11 min read
Brianna Anderson is well known for her ability to translate and articulate complex information into simple, understandable concepts that resonate with diverse audiences. She is the founder of Universal Love Academy, an online learning platform, the host of Breathe Belief Podcast, and Author in development.
There comes a moment when you realize the battle you have been fighting is not with the world, but with the parts of yourself that cling to the familiar. The patterns you keep repeating are not chains made of steel; they are threads of habit that can be cut the moment you decide you are done letting them run the show. You were not born to live on repeat. You were born to rise, to rewrite, and to create something so true to your soul that the old loops cannot survive in its presence.
The warrior within you is not the one who fights harder; it is the one who chooses differently. It is the part of you that hears the old story playing and says, “Not this time.” It is the strength to walk toward the unknown because you trust that freedom lives there.
Breaking a pattern is not about destroying who you have been; it is about liberating the truth that has always been inside you.
If you feel the stir in your chest, if you hear the whisper telling you there is more, then this is your call to arms. Not the kind that wounds, but the kind that reclaims. Stand in the authority of your own becoming and watch the old patterns fall away like armor you no longer need. The warrior in you already knows the way; all you have to do is follow.
Awareness is the first key to change
A pattern is not who you are; it is simply the mind and body repeating a familiar sequence because, at some point, it believed that sequence kept you safe. Patterns are not personality; they are programming. They are the automatic ways you think, feel, and behave when your nervous system recognizes something it has experienced before. Every transformation starts with the simple act of awareness. You cannot release what you are unwilling to see. The first step in releasing old patterns is to recognize the ones you no longer wish to struggle through. This is not a casual noticing. This is a deliberate naming of the behaviors, habits, and choices that keep pulling you back into a reality you do not want to live in anymore. When you list the pattern, you drag it out of the shadows and into the light where it can no longer operate in secrecy. Awareness strips a pattern of its power because it is no longer automatic. It is seen. And what is seen can be shifted.
We have been taught to measure progress by material gain alone, as if the size of your bank account or the square footage of your home is the only proof that you are moving forward. That is the first place of conditioning. What if progress were not just about accumulation, but about awakening? What if the real metric were awareness, and the more awareness you consume, integrate, and embody, the more it fuels your expansion in the material plane?
This is not about abandoning luxury or high-end living; it is about rooting it in spiritual depth. When your awareness expands, you make choices from a place of truth instead of programming, from clarity instead of compulsion, from vision instead of fear. The new definition of progress is awareness. Take the journey of becoming exquisitely aware of that which you do not love and of that which you would love. See the patterns that dull your light and the visions that ignite it. Awareness is not just information; it is the alchemy that turns an ordinary life into a masterpiece. It is the invisible currency that multiplies into health, wealth, relationships, and fulfillment. The more you see, the more you rise. The more you rise, the more the material world bends to meet you.
Separate your true self from old behaviors
Once you see the pattern, you must create space between it and your sense of self. You are not your actions alone, nor are you a collection of subconscious reactions and emotions. You are the awareness behind them. You are the observer, the consciousness that can watch a thought pass by and choose whether to follow it or not. This separation is the most liberating part of change because it dissolves the idea that something is wrong with you. You are not broken. You are not in need of fixing. You are simply witnessing behaviors that have been running on old programming. When you stop identifying with the pattern, you stop being controlled by it.
There are many places where truth resides, yet few are as exquisitely personal as the Human Design and Gene Keys systems. These are not just tools for self-discovery; they are maps back to the essence of who you truly are. They reveal your original blueprint, the unique mechanics of your energy, and the deeper codes of your genius. We live in a time where we have more ability than ever to know ourselves, to discern what is truly correct for us, and to align our lives with what will bring deep fulfillment.
