Exclusive Interview With Raminder K. Hayre On How To Live A Purpose-Driven Life

Brainz Magazine Exclusive Interview

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Raminder K. Hayre, or "The RKH", is best known for her spiritual activism, and healing business. She is a lawyer that transitioned out of conventional practice to make education accessible to the public via her social media platforms. She is a leader in the space of helping clients and professionals find their purpose through understanding their energy, and activations that they were born with. She was named one of the leading women in industry impact by Women in Business, and strives to help people limit burnout by focusing on their inherent success codes.

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Can you start by introducing yourself, who is Raminder K. Hayre?

I was born and raised in the Lower Mainland, which is right outside Vancouver.

I am a lawyer turned spiritual healer. I went to university for a long time, did my master's in business, a sociology degree, and went to law school. I always assumed that I was going to be a lawyer growing up, I never thought that I would differ on my path or choose to do something like spiritual healing.

I am of South Asian background and therefore linking my aura to spirituality is pretty simple in my culture. For the last couple of years, I've been working on transitioning out of the law to focus on my spiritual healing business full-time. People often wonder why I made such a big change, and that is not something that I didn't choose to do. I was chosen to do it, if that makes sense. I had to make the difficult decision and I don't regret it; Now I run a life-purpose business. Life coaching is essentially like holistic therapy. I'm not a counselor or a registered therapist, but I sit down with my clients and I help them to understand their spirituality, what their purpose is, what their design is, how they're meant to succeed, and how to avoid burnout. I think the natural thing that came up in the last couple of years was individuals questioning their purpose in life through the pandemic.

Being a healer, you're naturally in tune with what your past lives were and what you did. I came back, let's say, to do all this work again. I get to help other people figure out what their purpose is, help them heal, eliminate burnout, help them find success in their careers and their passions in a way that we're not taught in the conventional system.

Can you tell us more about your work and how you ended up where you are today?

My business and coaching are based on what our human design is. All of us are built with a specific design. An energy type and profile that is built to make us succeed. When we're in the system and when we're in the conventional system, we're professionals. We are taught to succeed based on a great cookie-cutter strategy. But The thing is, we're all unique individuals that are unique in our energy. Curating our business, our growth, and our success based on that energy is actually what makes us profitable. It's what helps us succeed. I teach people about where their activations are in their chart and what they are. Sabotage or fears come up to be apparent, right? How has your wound growing up or your relationship with your family or romantic partners impacted you? The way you show up to the world, the way you show up for your success and your value, it's an all-encompassing sort of coaching platform. And then the other side is helping women heal their womb space to conceive naturally. So that's a whole other aspect of the business.

I use my legal background and knowledge as an activist now to teach the public on my Instagram and my YouTube about what purpose is, what law is, and what policy I'm giving my opinions publicly about. I've created a niche in that space where people come for a different perspectives.

How does someone bring intuition into their business to attract ideal clients?

We are kind of taught to be of a money mindset, right? We want to bring all the clients in. We want to bring all the money in. The way that we bring this in is by attracting those that are meant to be around us, right? We can't possibly relate to every single person on the planet. That's where we start to kind of doubt ourselves and what we're, you know, what our worth is and if we're going to be valuable to another individual. The thing is, what people are attracted to is when we use our intuitive ability or when we use our guidance system to create programs or offerings or workplaces that are in alignment with that specific person. Like people base their business on their workplace on a structured model, right? Let's look at your business plan and what is the SWOT analysis. What are your strengths, and your weaknesses? What's your target? Who's your audience? Things like that. What are your opportunities in this space? The thing is that that differs based on every individual that's creating that space as well as every individual that's coming in.

If we are continuously trying to relate to everybody, we don't relate to anybody.

Using our intuition allows us to see how we want to show up. It's like; “what would I want in this space)”, “how would I feel connected to and who do I want to bring in that also feels that same level of connection?”, “what do they want to hear?”, “what do they want to see?”, and “how do they want to feel?”. Over time we've become bogged down with how everything has been created that we've kind of lost that human element along the way.

