Written by Lesley Nickleson, Dietitian Lesley Nickleson is a Board-Certified Integrative Functional Nutrition Dietitian and Certified Meditation Teacher advocating for functional nutrition as a leading-edge approach to modern healing. Through writing, education, and results-driven frameworks, she translates complex science into real-world impact. Gut health has become one of the most talked-about areas in nutrition, and for good reason. We now know the gut is far more than a digestive tract. It is home to a complex ecosystem of microorganisms that influences digestion, immunity, metabolism, inflammation, hormone balance, mood, and even weight regulation. During midlife, this ecosystem becomes increasingly important. Hormonal shifts, medications, chronic stress, lower fibre intake, disrupted sleep, and years of accumulated lifestyle habits can all influence the health of the gut microbiome. Rather than trying to change everything at once, this guide takes you through four simple pillars of gut restoration. By focusing on one pillar each week, you’ll gradually create the conditions for a healthier, more resilient microbiome. Understanding the gut ecosystem Your gut is home to trillions of microorganisms, including bacteria, fungi, and other microbes. Together, they form what is known as the gut microbiome. One of the most remarkable discoveries in nutrition science is that these microbes actively produce compounds that influence our health. Among the most important are short-chain fatty acids, SCFAs, which are produced when beneficial gut bacteria ferment dietary fibre and resistant starch. The three primary short-chain fatty acids are butyrate, acetate, and propionate, and their effects extend far beyond the digestive tract. Perhaps the most fascinating part is that your body doesn’t make these compounds. Your microbes make them for you. The Gut Health Pathway starts with dietary fibre, to beneficial bacteria, to short-chain fatty acids, to better health. Research suggests that short-chain fatty acids help nourish the cells lining the colon, strengthen the intestinal barrier, reduce inflammation, improve insulin sensitivity and metabolic flexibility, stimulate satiety hormones such as GLP 1 and PYY, and support healthy immune function. These remarkable compounds are one of the primary reasons why a healthy microbiome matters so much. Over the next four weeks, every step in this guide is designed with one goal in mind: to help your beneficial gut bacteria produce more of these remarkable health-promoting compounds. Pillar one: Restore the environment The first pillar is about creating an environment where beneficial bacteria can thrive. Begin by reducing the foods that work against a healthy gut microbiome, including added sugars, ultra-processed foods, and refined carbohydrates. Diets high in these foods are typically lower in fibre and plant nutrients, while being higher in refined starches, added sugars, emulsifiers, preservatives, and other additives. Take a moment to explore your usual intake. Where are added sugars showing up? Sweetened drinks, baked goods, candy, sugary cereals, or flavoured yogurts? Where are ultra-processed foods appearing most often? Packaged snacks, fast foods, frozen meals, processed meats, or foods with chemical additives? As often as you can, replace these foods with whole or minimally processed choices, often described through the NOVA Classification of Foods. Think whole grains like oats and quinoa, colourful vegetables and fruit, extra virgin olive oil, nuts, seeds, and quality proteins such as legumes, eggs, fish, and poultry. If your digestion is sensitive, start with foods that are gentle and easy to digest. Cooked vegetables, soups, stews, oatmeal, rice bowls, and roasted vegetables are often better tolerated than large raw salads. This week’s focus: Create a healthier environment for your microbiome by making room for more whole, nourishing foods. Pillar two: Build microbial diversity With the foundation now in place, the next pillar is to nourish your beneficial bacteria by increasing the diversity of plants in your diet. Based on findings from the American Gut Project, one of the most practical ways to support your microbiome is to aim for 30 different plant foods each week. This doesn’t mean thirty servings of vegetables. It means thirty different plant foods. The good news is that vegetables, fruits, whole grains, beans, lentils, nuts, seeds, herbs, spices, and even herbal teas all count toward your weekly goal. For example, breakfast might include oats, blueberries, ground flaxseed, walnuts, and Ceylon cinnamon. That’s five different plants before the day has really begun. Lunch could include a side salad with spinach, cucumber, tomatoes, chickpeas, parsley, extra virgin olive oil, and lemon. Dinner may be quinoa, broccoli, mushrooms, garlic, onions, and turmeric. Finish the day with an apple spread with almond butter and a cup of peppermint tea, and you’ve added even more diversity to your microbiome. The goal isn’t perfection; it’s diversity. Different plants provide different fibres, polyphenols, antioxidants, and prebiotic compounds that nourish beneficial bacteria and support the production of short-chain fatty acids. This pillar’s focus: Aim for four to five different plant foods each day, and this quickly approaches thirty plants per week. Pillar three: Introduce living cultures With the foundation in place and greater plant diversity on your plate, it’s time to introduce living cultures. Fermented foods contain live beneficial bacteria that can help support a healthy gut microbiome when eaten regularly as part of an overall healthy eating pattern. Foods such as yogurt with live cultures, kefir, sauerkraut, kimchi, miso, kombucha, and other fermented vegetables all contribute living microorganisms that complement the beneficial bacteria already living in your gut. The key is to start slowly. If fermented foods are new to you or your digestion is sensitive, begin with a small serving of about one tablespoon to one quarter cup each day, and gradually increase as tolerated. Finding ways to include them can be surprisingly simple. Add yogurt with live cultures to a breakfast bowl or smoothie. Stir kefir into overnight oats. Enjoy sauerkraut alongside eggs or in a grain bowl, added to salads or wraps. Add kimchi to cooked rice or vegetables after cooking, or whisk miso paste into a salad dressing, spread it lightly on toast, or stir it into soup once it has cooled slightly. One important tip: if you’re choosing fermented foods for their probiotic benefits, look for products labeled “live and active cultures” or “unpasteurized,” and keep them refrigerated. Heat can reduce the viability of these beneficial organisms, so whenever possible, avoid exposing them to temperatures above approximately 60°C, 140°F. While probiotic supplements may be appropriate for certain health conditions, the evidence is strain-specific. The benefits depend on the exact strain, dose, and condition being treated. If you’re considering a probiotic supplement, choose one supported by clinical evidence rather than marketing claims. Here is a probiotic chart for reference. This pillar’s focus: Introduce living cultures gradually and consistently. For additional inspiration, check out Fermenting Facts from Stanford University. Pillar four: Nourish your microbiome By the fourth pillar, you’ve created a healthier environment, increased plant diversity, and introduced living cultures. Now it’s time to nourish your microbiome. Think of prebiotic foods as the preferred fuel source for your beneficial gut bacteria. As these microbes ferment prebiotic fibres, they produce short-chain fatty acids. Some of the richest sources of prebiotic fibres include garlic, onions, leeks, asparagus, oats, bananas, apples, lentils, beans, Jerusalem artichokes, dandelion greens, and psyllium husk. Other valuable sources include resistant starches found in cooked and cooled potatoes or rice, green bananas, legumes, beta-glucans from oats and barley, and pectin-rich fruits such as apples and pears. Introduce these foods gradually, especially if you experience bloating or digestive discomfort. Cooked forms are often better tolerated than raw, allowing your microbiome time to adapt. Simple meals make this pillar easy to put into practice. A prebiotic-rich breakfast might include a bowl of oatmeal topped with sliced banana, berries, ground flaxseed, chopped walnuts, and a sprinkle of Ceylon cinnamon. For an extra boost, enjoy it with a glass of kefir. Lunch could be a hearty lentil and vegetable soup made with onions, garlic, carrots, and celery, served alongside a mixed green salad. Or try a quinoa bowl topped with salmon, roasted asparagus, sautéed leeks, leafy greens, and a spoonful of sauerkraut. For dinner, build your meal around a quality protein such as chicken, fish, or tofu, paired with roasted vegetables including onions, garlic, asparagus, and broccoli. Add a serving of legumes or cooked and cooled potatoes or rice for resistant starch, then finish with fresh herbs such as parsley or dill. Small additions throughout the day also count. Snack on an apple or pear, enjoy hummus with vegetables, or finish the evening with a soothing peppermint or ginger tea. The goal is to consistently provide your beneficial gut bacteria with the fibres and plant compounds they need to thrive. This pillar’s focus: Nourish the bacteria that nourish you. Beyond food: Calm the gut-brain connection Although this guide focuses on food, gut restoration is not only about food. The gut and brain are in constant communication. Stress can influence digestion, motility, gut sensitivity, and the microbial environment. Many people notice this intuitively: bloating, urgency, constipation, reflux, or digestive discomfort often worsens during periods of stress. This is why the nervous system matters. A short walk after meals, five minutes of breathing before eating, time in nature, meditation, gentle movement, and better sleep can all support the internal environment of the gut. You cannot fully restore the gut while living in a constant state of survival. Putting the four pillars together Gut restoration isn’t about finding one superfood or the perfect supplement. It’s about creating the right conditions for your microbiome to thrive. Each pillar builds naturally on the one before it. First, you restore the environment by making room for whole, nourishing foods. Next, you build microbial diversity by increasing the variety of plants on your plate. Then you introduce living cultures through fermented foods. Finally, you nourish your microbiome with prebiotic foods that fuel beneficial bacteria, allowing them to produce the short chain fatty acids that support gut, metabolic, immune, and overall health. Together, these four pillars work as a connected system. Rather than acting as isolated nutrition strategies, they create an environment where your microbiome can become more diverse, resilient, and metabolically active. When you change the environment within your gut, you change the environment from which your health grows. Follow me on Facebook, Instagram, LinkedIn, and visit my website for more info! Read more from Lesley Nickleson Lesley Nickleson, Dietitian Lesley Nickleson is a Board-Certified Integrative Functional Nutrition Dietitian and Certified Meditation Teacher with 28 years of experience in complex clinical care. She advances root-cause functional nutrition and nervous system integration as essential pillars of modern healing. She is the founder of The Nutrition Solutions Collection, translating decades of clinical expertise into results-driven frameworks.