When you immerse yourself in these systems, you are not adopting someone else’s rules. You are remembering your own. You are learning the difference between the noise of conditioning and the signal of your inner authority. You are finding the path that was always yours, the one that feels like home because it was written into your design from the start. If you feel the call, I encourage you to begin exploring at Genekeys.com. Let curiosity lead you into the corridors of your own potential.
And remember, every pattern you have ever lived is simply neurotransmitters firing together, rehearsing an old story. That story is not set in stone. At any moment, you can change the script. You can rewire the mind, redirect the body, and rewrite the way your life unfolds. The design is the blueprint, but you are the author, and the next chapter is waiting for you to choose it.
Turn self-sabotage into self-preservation
It is easy to label a habit as self-sabotage, but when you look deeper, most patterns are born from self-preservation. They once existed to keep you safe in an environment that felt uncertain or unsafe. They were the armor you wore when the world felt too sharp. When you meet your patterns with gratitude instead of judgment, you see them for what they are: outdated protection. Releasing them is not an act of destruction; it is simply retiring clothing that no longer fits. You would not wear your middle school jeans to a black-tie gala, and you do not need to carry a survival pattern into your dream life. Before you let a pattern go, ask yourself what it was doing for you and what need it was meeting. Once you see that there are higher, safer, more expansive ways to meet that need, you will naturally loosen your grip on the old way.
Fill the void with vision, not discipline
When you release a pattern, you create space. That space is only a void if you do not know what you want to fill it with. Too often, people quit a behavior and call it discipline without realizing they have left an empty seat that the old pattern will rush back to fill. The easiest way to replace a pattern is not to fight it, but to swap it for a better one. When you quit an addiction or a habit, you are not just removing something; you are making room for something else, something richer, more aligned, and more life-giving. This is not a discipline problem; this is a vision problem. You need more imagination, more dreams, more clarity about who your future self is and why they no longer need this behavior.
Download that version of you in vivid detail, then begin living in alignment with them now. For more inspiration on the science of habit replacement and identity change, explore the work of James Clear at JamesClear.com.
There is a kind of dream so alive in you that discipline becomes irrelevant. You are not forcing yourself forward; you are being pulled. The vision is so magnetic it wakes you before the alarm, it feeds you more energy than sleep itself, and it asks you to rise not because you have to, but because you cannot imagine not showing up for it. Discipline without enrichment is a hollow road. You can walk it for years and still feel starved because what you are chasing is not feeding your soul. Fulfillment is born when the path itself nourishes you, when the process lights you up as much as the destination.
Create a vision so big that when you open your eyes in the morning, you have no idea how it will unfold, yet you are lit from within simply by the privilege of being the person brave enough to try. Let the dream be the current that carries you. Let it be the fire that keeps you warm in uncertainty. The size of the dream is not about ego; it is about allowing yourself to step into a life so rich, so full, so wildly alive that the journey itself becomes the reward.
Embody the new you until it becomes natural
Now we move from vision into embodiment. You act from the new assumption, the new pattern, the new behavior, not as a punishment or test of willpower, but as an experiment in curiosity and skill-building. Think of it as learning to ride a bike again, not because you fear failure, but because you are training for freedom. You begin to see that the old pattern and the new pattern are born from different identities, and those identities do not coexist. You will wobble at first, and that is fine. It is not about perfection on day one; it is about claiming your agency and choosing on purpose. You are allowed to choose the identity of perfection and refine it with each decision you make. To go deeper into the mindset that makes this possible, study the principles of the Law of Relativity at LawOfAttraction.com and understand how quickly you can unhook from the belief that something is wrong with you.
Trust your internal guidance system
Trusting your internal nudges is an art, and like all art, it begins with learning how to listen. Those whispers that rise in your body are not random; they are the voice of your intelligence letting you know when something in your life has expired and is begging for an upgrade. It might come as a restlessness you cannot explain, a subtle sense of disconnection, or a sudden spark of inspiration that will not leave you alone. One whisper at a time, one step at a time, your life begins to shift. The mistake most people make is waiting for a lightning-bolt moment when, in reality, transformation is built into the micro-decisions you make each day to follow that inner pull.
