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Reclaiming Self by Crossing Limits

  • Sep 16, 2025
  • 2 min read

Updated: Sep 17, 2025

Lynn Lessell is an entrepreneur who worked while raising two wonderful sons, though her journey to becoming an award-winning Top Concierge Coach was not easy.

Executive Contributor Lynn Lessel

There was a point when loss seemed like a prison, every setback another brick, the pain cementing me behind invisible walls. I had crossed so many boundaries by enduring heartache after heartache, yet I couldn’t step over the threshold of my own despair. Then, one day, when my friend refused to leave me lost inside myself, she crossed a physical and emotional boundary, overruling my silence and breaking through the barriers I had built.


Woman with arms raised in excitement stands in Times Square. Billboard displays her image with text about an award. Bustling street scene.

Her presence demanded I confront the walls I’d set around my heart. The knock on the door wasn’t just a noise, it was the sound of boundaries being tested, of care refusing to be shut out. When I finally let her in, it was the start of something I hadn’t allowed myself before, permission to prioritize my own well-being. For the first time, I chose to cross the boundary from being responsible for everyone else to taking responsibility for myself.


In that moment, saying aloud that I’d always cared for others but never for myself, I shattered an unspoken rule that had governed my life. I realized the boundaries I’d honored were keeping me from my true self, from the freedom and resilience my inner child still knew. Crossing into self-care was not a betrayal of loved ones left behind, it was a reunion with the parts of myself I’d abandoned.


Rediscovering the inner child is, in itself, a boundary crossing. It is the leap from resignation to possibility, from seeing oneself as a passive observer to rejoining the magic of life. Crossing boundaries sometimes means daring to ask, What rules are holding me back, and what have I outgrown? My journey proves that transformation begins when we challenge those edges so that we reach across, reach in, and reclaim what was ours all along.


What boundary do you need to cross to meet your inner child again? What rules keep you from rediscovering the magic that is already yours?


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Lynn Lessell, Entrepreneur

Lynn Lessell is an award winning Top Concierge Coach, entrepreneur, and mother of two wonderful sons. Her path to success came with many challenges. She once believed that making others happy and meeting outside expectations was the way to succeed. That belief led her to burnout. It was only after hitting rock bottom that she saw what had been missing all along. She learned that stress is a silent force that affects both the mind and body. Lynn took back control by building her resilience and now helps others do the same. She offers 24/7 concierge coaching through text and email because she believes life doesn’t happen once a week. She is the founder of Inner Power Partners® a growing community for professionals in 10 cities. Lynn is also the co-author of The Grass Grows Where I Am and the upcoming Merging Me.

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