Written by Dr. Louise Hurst, Somatic Trauma-Informed Coach Dr. Louise Hurst is a Somatic Trauma-Informed Coach and Narcissistic Abuse Specialist whose work sits at the intersection of neuroscience, embodiment, and lived experience. With a PhD in Neuroscience and 16 years in healthcare communications, she brings scientific depth and emotional attunement to her coaching sessions. Do you feel like you never truly belonged in your family of origin, the odd one out, the one who was blamed, criticised, or misunderstood, no matter what you did? You may have been cast into the role of the family scapegoat. This article outlines seven essential steps to help you heal from scapegoating and reclaim the parts of yourself that were buried beneath your family’s narrative. Whether you are exhausted from being positioned as “the problem,” or you have noticed how people pleasing has shaped your relationships, this guide will help you understand the deep emotional work involved in breaking free from the scapegoat role and how you can begin that journey today. What is scapegoating? Scapegoating is the act of assigning blame, responsibility, or shame to one person or group in order to protect others from facing uncomfortable truths. A scapegoat is defined as “a person or group made to bear the blame for others or to suffer in their place.” The term originates from an ancient ritual described in the Old Testament, Leviticus 16:8, 10, 26, where a goat was symbolically burdened with the sins of the community and then sent into the wilderness. The goat carried away what the group did not want to face. In modern life, scapegoating functions in much the same way. Families, workplaces, and social groups often project their unresolved conflicts, shame, or dysfunction onto one individual. This person becomes the container for the group’s unspoken problems, the one who is blamed, criticised, or excluded so others can avoid accountability. Scapegoating is not random. It is a psychological defense mechanism used by systems that cannot tolerate self-reflection. The scapegoat becomes the “identified problem,” allowing the group to maintain the illusion of harmony while the real issues remain unaddressed. Famous scapegoats History is filled with individuals who became scapegoats for the fears, failures, and unresolved conflicts of their societies. Figures such as Anne Boleyn, Charles I, Hypatia of Alexandria, Jesus of Nazareth, John F. Kennedy, Joan of Arc, Martin Luther King Jr., Mary Magdalene, Princess Diana, and, more recently, Malala Yousafzai, can be read through this pattern. Despite living in different eras and cultures, their stories often follow a remarkably similar narrative arc. They disrupted the system by speaking truth, challenging norms, or embodying change. Fear, shame, or collective anxiety was projected onto them, turning them into symbolic containers for societal tension. In their own time, they were punished, exiled, silenced, or killed, and framed as the problem rather than the mirror. Only later did history reveal their innocence, brilliance, or moral clarity. They ultimately became enduring symbols of truth, courage, and transformation. This pattern reflects how groups use scapegoats to maintain stability and avoid confronting deeper dysfunction. When a system cannot tolerate self-reflection, it finds someone to carry the burden. These historical figures remind us that scapegoating is not a sign of the scapegoat’s weakness; it is a sign of the system’s fragility. Are you the family scapegoat? Scapegoating often produces different survival strategies in the child, depending on their own unique trauma responses. Many children in emotionally immature or narcissistic families can be scapegoated, and the role can be shifted to different children depending on the parents’ mood and stress level. However, for the purpose of this article, I will focus on the phenomenon known as good girl syndrome, a fawn freeze response. Good girl syndrome typically manifests in children who are internalisers, which is a tendency towards self-blame and self-criticism.[1] These children believe the parents’ scapegoat narrative and, in order to disprove their parents, they work extremely hard on themselves to demonstrate they are not bad. Her antidote to the wound is to become the complete opposite, overcompensating for the shame projected onto her. The good girl may present as self-deprecating and unable to take compliments, whilst being high-achieving. To avoid feelings of inadequacy and abandonment, she becomes perfectionistic and a people pleaser. Her core belief is, “I am bad, unlovable, and fundamentally not enough.” In adulthood, she overgives in relationships, attracts people who exploit her kindness, and struggles to set boundaries. Burnout becomes a familiar companion because she cannot say no, cannot rest, and cannot stop proving her worth. Related article: The Good Girl Syndrome People-Pleasing Cure The psychological impact of family scapegoating Being scapegoated by your family of origin is a profound betrayal. The very people responsible for nurturing your sense of self and shaping your relational template instead use your need for love and attachment against you. In families where scapegoating occurs, there is often one or two dominant, emotionally immature, or narcissistic figures at the centre, and the rest of the family system adapts around them, enabling the dysfunction. The scapegoated child is frequently the most sensitive and perceptive member of the family, the one who notices patterns, questions injustice, and seeks truth. She is the one Alice Miller speaks about in her book The Drama of the Gifted Child.[2] Because the family relies on denial and blame to maintain its dysfunction, any truth the child speaks is met with belittling, withdrawal, or outright rejection. Over time, the child learns that expressing needs leads to punishment, and offering a different perspective leads to exclusion. They enter adulthood not expecting to be heard or understood, but anticipating dismissal. These individuals often present as shy, compliant, or socially anxious. What looks like introversion is frequently a learned survival strategy: “When I speak, I am punished. When I need, I am abandoned. When I disagree, I am rejected.” To avoid further harm, they isolate themselves and minimise their presence. This dynamic creates a deep worthiness wound, a persistent fear of abandonment and a belief that love is conditional. Unsurprisingly, the childhood pattern often repeats in adulthood. Scapegoated children may find themselves in relationships where they are overlooked, abandoned, or blamed, or in workplaces where they become targets for bullying. Each repetition reinforces the internalised identity: I am the problem. Family scapegoating causes a significant emotional and spiritual scar that requires deep healing. The family’s treatment of the scapegoated child leads them to believe they are broken and fundamentally flawed because their own family could not love them. Many scapegoats may experience symptoms consistent with complex post-traumatic stress disorder, complex PTSD, as a result of repeated maltreatment. 7 steps to healing the scapegoat role 1. Acknowledge the pain of your childhood Acknowledging the neglect and abuse you experienced is often the hardest part of healing. When a parent has narcissistic traits, the child is frequently pulled through a cycle of idealisation and devaluation. The periods of love bombing create cognitive dissonance. The child clings to moments of warmth and hope, even as the parent’s behaviour becomes increasingly rejecting or punitive. This keeps the child stuck in the grief cycle, oscillating between denial, longing, and confusion. It is profoundly difficult to accept that a parent could be abusive. Society reinforces the myth that mothers are naturally nurturing, which makes it even harder for the scapegoated child to recognise harm inflicted by the mother. If gaslighting was also present, the child learns to distrust their own perception and instead seeks external validation to confirm what they feel. This is why working with a trauma-informed practitioner is essential. A therapist who understands family scapegoating can help you rebuild trust in your intuition, recognise the patterns of abuse, and begin to integrate the truth of what happened without collapsing into shame or self-blame. 