The way you build faith in those nudges is the same way you build strength at the gym: through repetition. You show up for the little prompts. You honor them, even when they make no logical sense. You let yourself experiment without demanding instant proof. Over time, your trust muscle grows. You realize that every time you have listened, you have been led somewhere better, somewhere freer, somewhere more aligned. And just like a workout routine, the more consistent you are, the more natural it becomes to follow that quiet guidance instead of defaulting to fear or habit.
The most inspiring truth of all is that you are not years away from what you desire; you are one vibration away. The shift happens in an instant, the moment you choose to match the frequency of what you want instead of the frequency of what you are leaving behind.
When you act from the vibration of your future self, you begin collapsing the timeline between where you are and where you dream to be. That is the power of following your nudges. They are not just whispers; they are coordinates guiding you to a reality that already exists for you, waiting for you to step into it.
Create outcomes that match your true desires
Creating a life you love begins and ends with self-understanding. This is not about chasing what you were trained to want by family, culture, or society. This is about asking yourself, without fear, "What do I truly want?" and then building from that answer. You take the unconventional path. You rewrite the rules. You go so deep into your inner knowing that you trust your essence more than you trust any external opinion. You eliminate the noise, the complexity, and the overthinking until what remains is simple. And what is simple is right. You begin creating reality from the inside out. You stop living as a reaction to your old patterns and start living as the author of your new life.
If money were no issue, how would you love to spend your time? This single question can unlock the most direct path to your passion and creativity. When you strip away the weight of survival and the pressure of obligation, what remains is the purest expression of your desire. If you can determine how you would like to use your time, you have found the rhythm that inspires you, the natural current that will carry you forward without force. This is not about escaping responsibility; it is about discovering the place where joy and purpose meet, where your energy is so alive that work feels like play and hours pass without you noticing.
Never overlook the simple. The mind will tell you it has to be complicated, that the answer must be hidden in something grand or far away. Yet the simple usually holds all the answers. Often, it is in the small, ordinary moments that your true inspiration is hiding, waiting for you to notice. A conversation that lights you up, a craft that engages your hands, a problem you cannot stop thinking about because you know you could solve it. When you honor the simplicity of what truly brings you alive, you will find that life has been showing you the way all along. The rhythm is already there; it is simply asking you to listen.
Lean into creating your own rules
Old patterns are not chains; they are costumes. You wore them once because they fit the role you were playing, and you kept them because you forgot you could take them off. You do not release a pattern by wrestling it to the ground; you release it by stepping into a role that has no use for it. The version of you who already has the life you want simply does not live the way you do now, and the sooner you meet that version, the sooner the old patterns fade like background noise.
Imagine working with a coach who reflects your soul so deeply that not only does your identity shift and your self-belief rebirth, but you finally understand how to create a life you truly love. This is exactly what happens when you step into my self-led Human Design course. It is the space where your patterns are exposed, your gifts are revealed, your talents are sharpened, and your purpose becomes undeniable. This is not about fixing yourself. It is about meeting the you who never needed fixing. It is about moving from self-sabotage to self-recognition and power. Life is good. It gets to be great.
Step into your greatness here.
Brianna Marie Anderson, Revolutionary Translator – Coach, Speaker, Author
Brianna Anderson is a trailblazer in Authenticity using Human Design and Gene Keys to revolutionize how people understand themselves and others. After a childhood marked by cycles of beginnings, middles, and ends, she sought lasting love from marriages that followed the same patterns. Through her own transformation, Brianna discovered the key to resolving the deep hunger for unconditional love-starting from within. As the CEO of Universal Love Academy, she empowers individuals to create a life full of adventure and fulfillment, free from expectations or shame about their unique journey. Her mission is to help people embrace every stage of their life with grace and purpose, knowing that true love begins with self-acceptance.
