How to Feel Worthy and Why It’s Important
- Brainz Magazine
- May 9
- 4 min read
Updated: 7 days ago
Sophie Benbow is a self-development coach, mindfulness and meditation teacher who holds various qualifications in Health & Fitness.
Let’s start here: feeling worthy isn’t something you earn. It’s something you connect with. So many of us are walking around believing we need to do more, be more, achieve more before we can finally feel “enough.” It’s subtle and often unspoken, but it shapes the way we show up in our relationships, our careers, and how we care for ourselves.
We strive, we compare, we self-correct endlessly, all in the hope that one day we’ll feel truly confident and secure. But worthiness doesn’t live at the finish line. It’s not waiting for us once we’ve healed, succeeded, or changed. It’s available now.
The question is: can we allow ourselves to feel it?
The worthiness wound
For many of us, our sense of worth was shaped early on, through the words we heard, the attention we received (or didn’t), and the standards we absorbed from family, school, culture, and media.
We may have been praised for being “good,” “clever,” “slim,” or “high-achieving.” And while those affirmations can feel validating in the moment, they often teach us that love and approval are conditional, that we’re only valuable when we perform, produce, or please.
This becomes the foundation of what some call the “worthiness wound.” It shows up when we overextend ourselves, avoid setting boundaries, or struggle to receive. It tells us, you’re not good enough yet.
But awareness is the beginning of change. When we notice these patterns, we can begin to heal them.
What it really means to feel worthy
Feeling worthy isn’t about being perfect. It’s about knowing that, at your core, you are lovable, valuable, and enough, as you are.
It’s a quiet inner confidence, not based on external validation but on self-connection. You can hold your flaws, your growth, your humanness, and still choose to honour yourself.
Worthiness doesn’t make you arrogant. It makes you grounded. It lets you take up space without apology, speak your truth without guilt, and show up with your whole heart.
Why it’s so important
When we don’t believe we’re worthy, we often stay stuck:
In relationships that drain us
In work that doesn’t fulfil us
In habits that numb rather than nourish
We overgive. We undercharge. We say “yes” when we mean “no.”We shrink, not because we lack talent or ambition, but because we fear we’re not enough to ask for more.
Worthiness is the root of real self-development. Without it, mindfulness becomes another tool for self-criticism. Meditation becomes a task we try to “get right.” Even self-care becomes performative.
But when we anchor into our worth, our choices change. We start to care for ourselves not to fix or improve, but because we know we deserve our own kindness.
How to reclaim your worth: Mindful practices that help
Here are a few gentle ways to begin reconnecting with your inherent worth:
1. Heart-centred meditation
Sit quietly and bring your awareness to your heart. Breathe into that space and repeat, I am enough. I am worthy of love and kindness. I am allowed to take up space.
2. Write yourself free
Journaling prompts can help uncover and reshape your beliefs:
Where did I learn I wasn’t enough?
What would I say to my younger self?
I am worthy of.
The version of me who feels worthy would.
3. Mirror work
Stand in front of the mirror each morning and say: I love and accept myself exactly as I am. It may feel uncomfortable at first, but keep showing up. That discomfort is healing.
4. Honour your needs
Every time you rest, say no, ask for help, or speak kindly to yourself, you affirm your worth. These small acts are powerful.
5. Tune into the present
Worthiness is a feeling that exists in the now. Mindfulness helps us meet ourselves here, not in the past we’re healing from or the future we’re chasing.
The ripple effect of worthiness
When you truly feel worthy, your life begins to shift. You’re no longer trying to prove yourself. You’re not waiting for permission to show up fully.
You trust your voice. You set clearer boundaries. You welcome love, not just in others, but from yourself.
And the most beautiful part? When you live from a place of worthiness, you give others permission to do the same.
So if you’re looking for one place to begin your self-development journey, start here:
You are already enough.
You always have been.
Sophie Benbow, Self-Development Coach and Mindfulness Teacher
Sophie Benbow is a self-development coach, mindfulness and meditation teacher who holds various qualifications in Health & Fitness. She aims to guide you on a journey of self-love, healing and compassion. Head on over to her website to enquire about coaching, listen to her meditations and follow her social channels.
