Adding Weight To Wait
- Aug 23, 2022
- 4 min read
Written by: Dr. Kalisha Ogletree, Executive Contributor
Executive Contributors at Brainz Magazine are handpicked and invited to contribute because of their knowledge and valuable insight within their area of expertise.
Yes! You want to start a business. Yes! You want to invest in yourself. Yes! You want to do different things and visit places you have never been to. Yes! You want to create something that you feel really good about. Yes! You want more. This is a recurring theme that we all have been a part of at some point. And then, we discover that there is not enough time, money, resources, people to help, things to go around, just not enough moves to make, and most importantly, nothing to start with or give to help you with your jump start.
Then there is something else – waiting. It is heavy, so it feels like an actual weight.
There is always something you can do now to get you started that does not require anything other than what you have now. The resources that are all around you, and you did not even realize that they will be the most, best, wow factor thing ever. Sometimes it will jump out at you, and you will have that moment of “why didn’t I think of this, to begin with,” and then sometimes, you will have to go and find it. It is merely asking yourself a simple question such as, “What do I have within reach that can make (the thing) happen for me”? Then, the part some of us hate, waiting. We tend to answer our question rather than let it float for a while until the answer finds us or we find it.
A Commercial and a Rap Group
Nobody likes to wait, but from a commercial, the saying “patience is a weapon” makes waiting seem like a strong indicator that presents itself as a silent, strong, and resilient winner. Seriously. Take a moment and pause in the middle of this article and ask yourself, “What would have happened if I had never waited”? Or. Reframe the question and ask yourself, “What would have happened if I had waited”? The same question, take the never out of the first question.
Outkast (the lyrical rap group) also said, “Patience is a virtue; being anxious just might hurt you.” So not only is patience a weapon, but it is also a virtue. Can you wait? Can you start now with what you have and wait for the rest to come? It is not about waiting then starting, it is more about starting, progressing, learning, improving, progressing further, learning more, and improving more in a cycle where waiting becomes a lightweight (wait), and it is no longer a heavy weight (the impatience that we create for ourselves).
Wait vs. Weight
Look at it this way. You carry the five pounds when starting, and as the time moves forward, it no longer feels heavy since you have carried the five pounds for a while. Since those five pounds are no longer heavy, you add five more pounds of time to your wait (your weapon), carry the extra weight (now you are holding ten pounds) until it becomes lighter, and it starts to feel like a five pounder again. This process, after a while, will repeat itself as you add more to what you have already built during the process.
What can you do now?
Simple, wait – more like hold the heavyweight! Write a plan, and write down what you need to get started. Research. Everything is on Google (the world says). There are also books, journals, and articles to read while you wait. Talk to someone who does that thing you want to do, stay curious, ask questions, join a group, and follow similar people who pique your interest that can help with the next step.
Most importantly, carry the weight (wait). It becomes lighter and lighter until the weight (wait) is nonexistent for you anymore. Because what would you do now if you were granted everything you asked for? Would you even have it five years from now? Better yet, are you even mentally ready for it? Can you hold and walk with this wait (weight) until it feels lighter?
The best part is that you don’t have to carry the weight alone! Let’s discover YOU while you wait.
Dr. Kalisha Ogletree, Executive Contributor Brainz Magazine
Dr. Kalisha Ogletree is a former educator and a life coach who helps others reach their goals, develop their own self-efficacy, and make transitioning to a new stage of life easy and doable for them. Being a former educator has provided Dr. Ogletree with the strategies and skills that she uses to help others develop their own strategies and habits while making exciting life changes for themselves. She believes in taking small steps to create big changes and believes that no matter how big a dream is if you really want it, you can achieve it.