Using our intuition is those nudges that we get doing something different that somebody else hasn't done before. Blocking out the noise and understanding that because our idea is unique, it will be met with criticism and resistance because people are not used to seeing something new. Every single business person, or entrepreneur, has gone through that rejection. The billionaires, millionaires, and whoever people look up to is someone with influence has gone through that rejection with somebody telling them that their idea isn't good or that it's not going to be received well. When we're able to block that out and listen to what our guidance is telling us. Only then are we able to lead ourselves based on what we know feels good, and that's a huge part of our design. When we feel good, lit up, and excited, that means that we're in alignment with our truth, with our purpose, as well as with what we know we can create. When we start to feel the bitterness, frustration, burnout, sadness, and anger, that's when we know our body is telling us, OK, the compass is completely going, you know the wrong way, you're going in the wrong direction.

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How can we live a purpose-driven life?

How I explained this to clients in my audience is that purpose is the way we act, it's not a destination. It's ensuring that we are living in our truth at all times. That's the way we speak, that's the way we take action steps. That's what we tolerate. Right? Those are the ways that we live with a purpose and we all have a unique purpose within our human design. I do those sorts of readings to help people assess what's my design. It ends up being a lot of reassurance and validation of how this individual knows they work well or what they want to do intuitively. Then maybe they talk themselves out of right on our path of purpose. We have destinations that could be a career, a person, a vacation, and the way that we create a hiccup in our life.

As humans, we think our purpose is a destination. We think our purpose is creating a family or getting this car or doing this job and we start to define ourselves and our identity based on this thing. We don't allow ourselves to grow because growth is uncomfortable. Our ego doesn't like growth because it doesn't like uncertainty. We will use every single excuse we can to stop ourselves from making a more purposeful decision. A purposeful decision could be something like getting a divorce, quitting the job, or making a move that maybe others don't want you to do, but you're willing to do because you know that it's the right thing based on your intuition. The way that we can live a life of purpose is by focusing on what feels good for us. What ends up getting in the way is our conditioning in our chart. That's what I call our susceptibility in our human design chart. So that's where people's thoughts and opinions come in the way. That's when you're not able to tune into what your heart's desires are when you don't listen to your instinct when you don't listen to your emotional response.

Once we realize that our decisions are based on the opinions of others is when we have the awakening moment. How many times we've chosen somebody else's comfort or not wanting to be uncomfortable as you know our choice, we all have the power of choice. Even if it's a difficult decision or you're choosing between two shitty options, you have that power of choice, right? Feel free to block that word out, but we all can make a decision whether we think that's good or bad and that ends up changing our trajectory. Which is giving ourselves the time and space to think about what feels good in our heart. People may think that's cliche, but that's really what allows us to make a business that is truly successful because it's one of passion. A lot of passion projects are what have created a successful business even though you have hardship along the way of creating it, at the end of the day you're happy in what you're doing?

A lot of people are starting to figure out that they're not happy and what they're doing based on where their priorities are, based on taking more rest than they ever have these last couple of years, and are now starting to adjust and learn more about themselves as well as like what their new routine is or what they want to create. I think that there's beauty in that. It comes with making those difficult decisions.

You are also a former professional dancer and have danced across North America, and judged a competition in Australia. Has dance taught you anything that you still carry with you today in your current work?

I love that question and I do sometimes bring in this perspective when I'm just talking or when I naturally come up, so I'm really happy to include that here.

I was a dancer for about 18 years of my life, from the age of 3 to 21. I did ballet, hip-hop, and jazz. I also danced professionally in Punjabi folk dancing, which is called Fagra BHANGRA, and that's where I competed throughout Canada and the States. It is also the same dance that I judged when I lived in Australia while I did my masters and went to law school.

The one thing about growing up as an athlete of any sort or having a passion or a hobby that you pursue is persistence and resilience. Punctuality was a huge one as well, you gotta make it to practice on time. You gotta make it to your competition on time. You gotta make it to rehearsal on time. I think that that shaped me to be someone that's able to micromanage very well. At the time when I got older and danced, between 11-12 years old, I started to volunteer. I volunteered around the studio and it eventually turned into teaching and coaching as a volunteer in various types of dance for me, having many things to do at one time and juggling all of that was just second nature. It's not anything I thought about. Like I knew what blocks of time I had. I was more productive in school because I made sure I did my homework because I knew I had to go dancing after. It's not anything I wanted to miss.