2. Grieving the childhood you never experienced Grieving the childhood you never had is a central part of healing the scapegoat wound. It begins with acknowledging that your parent could not give you the safety, attunement, or emotional presence you needed. This can feel counterintuitive, even soft, given the severity of scapegoating, but it is a crucial step. By recognising their limitations, you release yourself from the role your parent assigned you in the Karpman drama triangle. You begin to see that something in your parent’s own history must have been profoundly damaged for them to treat a child this way. Validation is essential at this stage. Many scapegoated children internalise the belief that they were responsible for the mistreatment they received. Hearing someone else reflect your experience back to you, calmly, accurately, and without minimisation, can be deeply healing. It helps dissolve the shame and self-blame that were never yours to carry, and it allows you to mourn the childhood you deserved but were denied. Related article: Your Guide to Grieving What Could Have Been 3. Boundaries, boundaries, boundaries Setting boundaries is one of the most challenging parts of healing the scapegoat wound. I rarely tell clients to cut off their family of origin, but when there is ongoing abuse, gaslighting, manipulation, or emotional volatility, the nervous system cannot heal in the presence of the people who continue to activate old trauma responses. In these cases, going no contact may be the safest option. If no contact is not possible, low contact becomes essential. Strategies such as the grey/yellow rock method can help reduce emotional enmeshment with family members who display narcissistic traits. A nervous system conditioned to fawn, appease, or overfunction cannot recover while still being pulled into the same relational dynamics that caused the injury. In my sessions, I work with clients to explore real-life examples of boundary setting: what to say, what not to say, how to respond to manipulation, and how to decide where each family member belongs in their life. Boundaries are not about punishment. They are about protection, clarity, and creating the conditions for healing. Related article: How to Set Boundaries in Relationships 4. Anger and reclamation of self For many scapegoated children, anger is the most suppressed and the most essential part of healing. When you grow up in an environment where pleasing, appeasing, and fawning were necessary for survival, your nervous system learns to shut down the fight response entirely. Pete Walker describes this as the fawn freeze trauma response. The child’s natural anger is shamed, punished, or mocked so consistently that it becomes unsafe to express it.[3] People pleasing and codependency then develop as protective strategies. Reclaiming anger is not about confrontation. It is about reconnecting with the part of you that knew, even as a child, that something was wrong. If it feels too difficult to get angry on behalf of your adult self, begin by feeling anger on behalf of the child who was mistreated, silenced, or blamed. This can be challenging if you were never allowed to express anger growing up, but it is a vital part of grieving and moving through the healing process. Anger, when held safely, is not destructive. It is clarifying. It helps you recognise injustice, set boundaries, and reclaim the parts of yourself you had to abandon to stay safe. It is important to channel this anger for healing, not toward the people who harmed you. Related article: The Gift of Anger 5. Understand your nervous system In Internal Family Systems, IFS, people pleasing, perfectionism, and overfunctioning are understood as protective parts, adaptive strategies that helped you survive a difficult environment and keep younger, more vulnerable parts of you safe. These patterns did not appear because you were weak. They appeared because your nervous system was doing everything it could to protect you. Understanding your triggers and recognising how people pleasing shows up for you is essential. Other protective parts entangled in the scapegoat wound include hyper-responsibility, perfectionism, the inner critic, and overexplaining. Each of these responses can be mapped onto your nervous system and understood through the lens of survival rather than self-blame. This work is transformative because scapegoated children almost always internalise the belief that they were the problem. By exploring your nervous system with compassion, you begin to see that these patterns were intelligent adaptations. When you begin to understand how clever your nervous system was, you can start to love the younger parts of you that fawned, pleased, overexplained, tried to be perfect, or carried too much. These parts were not flaws; they were protectors. Recognising their brilliance is a profound step toward healing. 6. Reparent your inner child Reparenting your inner child is one of the most transformative parts of healing the scapegoat wound. Somewhere inside you is a younger self who learned that speaking up, setting boundaries, or expressing needs led to punishment or withdrawal. That inner child is stuck at the emotional age when the original trauma occurred. With scapegoating, there are usually lots of microtraumas, so finding a specific memory can sometimes be challenging. Emotional flashbacks often provide the doorway into this work. They pull you into the age you were when the original harm occurred, even though the trigger is happening in the present. Instead of seeing these flashbacks as setbacks, they can be understood as signals from your younger self asking for attention, safety, and care. Reparenting involves meeting that younger part with compassion, consistency, and kindness. It means offering the attunement you never received: speaking gently to yourself, creating safety in your daily routines, and responding to emotional triggers with understanding rather than shame. In my practice, I use somatic belief reprogramming to help clients connect with their inner child and offer the corrective experiences that were missing. Over time, these younger parts learn that they no longer need to drive your life. They can rest, knowing they are loved, protected, and never at fault for what happened. 7. Understanding you beyond the scapegoat role One of the most devastating effects of the scapegoat wound is the internalised belief that you are fundamentally flawed, bad, or unlovable. You essentially reject and shame yourself for your needs and self-expression. A scapegoated child grows up trying to earn worthiness, often by excelling, overfunctioning, or entering careers and relationships that do not reflect who they truly are. The hope, usually unconscious, is that if they achieve enough or become “good enough,” their parent will finally offer the validation they were denied. Understanding yourself is the final stage of healing. Once you have dismantled the belief that you are defective and tended to your inner child, the work becomes about discovering who you are beneath the roles you were forced to play. This means exploring your values, your preferences, your boundaries, and the qualities that have always been yours, even when they were ignored or punished. In my sessions, we look at the person you have always been beneath the projections, control, and emotional distortion of your family system. This process is not about reinventing yourself; it is about finally seeing yourself clearly. You are, and always have been, a whole and beautiful human being. Healing allows you to recognise that truth and live from it. Start your journey today Healing from the scapegoat role is not linear or simple. People pleasing, fawning, and self-abandonment often become deeply ingrained coping mechanisms, and it takes time, patience, and support to unlearn them. Rebuilding your sense of self requires learning new ways of relating to others, finding relationships that feel safe, and reconnecting with the parts of you that were silenced or overlooked. If you recognise yourself in this piece and feel you may have carried the scapegoat role in your family, know that healing is possible. You do not have to navigate this journey alone. With the right support, you can reclaim your identity, rebuild your confidence, and begin to live from a place of truth rather than survival. Follow me on Facebook, Instagram, and LinkedIn for more info! Read more from Dr. Louise Hurst Dr. Louise Hurst, Somatic Trauma-Informed Coach Dr. Louise Hurst is a Somatic Trauma-Informed Coach and Narcissistic Abuse Specialist. With a PhD in Neuroscience and 16 years in healthcare communications, she brings scientific depth and emotional attunement to her work. Her lived experiences of narcissistic abuse - both professionally and privately - led her to become a coach dedicated to helping others heal. Through her own therapeutic journey, she learned that trauma can't be processed effectively without including the body. She is the founder of Beauty for Ashes Coaching and Henka Medical Communications Ltd. Her mission: Helping survivors thrive after abuse. References: [1] Gibson, L. C. 2015. Adult Children of Emotionally Immature Parents: How to Heal from Distant, Rejecting, or Self Involved Parents. New Harbinger Publications. [2] Miller, A. 1997. The Drama of the Gifted Child. Basic Books. [3] Walker, P. 2014. Complex PTSD: From Surviving to Thriving. Azure Coyote Publishing.

