Written by: Pia Antico, Senior Level Executive Contributor
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Firstly! Congratulations for courageously choosing to pick yourself up, dust yourself off & move forward with a glimmer of hope for something better. It is a huge achievement, not everyone does it & even those who are forced into doing things differently; many don't choose to see the good in their circumstances; instead they remain in a state of anger & resentment. So, the fact you have decided to seek inspiration & encouragement shows how far ahead you are, even if it doesn't appear that way. Bravo!
Ok, you might be wondering who I am to be offering tips on starting from scratch midway through adulthood ‒ and that is fair enough! I could be a woman who reached 50 with no major bumps in the road.
But that isn't the case!
In the past 30 years of adulthood, I have rebuilt my life from the ground up three times: twice after leaving toxic marriages & an ongoing process of rebuilding after being run over at 100km/hr & sustaining a life-altering/career-halting head injury at the age of twenty-eight; an injury that spanned across both abusive marriages.
At 44, having returned back to my country with nothing but a suitcase and the clothes on my back; I embarked on life rebuild 3.0 that of course, is a work in progress.
Whether you were forced to rebuild due to uncontrollable circumstances or whether you decided to risk the shake up for the chance of something 'better', or like me it may be a blurry combination of both; in any case these 3 Tips are inspired from my personal experience & professional training as a Joy Reboot Mentor.
Tip 1. Realize past mistakes are part of growth
The number one way to close the door on the past is forgiveness, easier said than done you might say!
But funnily enough, no it really is as simple as deciding to stop trying to figure out 'why’, and waiting for closure from the offending party; and most importantly, it is choosing to stop whipping yourself for 'poor choices' that in hindsight appear really obvious.
When we realise that all of us have our own unique reality & that our feelings arise in response to the story, we are telling ourselves about our world; then we can let go of the sting of personal offense at other people's problem behaviour.
Similarly, we can forgive ourselves for making decisions based on limited & inaccurate conclusions.
We were all doing the best we could with what we knew; especially that many of us were not told where our feelings really came from.
Tip 2. Ask yourself what excites you
Thinking about the things that bring you joy can be a great starting point. Do you like puzzles?
Or perhaps you enjoy drawing more? Why wouldn’t you do that more often and release all that creative energy bubbling up inside?
Check out all the options you have and try the one most appealing. By doing something new, you will get a chance to meet new people and bring some colour into your life.
Let go of all the labels that other people put you in. If you want to make the change, you will need to make some changes yourself.
Reflection: Ask yourself “What would you do if there were no obstacles and you were guaranteed to succeed?”
Notice your instant uncensored response.
Also notice and release the 'yeah buts' that quickly follow the acknowledgement of your deep unspoken desires.
Tip 3 Claim your unapologetically authentic self
One of the most important things I had to start doing was reclaiming my personal power.
Begin with yourself.
Stop searching for external fixes to sort out your life, deep down, you know this isn’t working.
And that’s because until you look within and unleash your personal power, you’ll never find the satisfaction and fulfilment you’re searching for.
What I have discovered through embodying the Three Principles Paradigm (Sydney Banks) in my personal & professional life, is that the 'self' I was looking for was not the intellectual construction of habitual thinking labelled 'personality'; instead our true self is the wisdom consciousness that draws inspiration & guidance from the limitless Universe of unconditional love & joy.
Claiming our unapologetic authentic selves has nothing to do with constructing & expressing beliefs or enforcing our will on others.
Claiming your unapologetic self is the by product of tapping into your heartful wisdom & trusting its present moment guidance.
You are one fresh thought away from a completely new experience of ease & flow.
I have for you a quick set of micro Midlife Alignment Tools that will help you tap into your wisdom self & energize you to appreciate you infinite abundant well-being.
Pia Antico, Senior Level Executive Contributor Brainz Magazine
In the middle of a storm, it is possible to find peace & strength when we tap into our innate Spirit-led wisdom and step heartfully into the present moment.” ‒ Pia Antico
Pia Antico is the Founder of Essential Awakening Mentoring, a Crone Life Joy Reboot Mentor/Coach/Trainer, International Public Speaker & Best Selling Author.
She intuitively helps single, empty nester, businesswomen over 40 ditch their regrets, live unapologetically, age disgracefully & quit being an unwilling bystander in their lives. Without getting stuck rehashing, analyzing & reframing trauma stories.
Embodying her unique 6 steps AWAKEN the joy within©️ framework helps them to free themselves from limiting beliefs & create lives of fun through trusting the guidance of their carefree Higher Self Wisdom.
Pia holds three degrees in Psychology, Counseling Training, and Certification in the 3 Principles Paradigm & she brings into coaching a wealth of insights gained from a litany of growth experiences.
At 49, she is a 'three near deaths before 30, two abusive marriages, & major head injury life rebuilder' whose mission is to help single, empty nester businesswomen over 40 to effortlessly get past their darkest moments by tapping into their innate well-being.
So that they can shine the light of their radiant, joyful wisdom & step into their dreamed-of future.
Pia wants single empty nester women over 40 to know in their bones that their past doesn't predict their future & now is the time to dream big.