I also made great friendships, people that I'm still friends with after, you know, almost 30 years. People I still relate to, grew up with, and have been able to maintain that connection with. I think being in a team environment in a sport like dance or hockey or soccer, you're around the team and we built a bond, and no matter what sort of environment that I was in my best friends right now are people I professionally danced with. The amount of stuff that you go through, the community you have, the family, the tension, Saying they got the success and the triumph.

It allowed me to see beauty and growth. For us as team members it has been profound. Seeing where we were a decade ago and what we may have created problems about, disagreed on, or argued about is something that we worked through to maintain this connection. I think once I can, when I see that as a healer, I find a lot of beauty in that because at that point you may not think that you're going to still be friends with this individual in 10 years or 20 years down the road, and then you see how your connection has grown and how they're like a family member to you. I think being able to see the evolution from being in my teens to now fully in my adult years, allows me to see the possibility that you can build that strong connection outside of. A family dynamic.

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Is your work inspired by anyone or anything special? Do you have something or someone that keeps you motivated?

To be honest, the people that keep me motivated are individuals like Ruth Bader Ginsburg, who was one of the Supreme Court judges in the US, who's now passed Chief Justice McLaughlin, who was the Chief Justice in Canada. They keep me motivated as individuals that were lawyers and judges because they mastered the voice of dissent. What I mean by that is that they created a name for themselves and a reputation for having a minority voice. For me as a spiritual activist, it can be difficult because I am met with censorship, I am met with ridicule, and hate. Even though I'm not practicing anymore and with that came choosing to give up my goal to be a judge, which was very difficult because Since the age of 14, I've seen myself being a judge, being on the Supreme Court, I had to decide whether having a public influence is more important versus staying in a system that I believe just unproductive.

That's why I look up to people that have built a name on opinions that I have or that I would have. They help me maintain hope and my trajectory in my path. That's what helps me stay on purpose. Because if I were to allow other people's opinions of my voice to get in the way, I would, I would have shut off my social media 10 years ago.

What do your future plans look like? Is there something new and exciting going on?

Yeah, I think the choice of leaving the system has allowed me to expand right or allowed me to not put limits on what I can achieve.

Because if I were to, if my mind was like, OK, you're going to be a judge, that's what you're going to do, right? Of course, I can move up the ranks in that specific role, but I would be limited in my scope of what I could do, which was another reason why I decided to go to non practicing. So, what makes me excited about my life and my brand now is like, I can do whatever I want with it. It's my baby. It's my rules, it's my system, right? I can raise it as I like.

I would love to do more conferences and things like that where I'm speaking with other healers. It's just my first year of really planning this as my full-time gig. I anticipate a lot of unique opportunities coming my way once more professionals start to adjust their mindsets to bring empathy into the workplace. I also aspire to be in workplaces to help them create an environment that is based on individual energy, strengths, and weaknesses that aren't talked about. Teaching them about their employees and being like this is how these types of people work, this is what's productive for them to do. This is how you can create more success than that and I think that we're opening up that space right now where it's going to be more mainstream rather than something that's boutique - rather than people branching out and making this their own, like their own safe space.

As the years go on, I anticipate and predict that that sort of safe space will be something that bigger corporations seek to have because of its retention right there. Retention is their success. If they're unable to retain employees, it's because they're doing something wrong internally. I think that they're going to start to look at how they can retain people by bringing empathy into the workplace.

I also plan to write a book! It is interesting to me since I am intuitive. The last two years I've been very public about it on my platform, including things like what dates mandates are going to go away or what's going to be the next step in our government, that sort of stuff. I see things from the future and I want to bring that perspective into the book.

So that's one of my main goals right now, as well as creating more content around purpose and getting people connected to wanting to know more about theirs!

For more info, follow Raminder on Facebook, Instagram, Youtube and visit her website!