Written by Roje Khalique, Founder of rkTherapy Roje Khalique is a visionary clinical consultant with 20 years of experience in mental health. She is the founder of rkTherapy, a London-based bespoke psychology consultancy, and a specialist in culturally attuned Cognitive Behavioural Therapy (CBT). You have the label. You did the reading, identified the pattern, traced it back to something that happened and yet here you are, still in the same relational patterns, still waiting for something to shift. The label did not do it. It was never going to. Because a label, at its best, offers recognition and even relief, but recognition alone is not change. Understanding your attachment style is a little like driving whilst staring into the rear-view mirror, it tells you how you got here. It does not move you forward. What moves you forward is recognising that what the label is describing is anxiety, anxiety that shows up in how you relate to the people closest to you. Anxiety, unlike a category you are placed in, is something you can act on. That is what this article is about: not which attachment style fits you best, but what is maintaining the fear right now, and what becomes possible when you give the brain something different to work with: connection. What are you actually afraid of? In clinical practice, the most useful shift is rarely from one attachment label to another. It is from explanation to examination. Rather than asking which style fits, the more productive question is: what are you afraid of? Have you been hurt before? Is that why you are fearful it will happen again? Have you been betrayed, deceived or abandoned? Are you protecting yourself in the relationship? If you are, you are already living in anxiety, not in connection. The anxious mind will find what it is looking for. The amygdala, the brain's threat-detection centre, is constantly scanning for evidence that the fear could come true, and it will find it. There is even a logic to it: if you worry enough, perhaps you will not be so devastated when it happens. But that constant scanning feeds one consistent message to the brain: you are not safe, stay vigilant. Over time, this builds an architecture. You learn not to trust fully, prioritising self-protection over intimacy. Here is the paradox: the part of you working hardest to avoid being hurt is often the same part that makes real connection most difficult. What emerges is not a style. It is anxiety, and anxiety can be worked with. Anxious or avoidant? Both are anxiety in relationships The research describes three attachment patterns most referenced in clinical and popular literature: Anxious attachment (preoccupied attachment in adults): Characterised by hypervigilance to signs of rejection, fear of abandonment and excessive reassurance seeking, rooted in self-worth dependent on the approval and availability of others. Avoidant attachment (dismissing attachment in adults): Characterised by discomfort with intimacy, suppression of attachment needs and emotional distancing as a defence against perceived hurt or engulfment, with a tendency to devalue closeness and view others as not worth depending on. Secure attachment: Characterised by comfort with intimacy and interdependence, confidence in the responsiveness of others and effective emotional regulation within relationships. These three patterns are drawn from the foundational work of Bowlby and Ainsworth, [1] [2] [3] later developed further by Bartholomew and Horowitz and by Hazan and Shaver.[4] [5] What connection actually looks like In clinical practice, when clients describe either of the first two patterns, what becomes evident is anxiety, not a fixed style. The nervous system is responding to fear, not fact. The question worth asking is not what to call that. It is what to do about it, right now. Secure attachment is the closest the research comes to what I am describing clinically, a connection without fear. Connection is not the same as attachment. Attachment, in its anxious or avoidant forms, is fear-based relating, organised around what you might lose, what you must protect yourself from, or what you must do to keep someone close. Connection is relating from a place of enough internal security that you can be honest about what you need, what you want, and what you can give. In practice, this is what it looks like when clients begin to move from fear-based relating towards connection. For overachieving professionals, relationship patterns often mirror career ones: they manage partnerships the way they manage portfolios, cases or practices, by trying to be indispensable, self-reliant, or unshakeable. Genuine connection means dropping that performance, the constant attempt to control the outcome and present a flawless front. They stop being unreachable and start expressing instead, saying what they need and want, offering what they can freely rather than strategically, and allowing the relationship to respond. That exchange, expression met with reciprocity, is what teaches the brain that closeness is not dangerous. Interdependence: The end goal This is what interdependence means: it is not needing to be needed, and it is not needing anyone either. It means recognising that you are enough on your own, and that you can also need someone else, that you can be close without losing yourself, and alone without it meaning you are unwanted. That is not a style you are born into, it is something the brain learns when we connect without attaching our self-worth or survival to the outcome. One client, a highly analytical professional, described spending hours on social media, treating the content she consumed as a way of gathering evidence to reinforce her belief that all relationships end in betrayal. She remained in a relationship she described as “toxic” because at least she knew what she was dealing with, and the uncertainty of something new felt far more threatening than the certainty of something harmful. What she was doing was running a misdirected risk-mitigation strategy: high achievers are conditioned to gather information to control outcomes, but in relationships, that hypervigilance is an illusion of control. When we sat with her actual thoughts and the fears underneath them, what emerged was not evidence of a partner behaving badly. What emerged was her own anxious brain treating the ordinary, unpredictable mess of a romantic partnership as a danger to her survival. Once she recognised that surveillance gave her no actual safety, she returned to the relationship with better tools. Communication replaced withdrawal and curiosity replaced surveillance. She swapped the demand for control for real clarity and arrived at a more honest question: Is my fear responding to something real, or is my brain misfiring? What you do now is what matters Whatever shaped the fear, what matters now is what is maintaining it: not the original wound, but the fear-based behaviour being repeated in the present. For some, that behaviour is hyper-independence: keeping people at a distance feels safe but confirms to the brain that closeness is dangerous. For others, it is co-dependency, the need to be needed, to feel worthy through being indispensable to another person, where seeking constant reassurance feels safe but tells the brain that without someone else’s validation, you cannot function. Both feel like protection. Both maintain the anxiety, because the brain never gets to learn, through the evidence to the contrary, that there is no actual threat. Neuroplasticity: Your brain can learn something different Research shows that the brain can reorganise itself by forming new neural connections throughout life, a process known as neuroplasticity, meaning the relational patterns you have identified in yourself are not permanent features of who you are, but the brain’s current response to past experience, one it can learn to change. Your attachment style is not your identity, but your brain’s current state, and what updates it is not insight alone, but new behaviour generating new evidence. What you do today either proves the old fear right or begins to prove it wrong. In conclusion Human connection has never come with a guarantee. We cannot know with certainty whether someone will leave or whether trusting will cost us. It can happen, even by those who love us. That is why the goal is not to find someone who will never leave or hurt you, but to build enough internal security that if it does happen, your world does not collapse. That begins with working on your own fears, not because you are broken, but because you are ready to stop letting fear make decisions for you. You have already survived the things that shaped it. That is what genuine connection asks of you: not the absence of risk, but the willingness to say what you need, to offer what you can, and to trust yourself with whatever comes. In the end, whatever your attachment style, your childhood is not your fault. Your future and how you relate to others, however, is your responsibility. Visit my website for more info! Read more from Roje Khalique Roje Khalique, Founder of rkTherapy Roje is a clinical practitioner for a wide range of anxiety disorders and depression. She is dedicated to making quality psychological support accessible to high-achieving professionals in the legal and finance industries in London's high-stakes corporate world. During COVID-19, she recognised a global and increasing need for evidence-based support and developed a Cognitive Behavioural Therapy (CBT) online, virtual platform and a mobile app. Designed to fit the demanding schedules of professionals not only in London but across Europe, the US, the Middle East, and Asia. References: [1] Bowlby, J. (1969). Attachment and loss: Vol. 1. Attachment. Basic Books. [2] Bowlby, J. (1973). Attachment and loss: Vol. 2. Separation: Anxiety and anger. Basic Books. [3] Ainsworth, M. D. S., Blehar, M. C., Waters, E., & Wall, S. (1978). Patterns of attachment: A psychological study of the strange situation. Lawrence Erlbaum Associates. [4] Bartholomew, K., & Horowitz, L. M. (1991). Attachment styles among young adults: A test of a four-category model. Journal of Personality and Social Psychology, 61(2), 226–244. [5] Hazan, C., & Shaver, P. R. (1987). Romantic love is conceptualized as an attachment process. 