Healing Is Not a Full-Time Job, And If It Feels Like One, Something’s Off
- Brainz Magazine
- May 28, 2025
- 4 min read
Chelsea Caler is a Functional Diagnostic Nutrition Practitioner specializing in helping high-performing women overcome low energy, chronic gut and hormones issues, and burnout. She combines personalized functional lab work with holistic lifestyle strategies to rebuild resilience and support whole-body wellness so that you can find your zest again.
You wake up early to journal and meditate. Prep a protein-rich breakfast. Slam a green powder. Listen to a podcast while squeezing in a strength session. Then it’s emails, client meetings, school drop-offs, deadlines, after-school activities, a quick walk, magnesium before bed, and if you're lucky, you get some sleep.
And you’re still tired. Still bloated. Still foggy. Still not quite yourself.
For so many women in our 30s and 40s, healing has become another job. And it’s exhausting.
We’re trying to be well, but we’re doing wellness the same way we’ve done everything else in life: by pushing harder, doing more, striving for perfection, and keeping up appearances.
But here’s the hard truth: if your healing feels like another thing you’re failing at, the process is failing you.
The “wellness hustle” is real, and it’s not helping
We’ve been sold the idea that health is a checklist:
Eliminate gluten, dairy, sugar, caffeine and joy
Take 15 supplements (at the right times, on an empty stomach)
Work out but don’t stress your adrenals
Sleep 8 hours, manage cortisol, meditate and journal
Read labels, track your hormones, and batch cook 3 different meals
It’s too much. And for many of us, it’s making things worse.
As women who grew up both pre- and post-Internet, we straddle two worlds:
We’re old enough to remember landlines, but young enough to run companies from our phones.
We’re raising kids and building businesses. Caring for aging parents and chasing career dreams.
We were conditioned to be everything to everyone, and somehow, we turned wellness into a performance, too.
I know this because I did it. I turned my own healing into a competitive sport.
I biohacked, fasted, detoxed, restricted, trained, tracked and crashed.
I was exhausted, anxious, in pain, and completely disconnected from my body.
And the deeper I went into “doing everything right,” the more lost I felt.
That’s when I realized: healing shouldn’t feel this hard.
The body doesn’t heal in hustle mode
Your body is not a machine to fix; it’s a system to support.
And it’s been talking to you.
That daily bloating? Your digestion is struggling.
That wired-but-tired feeling? Your minerals are depleted.
That rage before your period? Hormones and nervous system dysregulation.That morning coffee crash? You’re running on stress chemistry, not energy.
Here’s the truth most women aren’t told: Healing doesn’t come from piling on more; it comes from rebuilding your foundation.
And for women in our 30s and 40s, that foundation looks different. We’re navigating transitions. Hormonal shifts. Life pivots. Big identity changes. What your body needs isn’t a strict, cookie-cutter 90-day plan. It needs a regulated nervous system, mineral replenishment, digestive support and space to recalibrate.
What most women get wrong because the wellness industry told them to
The most common mistake I see women make?
They jump straight into protocols without ever supporting their core systems. They’re:
Overexercising and under-eating
Running on caffeine and willpower
Dismissing symptoms like bloating, anxiety or constipation as “normal”
Taking advice from influencers instead of interpreting their body’s needs
Most health advice was not created for women like us. It’s either:
Overly generalized (just “eat clean” and “reduce stress”)
Overly complicated (biohacking with cold plunges and peptide stacks)
Or completely detached from real life (who has 2 hours a day to micromanage their wellness?)
No wonder so many of us feel like we’re failing when really, we’ve just been misled.
What healing actually looks like and how I guide women back to it
In my work with clients, I bring them back to the basics that actually work.
We stop chasing symptoms and start supporting systems.
Here’s what that looks like:
Doing More | Doing Differently |
Strict food rules | Metabolic nourishment with real food |
Protocol overload | A personalized roadmap from simple functional testing |
Supplement fatigue | Mineral balancing + targeted support |
All-or-nothing mindset | Rhythms, rituals, and progress, not perfection |
Self-blame | Self-awareness and nervous system safety |
I use a foundational approach that includes a comprehensive mineral analysis, gut stool testing, nervous system regulation and lifestyle strategies that actually fit into your day, not derail it.
We prioritize:
Minerals first: because no healing happens without proper cell function
Drainage and detox pathways: so your body can actually release what it’s holding
Digestive resilience: to build back energy and lower inflammation
Emotional regulation and safety: because your body won't heal in survival mode
Real-life example
A client of mine came to me after spending two years on a restrictive gut-healing protocol. She was tired, anxious, bloated, and terrified of food. Her supplements filled a kitchen cabinet.
Within 8 weeks of working together, she was:
Sleeping more restfully through the night
Eating more without digestive issues
Off 70% of her supplements
Walking daily without anxiety
Finally feeling present with her kids again
Not because she did more, but because she finally stopped doing what didn’t serve her and rebuilt her foundation.
If healing feels like a job, it’s time for a shift
You don’t need another rigid protocol. You need clarity.
You don’t need perfection. You need permission.
And you don’t need a second job. You need your life back.
So let me ask you,
Are you ready to reset your energy, support your body and feel like you again without the overwhelm?
I am currently accepting new clients for women who want to get back to basics:
1:1 consulting
Foundational lab testing
Personalized mineral + lifestyle plan
Simple, supportive guidance to reconnect with your body
Let’s ditch the “wellness hustle” and get intentional.
Apply here.
Let’s rebuild the foundation together.
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Chelsea Caler, Functional Wellness Practitioner
Chelsea Caler is a Functional Diagnostic Nutrition Practitioner who pivoted from a successful career in commodity trading and consulting to functional wellness consulting after her own battle with burnout, chronic health challenges, and a profound identity shift. Her mission is to help high-performing women simplify and get intentional with their health and wellness journeys. By uncovering and addressing the cracks in the foundation, she supports her clients in rebuilding resilience from the ground up and inside out. Combining functional lab testing with personalized strategies, she makes complex concepts approachable, guiding her clients toward vibrant, sustainable health.
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