What is Sacred Sexuality?
- Brainz Magazine
- Dec 11
- 5 min read
Updated: Dec 13
A former lawyer turned mystic, Jessica Falcon is an International Soul Embodiment Guide & Relationship Expert. She guides you to embody your power, reclaim your sovereignty, and experience true freedom. Tune into her Soul Sovereignty & Sexuality Podcast.
Sacred sexuality is anything but an act. It is a journey to uncovering the deepest parts of yourself, releasing the barriers to love inside of you, and experiencing holy communion with another by embodying your own divinity.
The words "sacred" and "sex" have not been used together for millennia. In fact, we have been taught that sex is anything but sacred. We are told that it is a "sin". We are shamed for our desires. We feel guilty when we want what we are told not to want.
Simultaneously, we live in a world that is seemingly obsessed with sex. You cannot walk down a city street without seeing billboards of half-naked women. Every magazine is full of images exposing body parts. Clothing stores dress up mannequins so they look appealing and sexy to passersby. Movies and television shows are full of sexual encounters.
How can we be so sexual as a culture, and so afraid of sex at the same time? Why is it easy for some people to loudly proclaim their sexual desires while other people have a hard time admitting them to themselves? How are we supposed to talk publicly about the very thing we are told makes us "bad" or "sinful"?
More importantly, how do we make sacred that which has been deemed anything but divine?
The answer lies within. What if our relationship to sex has nothing to do with the act itself and everything to do with our beliefs about it? When was the last time you questioned your beliefs about sex? How seriously have you looked at it? Not just as a casual observer, but with a deeply held interest?
What did your parents tell you about sex? Did you ever hear them having it? When were you first introduced to the idea of sex? Was it through a friend, parent, or teacher? Did they judge sex as good or bad? Were you raised in a religion that suggested you save sex for marriage? Did you feel desire for another body or person as a young adult? How was your first sexual experience? What makes sex "good" or "bad"? Why do you have sex? What drives your sexual desire?
This question about what drives your sexual desire is the most important to ask if you are interested in sacred sexuality. Sacred sexuality is not simply a concept. It cannot be taught intellectually. Nor can sacred sexuality ever truly be understood by somebody who does not view themselves as sacred.
Do you see yourself as sacred? Do you recognize the soul, your eternal and infinite self, within you? Do you recognize the soul within other people? As long as we view a body as "just a body", we cannot experience sacred sexuality. The body itself must be recognized as more than an object. It is a temple of the soul within. It is revered not as a body, but as an expression of that soul. It is touched not to take, but to honor.
This brings us back to the question about why you desire sex. Many people unconsciously desire sex to:
Get or take something, such as pleasure, orgasm, or touch
Be desired, "they want me"
Conquer another, "I got them"
Have power over somebody, "lure them in and spit them out"
If you are having sex, and your primary desire is not to connect with the other person, then how can it be sacred? If connection is not the goal, then what is? The word "sacred" means to revere, to respect, to see something as worthy of veneration.
If you are not seeing your sexual partner as worthy of respect, if you are not revering and honoring their presence, then what is the purpose of the sexual connection?
What enables us to revere another? Simply put, the heart. When we see another person through the eyes of the heart, we cannot help but be in reverence. We see their soul. We see who they really are. We do not see an image. We do not see an object. We do not see what we want. We see them. Therefore, there is nothing to take. You cannot use somebody for your own benefit when your heart is open to them. You cannot ignore their needs, feelings, or desires. You cannot demand or force.
Many people see sex, or even love, as a give-and-take. "I do this for you, you do that for me." "I please you, you please me." It quickly becomes transactional.
Sacred sexuality is not transactional. There is no give and take. There is only communion. To commune is to become one with something. The body and soul take the lead, not the mind. There is no protocol to follow. No pose to practice. No purpose other than connection.
The connection with your own body and soul, and the body and soul of the other person, feeds the movement. Thus, sacred sexuality is the art of:
Dropping into your body and its sensations
Opening up to your soul, your true self, the sacred and eternal part of you
Removing the barriers to receiving love and being seen that you have built around your heart, which includes releasing feelings of unworthiness
Trusting yourself, including your impulses and intuition
Releasing inherited beliefs, absorbed social conditioning, and past traumas that have created fear, shame, or guilt around what is quite possibly one of the greatest expressions of love and union available on this planet
This is, of course, a journey and cannot be done overnight. Sacred sexuality does not necessarily require a long-term commitment. Nor can it be experienced with just anyone. Trust between both people and an inherent sense of safety are essential ingredients. The beautiful thing is that love itself can create safety.
Sacred sexuality is love expressed in and through physical form. It is being an instrument of this love. An expression of this love. Sex is no longer an act, but a form of holy communion.
If you would like to learn more about how to embody your divinity so you can improve your relationships and open to the realms of sacred sexuality, you can learn more about working with me. A free womb meditation is available here that helps you activate your sexual energy, which is your life force energy.
Jessica Falcon, Soul Embodiment Guide & Relationship Expert
A former lawyer turned mystic, Jessica Falcon is an International Soul Embodiment Guide & Relationship Expert. She guides you to embody your power, reclaim your sovereignty, and experience true freedom.
Jessica spent years researching religious history, ancient civilizations, and mythology to get to the root of unequal power dynamics in relationships. She has identified the core beliefs and wounds that must be confronted to experience shared power and freedom in relationships.
She leads retreats, workshops, and online portals of transformation to help you embody your divinity, activate your sexual life force energy, and revolutionize your relationships. Tune into her Soul Sovereignty & Sexuality Podcast on all major platforms.