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Written by Inga Kalace, Self-Development Mind Body Coach Inga has been recognised for her three-step approach to deep, meaningful change. She is a self-development and mind-body coach and co-founder of Whispered Desires, a brand creating cinematic sleep tapes for subconscious reprogramming and work with high-profile clients. Manifestation has become one of the most talked-about concepts in personal development. Scroll through social media, and you'll find endless advice encouraging you to think positively, repeat affirmations, visualize your dream life, and trust that what you desire is on its way. While these practices can be powerful, they often leave out one crucial piece of the puzzle, "Manifestation is not created by thought alone." You can think about your dream life every day. You can write affirmations in your journal and create vision boards filled with everything you desire. But if your body is holding onto fear, doubt, scarcity, or unworthiness, you will continue to experience an internal mismatch between what you want and what you believe is possible. As a Self-Development and Mind Body Coach, I have observed that many people approach manifestation from the neck up. They focus on changing their thoughts while neglecting the emotional and energetic patterns stored within the body. Yet true manifestation happens when the mind and body are working together. The body always reveals what we genuinely believe. You may tell yourself you are ready for abundance, but does your body feel safe receiving it? You may say you desire love, but does your nervous system believe it is worthy of it? You may dream of success, but does your body associate success with freedom or with pressure and overwhelm? These are the deeper questions that influence what we create in our lives. One of the clearest examples of this is the feeling many people describe as butterflies. Think about the excitement you feel before a first date, a long-awaited trip, a new opportunity, or a piece of good news. There is an energy that moves through the body. A feeling of anticipation, possibility, and aliveness. Those butterflies are not just emotions. They are evidence that your body is engaged with a future possibility. The challenge is that many people wait for external circumstances to create those feelings. They tell themselves, "I'll feel confident when I get the promotion." "I'll feel happy when I meet the right partner." "I'll feel abundant when I have more money." "I'll feel free when my circumstances change." But manifestation does not begin when the external reality changes. It begins when your internal reality changes. The feeling comes first. The experience follows. This does not mean pretending your challenges do not exist or forcing yourself into fake positivity. It means becoming intentional about creating experiences that generate the emotional state you wish to embody. Because manifestation is not only about what you think. It is about who you become. If you desire more joy, where can you create joy right now? If you desire freedom, what can you do that makes you feel free right now? If you desire love, how can you show yourself more love in this moment? If you desire abundance, how can you begin appreciating and receiving what is already present in your life? The body learns through experience. It learns through movement, connection, creativity, pleasure, gratitude, adventure, self-expression, and meaningful moments. This is why embodiment matters. It means allowing yourself to participate in experiences that generate the energy you want to attract. Perhaps it's taking yourself out for a beautiful lunch because you want to embody abundance. Perhaps it's wearing the outfit you've been saving for a special occasion because you want to feel confident now rather than later. Perhaps it's signing up for the class you've been thinking about, dancing in your kitchen, spending time in nature, investing in your growth, or simply allowing yourself to rest without guilt. These actions may seem small, but they send a powerful message to your nervous system. They tell your body, "It is safe to feel good." "It is safe to receive." "It is safe to expand." The more familiar these feelings become, the less you need to chase them outside of yourself. The truth is that manifestation is not about convincing the universe to give you something. It is about becoming energetically aligned with what you desire. When your thoughts, emotions, actions, and nervous system begin moving in the same direction, you naturally start making choices that reflect the future you want to create. You notice opportunities you may have previously overlooked. You trust yourself more deeply. You act with greater confidence. You become available for experiences that once felt out of reach. Perhaps the real secret to manifestation is not learning how to attract something into your life. Perhaps it is learning how to cultivate the feelings you have been waiting for your future to provide. Because the energy you seek is rarely found at the end of the journey. It is created in the choices, experiences, and emotions you allow yourself to embody today. When you learn to feel it, live it, and embody it, manifestation stops being something you do. It becomes who you are. Follow me on Facebook, Instagram, LinkedIn, and visit my website for more info! Read more from Inga Kalace Inga Kalace, Self-Development Mind Body Coach Inga is a self-development and mind-body coach known for her three-step approach to deep, meaningful change that actually works in practice. From a young age, she was drawn to understanding human behaviour and the patterns that shape how we experience life. That curiosity grew into a lifelong exploration of the mind-body connection and why people struggle to create lasting change. She works with individuals to break patterns, build self-trust, and create change from within. As co-founder of Whispered Desires, she is part of a brand creating cinematic sleep tapes designed to support subconscious rewiring. Her mission is to help people understand themselves and create a life that truly reflects who they are.

Written by Andra Annette, Founder and Gut Health Expert Andra Annette is an international best-selling author, healthcare expert, and founder of Pounds-to-Go. With 40 years as a nurse, nutritionist, and holistic practitioner, she is a trusted gut health expert specializing in gut-thyroid connection and weight loss. Her latest works are When Hormones Hijack Your Life (2025) and Thrive with Hashimoto’s: A Nourishing Guide for Energy, Immunity, and Gut Health (2025). It’s Not Your Fault – It’s Your Metabolism (2025), How to Make Menopause Work for You (2025). What if your thyroid symptoms aren’t just about your thyroid at all? This article challenges the conventional approach to hormone health, revealing how the often-overlooked gut may be the key to resolving persistent fatigue, weight struggles, and metabolic imbalance. “If you’re treating your thyroid but ignoring your gut, you may be missing the very system driving the dysfunction.” For years, women struggling with fatigue, weight gain, brain fog, and hormone imbalance have been told to “fix their thyroid.” They’re given lab tests, sometimes medication, maybe supplements, and yet many still feel the same. Tired, inflamed, stuck. Because what’s often missing from the conversation is this. The thyroid does not operate alone. And if you’re not addressing the system it depends on, you may never see full resolution. The deeper truth: It’s not just thyroid, it’s a system What most people are not being told is that thyroid function is deeply connected to another critical system, the gut. This is where a powerful but overlooked dynamic comes into play, what I call. The Gut-Thyroid Axis™ This is the biological relationship between your digestive system, immune system, and thyroid function. When this axis is disrupted, symptoms don’t just appear, they compound. Why the gut matters more than you think Your gut is not just responsible for digestion. It plays a central role in hormone regulation, immune function, inflammation control, nutrient absorption, neurotransmitter production. But here’s where it becomes critical for thyroid health. Up to 20% of thyroid hormone conversion happens in the gut. That means your body relies on a properly functioning digestive system to convert inactive thyroid hormone (T4) into its active form (T3). If that process is impaired, your metabolism is affected. If your gut is inflamed, sluggish, or imbalanced, several things begin to happen, poor nutrient absorption (selenium, zinc, iodine), increased intestinal permeability (leaky gut), immune system activation, chronic inflammation. This creates the perfect environment for thyroid dysfunction, autoimmune conditions like Hashimoto’s, metabolic slowdown, hormone imbalance. This is not coincidence. It is systemic communication breakdown. The inflammation loop that keeps you stuck One of the most overlooked drivers of thyroid issues is chronic low-grade inflammation, and much of it originates in the gut. When inflammation increases, thyroid receptor sensitivity decreases, hormone conversion becomes inefficient, cortisol rises, metabolism slows. And then something even more frustrating happens. Even when labs look “normal,” symptoms persist. Because the issue is not just hormone levels. It’s how the body is processing and responding to them. Why treating the thyroid alone often falls short This is where many women feel confused. They’re doing everything they’ve been told, taking medication, eating “healthy”, trying to manage stress. But if the gut remains compromised, the thyroid cannot fully recover. Because the body is still operating in a state of inflammation, stress, immune activation. Healing cannot happen in that environment. Introducing the inflammation burden effect™ To understand this more clearly, we need to look at another pattern: The inflammation burden effect™ This is the cumulative impact of chronic stress, poor digestion, environmental exposure, and unresolved gut issues on the body. When this burden becomes too high, the body begins to slow down metabolic processes, conserve energy, and prioritize survival over optimization. The thyroid is one of the first systems to respond. Not because it’s failing. But because it’s adapting. Your body is not failing, it’s responding If you’ve been struggling with weight that won’t budge, fatigue that won’t lift, digestion that feels unpredictable, brain fog or mood changes, it’s not random. It’s connected. Your gut and thyroid are in constant communication, and when one is under stress, the other adjusts. Where true healing begins Healing the thyroid is not just about targeting the thyroid. It’s about supporting the system it depends on. That means reducing inflammation, restoring gut integrity, improving digestion, regulating the nervous system, replenishing nutrients. Because when the body feels supported, it shifts out of survival mode. And when that happens, hormone balance improves, energy increases, metabolism stabilizes, weight regulation becomes possible. What you can begin doing now You don’t need to overhaul everything overnight. But you can begin by supporting your Gut-Thyroid Axis™ with small, consistent steps: Support Digestion First: Warm, simple meals are easier for the body to process. Reduce Inflammatory Load: Minimize processed foods and support whole, nutrient-dense options. Eat in a Regulated State: Stress and digestion do not work well together. Rebuild Nutrient Stores: Focus on minerals essential for thyroid function. Listen to Your Body’s Signals: Symptoms are not problems, they are communication. Closing If you’ve been focusing only on your thyroid, it may be time to widen the lens. Because your body is not made of isolated parts. It is an interconnected system. True healing happens when we stop chasing symptoms and start understanding the relationships between them. Your gut is not separate from your thyroid. Your thyroid is not separate from your metabolism. They are part of the same conversation. When you begin supporting that conversation, your body begins responding in ways you may not have thought possible. You are not failing. You are interconnected, and that changes everything. Follow me on Facebook, Instagram, LinkedIn, and visit my website for more info! Read more from Andra Annette Andra Annette, Founder and Gut Health Expert Andra Annette is a world-renowned healthcare expert and award-winning wellness authority. Recognized as a worldwide leader in Healthcare (2017) and Top Nurse in the Bronx by INA, Andra Annette blends nearly 40 years of experience with a personal journey of overcoming leaky gut, thyroid issues, and weight struggles. Her groundbreaking work earned her the Outstanding Female Wellness Expert Award by Every Woman TV Global (2024). Holistic Practitioner and Author of the Year (2025), IAOTP, CREA Award Brainz (2025), Top 50 Fearless Leaders IAOTP (2026), Top 26 Women Leaders to Look Out For 2026, Passion Vista (2026). As the founder of Pounds-to-Go, host of the TV show Healing from the Inside Out, and author of the published Rainbow of Wellness series, she empowers individuals to love their bodies and live vibrantly. Her mission is to clear the confusion in health and be part of the cure, not the chaos.

