Written by: McKing Lee, Executive Contributor
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Welcome back and this is Part 3 of How Our Mind Works (according to a hypnotist). Now if you haven’t already, please go on ahead to read Part 1 and Part 2. Because if you continue, I’m going to assume you already have basic concepts laid out in both parts. I can wait you know…
Alright, I assume you have read it 😊
And today we will be looking at how our problems came about
The truth is… and it shouldn’t be a surprise…
Everyone has issues!
The difference is the intensity or severity, the different types of issues, whether we learn how to manage or resolve them, whether we seek help or not, and so on
Yet, why does everyone get issues in one form or another?
Is it just life?
As luck will have it… yes, it is because of life
The Unusual Seeding of Issues
Let’s go back to a baby
The baby while growing up, will experience different emotions
Anger, sadness, happiness, love, etc
And in fact, the first time it experiences an emotion, it is like planting a seed of that particular emotion in the fertile ground of the unconscious mind
What will happen is that as the child grows up, any event or circumstances that add to a particular emotion will water or fertilize that same seed of emotion
And that seed will grow, into a sapling, and it might even grow into a tree
And thereby lies the problem
You see, if the child grows up in an abusive or hurtful family environment, the seeds of… say sadness will grow over time
And once it grows into a tree of sadness, each branch relates to a different aspect of life
Let’s say there are 2 long branches and some short ones for now
One long branch might be work and the other might be family, which means this person will experience a great deal of sadness in work and family
The short branches might be their lover, their friends, themselves, hobbies, etc
And because they do not feel sad with those aspects (for now) they will want to find them and feel relief
Now remember, I’m using a tree as a metaphor, and a tree can grow
Without treatment or resolving the original source, the tree of sadness might grow into aspects of the lover, friends, hobbies, etc
Worse, the tree might bear fruit!
For the fruit, I will say it’s like a drastic manifestation of the original emotion of the tree
Meaning, for the tree of sadness, it might bear the fruit of depression
For the tree of anxiety, it might bear the fruit of panic attack
And so, if the family creates a lot of sadness or anger or anxiety, it is very possible for the tree to grow really fast and the fruits for such severe mental health issues
At the same time, even if the family is positive and supportive, the child is not exempted from mental health issues
It’s just that the seed of sadness (for example) grow really slow and perhaps when they are 40 years old, it’s just a sapling
It’s manageable!
However, we cannot deny that sometimes odd things might occur, and if the person is unable to handle the grief of say… an accident, the passing of a loved one, the diagnosis of cancer etc
That person might have a ton of water and fertilizer added to the sapling of sadness and it grows immediately and bears the fruits of depression
This is what I share about how and why mental health issues can affect anyone, anytime, any age…
Now What About Other Types Of Issues?
It is pretty similar
While I described the above through the context of emotion, we can replace it with behavioral issues or patterns too
Essentially this usually means the baby or child might have observed one of both parents displaying a particular behavior or pattern, and the child absorbs and learns that behavior
Here’s a brief case study to illustrate this
A lady contacted me and she shared how her husband was verbally abusive and manipulative, he will scold her and blame her for things that go wrong even though it isn’t her fault, and she wanted me to hypnotize her to be stronger to be able to endure this
I told her honestly that it doesn’t make sense, because it sounds like hypnosis will just be a plaster and her husband will continue to hurt her… I will rather find a way to stop the hurt
One way is for the husband to get the hypnosis instead, which she denies as he won't see himself as having an issue, the other way was to divorce, but she also denies because she has a young boy, age 3 and she feels she need the guy around
After sharing about how the mind works, I caution her that her son might learn from her husband, and whether or not the son will scold her like how her husband does it, the son will likely grow up to treat his future girlfriend or wife the same…
My client stared back at me and said… my son… he is already doing it… when my husband isn’t around, my son will scold me using the same words and tone like how my husband scolds me…
This is an extreme case, and yet more common than you think
And such things usually worsen over time because the tree gets bigger and larger… spreading its branches further and wider…
How Can Hypnosis Help?
There is a technique in hypnosis called a regression and while you might know of past life regression, this is mainly just the normal or current regression
Some people might call it timeline therapy
They are all the same to me :P
Now what a regression does is to follow the fruit or branch, down the trunk, to find the original source, the seed that start this whole tree
And upon finding it, we resolve it
How we resolve this depends on how the seed got planted so I won’t be going into the different variations at this point
And yes, some people do return to as a baby barely a few months old, because their parents had an argument in front of them and the baby was frightened
Others might return to time as a fetus because something happen then that started the entire issue!
The main is this, once we find the seed and resolve it, the entire tree is cleared once and for all!
You might be thinking, maybe you are 30 years old and still get yelled at by your mom, even if you resolve the original hurt from a child, isn’t she still hurting you?
That’s the funny thing
When the entire tree of emotion is cleared, even if she does hurt you again, it will be a new hurt, a small hurt, a manageable hurt
You as an adult know how to deal with new hurt!
The baby or child you had absolutely no idea at all!
However, more often than not, you might find the “abuser” stop abusing for whatever strange reason, which I might discuss in subsequent articles
Stay tuned, check out my blog here.
Thank you for reading and I’ll see you next time! :D
McKing Lee, Executive Contributor Brainz Magazine
McKing Lee is a conversational hypnotist, NLP Practitioner, and a student of life. After nearly dying in his sleep when his lung burst for no reason, McKing develop Post Traumatic Stress Disorder and fell into depression. He subsequently sought his own recovery through learning NLP and hypnosis. Having a unique understanding of how the mind works, he has helped many people with mental and psychological issues, relationship and emotional issues, and interestingly enough, sometimes physical ailments too. McKing was recognized and won APAC SEA Business Awards Hypnotist of the Year 2020, and has been featured in local and overseas media over the years. He aims to help people as effectively as possible, through sharing of knowledge and with the right application of skills.