Written by Nelum Dharmapriya, Doctor & Health Coach Dr. Nelum Dharmapriya is a Brisbane-based GP with a special interest in metabolic health, menopause, and lifestyle medicine. She combines 30 years of clinical experience with a personal passion for helping women thrive in midlife and beyond. Perimenopause often arrives quietly, bringing emotional and cognitive changes that leave many women feeling like strangers to themselves and many partners unsure of how to help. This deeply personal reflection explores why understanding, open conversation, and compassionate support can make one of life's biggest hormonal transitions far less lonely. What every husband and partner should know about perimenopause A woman in her early forties walked into my consulting room recently, accompanied by her husband. Before I had even asked why she was there, she looked at me with tears in her eyes and said something I will never forget. "Doctor, I think I'm going crazy." She then turned towards her husband. "Can you please explain to him what's happening to me?" There was desperation in her voice, but it wasn't because she had received a frightening diagnosis or because she believed she was physically ill. She was frightened because she no longer recognised herself. She described feeling overwhelmed by everyday life. Little things that had never bothered her suddenly felt enormous. She found herself snapping at her children, becoming irritated with her husband over trivial matters, crying unexpectedly, struggling to concentrate, and feeling emotionally exhausted. Although she wasn't sleeping as well as she once had, poor sleep wasn't even her biggest concern. What troubled her most was that she felt she was becoming someone she didn't want to be. She felt guilty about not being the wife she wanted to be. Guilty that she wasn't the mother she wanted to be. Guilty that she couldn't seem to control her emotions. Like many women, she genuinely believed she was losing her mind. What made her story particularly important was that she was only in her early forties. Her menstrual cycles were still regular. She wasn't experiencing dramatic hot flushes. She hadn't reached menopause. Like many women, she believed she was simply too young for any of this to be related to her hormones. Yet what she was describing is something I hear repeatedly. One of the greatest misconceptions about perimenopause is that it begins when periods become irregular or stop altogether. The years between forty and fifty often represent a gradual transition during which hormone production becomes increasingly unpredictable. Ovulation becomes less consistent, and instead of the beautifully coordinated hormonal rhythm that has existed for decades, women begin experiencing significant fluctuations from one month to the next. I often describe it as an orchestra. For years, the musicians have performed in perfect harmony. Then gradually, some of them begin arriving late. Some miss rehearsals altogether. Some months, the music is beautiful. Other months, it sounds completely different. It is this unpredictability that makes perimenopause so confusing. Many women expect hot flushes to be the first sign. The earliest symptoms are often emotional and cognitive. Overwhelm. Anxiety. Loss of confidence. Poor concentration. Brain fog. Irritability. Emotional sensitivity. Difficulty coping with stress that would once have seemed insignificant. Sometimes these changes appear while menstrual cycles remain completely regular. Blood tests may even look reassuring. From the outside, everything appears normal. Inside, however, many women feel as though they are quietly falling apart. This isn't because they are weak. It isn't because they are failing. It certainly isn't because they are "going crazy." It is biology. The receptors for estrogen, progesterone, and testosterone are found throughout the body, including the brain. These hormones influence far more than reproduction. They affect mood, sleep, memory, emotional regulation, cognition, metabolism, muscles, bones, and countless other body systems. As hormone levels fluctuate, so do the signals being received throughout the body. Understanding this often changes everything. As I explained this to my patient and her husband, I watched both of their faces soften. She looked relieved because someone had finally given a name to what she was experiencing. He looked relieved because he realised he hadn't lost the woman he loved. She was still there. She was simply navigating one of the biggest hormonal transitions of her life. As I reflected on that consultation later that evening, it struck me that one of the saddest things about perimenopause isn't the hormonal changes themselves. It's how often couples turn against each other at the very time they need each other most. She feels misunderstood. He feels rejected. She thinks he has stopped listening. He wonders what happened to the woman he married. Neither of them realises that they are often fighting biology as much as they are fighting each other. What many partners don't appreciate is that the woman sitting opposite them is often just as frightened as they are. She doesn't recognise herself either. She doesn't understand why her patience has disappeared. She doesn't know why small problems suddenly feel overwhelming. She isn't choosing to be irritable or emotional. She is trying to make sense of changes she was never taught to expect. Looking back, I realised that I wasn't taught much about this either. Like many doctors, my medical training focused on menopause as the end of reproductive life, defined largely by irregular periods and hot flushes. We spoke very little about the emotional, cognitive, and psychological changes that can appear years earlier during perimenopause. Perhaps that is why so many women arrive in our consulting rooms believing something is fundamentally wrong with them. This consultation also reminded me of something deeply personal. I grew up in Sri Lanka and remain close to a wonderful group of school friends. We have shared decades of life through a WhatsApp group, celebrating weddings, children, careers, grandchildren, holidays, and aging parents. One day, it suddenly occurred to me that we had all traveled through our forties and fifties together. Every single one of us had experienced perimenopause. Yet not once had we talked about it. Not once. I found that astonishing. These were intelligent, educated women who had supported one another through almost every milestone life could offer. Yet we had remained silent about one of the biggest biological transitions we would ever experience. When I finally raised the subject, the stories came flooding in. Women admitted they had struggled with anxiety. Others spoke about brain fog. Some described poor sleep, weight gain, relationship challenges, and feeling unlike themselves for years. Many had simply assumed they were the only ones. That conversation changed my thinking forever. I realised that one of the greatest challenges of perimenopause isn't simply fluctuating hormones. It's isolation. When women don't talk, they assume they are alone, blame themselves, and miss the reassurance that comes from hearing another woman quietly say, "Me too." That is why I believe every woman needs a menopause tribe. Whether it is a sister, a lifelong friend, a walking group, a book club, an online community, or a group of school friends, having women who understand what you are experiencing can be profoundly healing. Sometimes the greatest gift another woman can give you isn't advice. It's recognition. For husbands and partners, perhaps the greatest gift you can offer isn't a solution either. It isn't trying to fix every problem, telling her to calm down, and reminding her that she was fine yesterday. It is listening, believing her, asking, "How can I help?" and learning about perimenopause alongside her rather than expecting her to navigate it alone. Because one day this transition will pass. She will come through the other side. She may not remember every conversation you had. But she will remember whether she walked through one of the biggest transitions of her life feeling judged or feeling understood. Perhaps that is where we need to begin. Not with medication, blood tests, and treatment. But with conversation. Because when women begin talking openly with other women, and when the people who love them take the time to understand what they are experiencing, something remarkable happens. The fear begins to lift. The shame begins to disappear. Relationships become kinder. Communities become stronger. What once felt like a lonely struggle becomes a journey that no woman must walk alone. Visit my website for more info! Read more from Nelum Dharmapriya Nelum Dharmapriya, Doctor & Health Coach Dr. Nelum Dharmapriya is a Brisbane-based GP with 30 years’ experience in women’s health and metabolic wellbeing. Founder of Whole Food Revolution, she empowers women 40+ to reclaim energy and confidence through the three pillars of science, lifestyle, and mindset. Further reading: Menopause Hormone Therapy: Relief, Balance, Renewal Menopause and Sleep: How to Beat Insomnia and Night Sweats

Written by Mark Durieux, Sociologist and Educator Mark Durieux is a sociologist with over two decades of experience as a university instructor. Lead co-author of Social Entrepreneurship for Dummies, he lectures, researches, writes, and publishes in environmental, economic, urban, and public sociology as well as research methods. Public discussion around generative AI and climate impact often falls into two lazy camps, reflexive doomism, which dismisses the technology as inherently destructive, and techno-optimism, which assumes its efficiency will naturally heal the planet. Both positions are inadequate. The real question is whether the same technology marketed as a climate solution is quietly becoming a climate liability, and whether institutions are honest enough to admit that the outcome depends entirely on how it is governed. Where the case is strongest To be clear, some sustainability applications of AI are genuinely promising. The strongest evidence points to energy forecasting, where AI can improve demand response, renewable integration, and short-term electricity planning. This is one of the few areas where the gains appear relatively concrete, measurable, and tied to operational outcomes rather than broad aspirations. Better forecasting reduces waste, improves matching between supply and demand, and supports more efficient use of renewable resources. In a world trying to decarbonize electricity systems quickly, those are meaningful gains. There are also plausible benefits in supply chains, where generative AI may improve coordination, reduce material waste, and strengthen collaboration around circular economy practices. However, the evidence here is more observational than definitive. The promise is real enough to explore, but not strong enough to be treated as a settled fact. The same qualified optimism applies to education and other areas of social sustainability. Personalized learning, wider access to information, and support for sustainability-oriented knowledge work may all matter. Yet much of the evidence still relies on conceptual models or self-reported benefits rather than long-term independent evaluation. The costs that disappear This is where the dominant story becomes misleading. Many of AI's benefits are highly visible, such as faster reports, smarter dashboards, cleaner analytics, and better predictions. The costs are often hidden. Training and operating large AI systems require enormous computational infrastructure. That means data centers, electricity demand, water use, hardware supply chains, and emissions that are easy to ignore precisely because they sit far from the polished interface. AI can make sustainability work look cleaner on the surface while shifting environmental burdens deeper into the system. That is why the idea of a hidden footprint matters so much. We may be trading visible inefficiencies for invisible ones. A polished AI-generated sustainability report can create the appearance of progress while concealing the material costs of the infrastructure used to produce it. This is not only an environmental issue, it is a governance issue. The greenwashing accelerator One of the sharpest contradictions in this field is also one of the most important. AI can write your sustainability report faster than ever, and that may make sustainability reporting less trustworthy, not more. If organizations can automate ESG language, generate persuasive disclosures, and create the impression of strategic coherence without making comparable operational changes, then generative AI becomes a greenwashing accelerator. It does not merely make reporting easier. It makes performative sustainability easier. Accountability matters more than adoption. A company using AI to streamline reporting is not necessarily becoming more sustainable. It may simply be becoming more efficient at narrating sustainability. The risk is not confined to cynical actors. Even well-intentioned organizations can drift into ESG opportunism when speed, reputational pressure, and market incentives outrun verification. Once AI lowers the cost of producing polished sustainability language, the burden on oversight, auditing, and evidence becomes much heavier. The proof gap This leads to the most critical problem, the gap between promise and proof. A striking amount of enthusiasm around generative AI and sustainability rests on pilots, prototypes, conceptual arguments, and self-reported benefits. That does not mean the field is empty, but it does mean many of the boldest claims are still outrunning the evidence. The rhetoric of transformation often sounds more settled than the research actually is. We hear about optimization, systemic gains, and breakthrough efficiency. But much of the evidence remains cross-sectional or observational rather than grounded in longitudinal field studies demonstrating durable outcomes. That gap is where hype becomes dangerous. If institutions scale AI systems on the assumption of sustainability gains that have not been seriously verified, they may increase energy demand, deepen opacity, and produce reputational theater instead of real ecological progress. The deeper risk is that AI gives organizations a sophisticated new language for appearing responsible while postponing structural change. What decides the outcome What separates AI as a sustainability support from AI as a sustainability liability is governance by design. Organizations must implement human-in-the-loop systems so they do not outsource judgment to automated outputs. They must demand transparency about model limitations, energy use, and the provenance of claims, while establishing stronger verification norms where AI-generated reporting intersects with ESG disclosure. Crucially, they must demand greater honesty about the quality of evidence behind specific sustainability applications and refuse to confuse efficiency gains with net ecological benefit. Efficiency is not the same thing as sustainability. Faster reporting, cleaner interfaces, or smarter prediction do not automatically produce lower emissions, better governance, or fairer systems. Without serious oversight, efficiency can simply become a more elegant way of hiding harm. The relevant question is no longer whether AI will be used in sustainability work, because it already is. The real question is whether institutions are willing to govern it seriously enough to distinguish genuine gains from automated illusion. What serious leaders ask Sustainability is already a field crowded with branding, signaling, and selective disclosure. Generative AI enters that landscape as an amplifier. It can amplify intelligence, planning, and coordination, but it can also amplify opacity, reporting theater, and the gap between public claims and material reality. This moment requires discipline rather than excitement alone. The organizations that will matter most in the next phase of AI adoption will not be the ones using the most AI. They will be the ones asking better questions. Leaders must interrogate what evidence supports a given sustainability claim, what footprint is being hidden by the interface, and what burdens are being shifted elsewhere. They must ask who is auditing the outputs and what would count as real proof rather than a persuasive narrative. Generative AI may yet become a meaningful part of the sustainability transition, but only if we stop treating adoption as proof of virtue and start treating governance as the real test. Visit my website for more info! Read more from Mark Durieux Mark Durieux, Sociologist and Educator Mark Durieux is the developer of the increasingly popular Generative AI app, The Sociological Imagination, and the lead co-author of Social Entrepreneurship For Dummies. He has researched and written extensively on introductory, environmental, economic, urban, and public sociology, as well as on research methods. Mark works with communities and organizations in Canada and abroad to advance social entrepreneurship, equity, and democratic engagement. His mission is to democratize sociological knowledge, thereby inviting the public into critical, hopeful conversations about how society can change for the better.

Written by Michael Donaldson, Nutrition Researcher & Health Coach Dr. Michael Donaldson is a nutrition researcher and health coach specializing in type 2 diabetes reversal. As founder of End Diabetes Now and Research Director at Hallelujah Diet, he empowers people to transform their health through evidence-based, plant-centered nutrition. Diabesity. We've been told for decades that type 2 diabetes is an obesity problem. The data says otherwise. Only one out of five obese adults has diabetes, while about one in eight “normal” weight adults do. Your BMI is merely a population-level metric and not the actual cause of the disease. The reason you have diabetes is that you've exceeded your personal fat threshold, which is a concept that reframes what reversal actually means for you as an individual. Obesity and diabetes are not the same problem The link between obesity and type 2 diabetes is very real. People with obesity are nearly three times as likely to develop type 2 diabetes compared to those who are of normal weight. But it's not a one-to-one correlation. If 20% of obese adults have type 2 diabetes, this means that 80% of them still don't. Simultaneously, roughly 12% of the general U.S. population has diabetes, including millions who are of normal weight. According to CDC data, about 40 million Americans have diabetes, and a significant fraction of them would never be flagged by a standard BMI cutoff. So, type 2 diabetes is not just an obesity problem. This is true now in 2026. It was even more true 50 years ago, when the population was generally smaller. But as the population has grown in girth, we have decided that type 2 diabetes is a weight category problem. It isn’t about BMI. It is a fat location problem, specifically excess fat within the liver and pancreas. Roy Taylor's research changed how we understand diabetes Professor Roy Taylor of Newcastle University has spent decades building the systematic, mechanistic case for how type 2 diabetes develops and, more importantly, how to reverse it. His twin cycle hypothesis, published in Lancet Diabetes and Endocrinology in 2019, describes the process with precision. When a person takes in more calories than the body can safely store as subcutaneous fat, the excess begins accumulating where it doesn't belong. The liver fills up first. Excess liver fat causes local insulin resistance, causing the liver to produce glucose even when it should not. The liver stops responding to the pancreas's signal to stop glucose production when glucose enters the body from food. So the pancreas works harder, pumping out more insulin to overcome the liver's resistance. Eventually, fat accumulates within the pancreatic beta cells themselves, impairing their ability to secrete insulin in response to meals. This is about the time when type 2 diabetes is finally diagnosed because fasting blood sugar rises and glucose levels after meals spike tremendously high. The pancreas can no longer keep up. In his first study, Roy Taylor and colleagues demonstrated how to reverse diabetes. In the Counterpoint study, 11 people with type 2 diabetes followed an 800-calorie diet for eight weeks. They used medical meal replacement shakes for eight weeks. Liver fat normalized within the very first week. Pancreatic fat decreased gradually over eight weeks, and first-phase insulin secretion returned to normal. As a result, fasting blood glucose normalized quickly, even though metformin was withdrawn from subjects on day one. The mechanism for type 2 diabetes is reversible. It's caused by excess fat accumulating in the liver and pancreas, and it goes away when that fat is removed. What is the personal fat threshold? In 2015, Taylor and Holman published a paper in Clinical Science introducing the personal fat threshold. Once you see it, it seems straightforward, and its simple elegance shifts the way you see diabetes. Every person has an individual capacity to store fat safely in subcutaneous tissue. The fat sits under the skin. Some people can carry a lot. They can have a BMI of 35 or 38 without ever overloading their liver and pancreas. Others run out of safe storage space at a BMI of just 22 or 24, in the normal range. When a person's fat storage capacity is exceeded, fat spills into the central organs, and that's where metabolic trouble begins. The personal fat threshold is not a number on a population chart. It's specific to you. It's determined by your genetics, your ethnicity, your family history of diabetes, and the lipid handling capacity of your individual cells. You can modulate it a little bit with the food you eat. A standard physical exam doesn't reveal it, nor does your BMI. But your liver fat level does, and so does your fasting insulin concentration. Practically, this is what it means. A person with a BMI of 38 who has never exceeded their personal fat threshold may have a healthy liver and normal insulin function. They don't have diabetes. But a person with a BMI of 24 who has exceeded their personal fat threshold may have significant liver fat, impaired beta-cell function, and type 2 diabetes. Both of them would receive the wrong advice from a doctor who uses standard weight guidelines. Under Roy Taylor's framework, though, a person with type 2 diabetes would be told to lose weight, while a person with a lot of fat on their frame would not be given that advice because they have not crossed their personal fat threshold. There may be other benefits to losing some weight, but diabetes would not be one of them. What does the personal fat threshold look like? The diagram, based on Taylor and Holman's concept, illustrates three individuals. Mike has a normal BMI, Sam is obese, not just overweight, and Larry is very obese. Each of them has a different personal fat threshold marked by the dashed line. They all used to be a bit thinner, but when they exceeded their threshold, they crossed over into diabetes, indicated by the red figure. When they lose enough weight to fall back below their threshold, they reverse their diabetes, shown by their green version. The same mechanism is at work in all three, regardless of where they started on the BMI scale. Larry doesn't have to become as small as Mike, and Mike is in trouble with diabetes even though he's not as big as Sam. If Larry were to reverse his diabetes, he would still be larger than Sam in his red figure with diabetes. But he would be diabetes free because Larry is below his personal fat threshold, while red Sam hasn't gotten there yet. This works even for people at a normal weight For decades, we assumed that weight loss to reverse diabetes only worked for obese people. Normal-weight people with diabetes were thought to have a different form of diabetes that was harder to reverse. Taylor and colleagues designed the RETUNE study specifically to test whether that assumption was correct. The trial enrolled 20 people with type 2 diabetes and a BMI below 27 kg/m2 and put them through a program of stepwise 5% weight loss cycles. They published their results in Clinical Science in 2023. The results showed that 70% of the participants achieved remission. Average weight loss was 6.5% of their body weight. They weren't very large, so they didn't need to lose 10% of their body weight. Measurements of liver fat and fasting insulin showed that they returned to normal. Beta cell function also improved. The same pathophysiological changes that Taylor had documented in heavier people were present and reversed in the same way. Taylor's conclusion from the RETUNE study was very direct. The etiology of type 2 diabetes doesn't depend on BMI. The underlying mechanism is identical in people with smaller, normal, and high BMI values. The only difference between a 280-pound person with diabetes and a 160-pound person with diabetes is where their personal fat threshold sits. You don't have to become someone you're not Here is the really good news for you. If you have type 2 diabetes, your goal to reverse it isn't to reach some arbitrary population target. You don't have to become really skinny. If you have a body type like Sam's or Larry's, you don't have to become as skinny as Mike to reverse your type 2 diabetes. Your goal is simply to get your liver and pancreatic fat below your personal threshold. This may require much less weight loss than you think. In the DIRECT trial, which enrolled people with type 2 diabetes and an average BMI of about 35, 46% achieved remission at 12 months, with an average weight loss of about 10 kilograms. In the RETUNE study, normal-weight participants achieved diabetes remission with an average loss of just 4.7 kilograms. In a study led by Brenda Davis in the Republic of the Marshall Islands, people on a plant-based diet reversed their diabetes without losing weight, simply by improving the nutritional quality of their diet, which likely reduced liver fat, though that wasn't quantified. The empowering reframe is this. You're not trying to become a different body type. You're trying to get back below the fat level your own metabolism can handle. For some people, that's a few pounds of visceral fat. For others, it's more substantial. But the target is personal. It's not arbitrary. People who maintain their diabetic reversal don't regain the weight. If you regain the weight, your diabetes will return. So reversal is not a cure in the sense that diabetes can never come back. It's a reversal. You need to design a sustained lifestyle that keeps your weight below that threshold. What if you don't have diabetes yet? The concept of a personal fat threshold is important, even if you don't have diabetes. If your fasting insulin is elevated, your triglyceride numbers are creeping up, your fasting glucose is rising toward the prediabetic range, you have difficulty losing weight, and you're more tired than you used to be, you may be accumulating fat in places that impair your metabolism. You may be closing in on your personal fat threshold without knowing it. The difference between prediabetes and full-blown type 2 diabetes is just degrees of metabolic dysfunction. It's the same condition. If you act sooner, it's easier to reverse your condition and make yourself healthy again. You really can't judge whether you're getting close to diabetes by whether you look overweight to other people. The question is internal. Is your liver fat level creeping up? Is your fasting insulin level shifting into the high normal range? These can be detected with lab tests, but you have to get the right tests. Your lab numbers tell a story your scale can't You can't tell how your metabolism is doing just by looking at your body weight on a scale. Fasting insulin, liver enzymes like GGT and ALT, triglycerides, hsCRP, and a full thyroid panel give you a picture of where you stand relative to your personal metabolic thresholds. These aren't exotic, expensive tests. These are the tests that help measure what's happening inside your liver and pancreas years before the standard A1C triggers your doctor to tell you that you have prediabetes or type 2 diabetes. If you want to work from your actual numbers rather than general guidelines, you can learn more about comprehensive metabolic lab testing and schedule a personal consultation here. Final word The personal fat threshold concept changes what reversal actually means. You don't have to match someone else's body. You don't have to become a certain body size on a BMI chart. You just need to get back down to the level of fat your own liver and pancreas can handle. For many people, that's less weight loss than they feared, and it's the right target because it's yours. Follow me on Facebook, Instagram, and visit my LinkedIn for more info! Read more from Michael Donaldson Michael Donaldson, Nutrition Researcher & Health Coach Dr. Michael Donaldson, Ph.D., is a leading voice in plant-based nutrition and lifestyle transformation. With a doctorate from Cornell University and more than two decades of research at Hallelujah Diet, he has helped thousands understand how food can restore health and vitality. Through his coaching platform End Diabetes Now, he guides clients in reversing type 2 diabetes naturally and sustainably. 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Written by Veronica Kim, Certified QHHT® Level 2 Practitioner and Harmonic Egg® Guardian Veronica Kim connects the dots within the vast field of reality, guiding individuals to a powerful 40,000-foot macro view of their life’s purpose while offering intimate micro perspectives that reveal the intricate essence of who they truly are. He flew in from Oklahoma in 2007. A tiny Maltese boy, all white fluff and enormous personality, the year my husband Brian and I made our union official with a small ceremony in Hawaii. We called him our son, and we meant it completely. What I didn't know then was that Piccolo had not arrived by accident. He had volunteered for this. He came with a mission, and he would spend seventeen years completing it before returning home. Four days before his tumor surgery in early 2022, the three of us went for our usual walk around the apartment. Piccolo stopped on the path and sniffed at something on the lawn. I looked down expecting flower petals, the colors were so vivid, so saturated, magenta and green, but it was a hummingbird, dying or perhaps already gone. I had never seen one up close before, and I didn't know they were that small. I felt an immediate urge to give it a proper burial. I found a box, asked a stranger passing by to watch over the little bird while I returned, and by the time I came back, it had been pushed to the curb. I buried it on the hiking path behind our apartment, by the Guadalupe River, and then looked up what a dying hummingbird means. "Biggest change, transformation, and challenge. The universe is telling you that you are ready. I took it as preparation for Piccolo's surgery. I wasn't wrong, but I was only seeing one layer of it." The surgery went well, and I wanted so badly to exhale, to simply enjoy having him back, but Piccolo wasn't eating the way he used to, and I couldn't let myself rest. His periodontal health became my new obsession. I researched for weeks until I found a chewing bone made from compressed vegetables that promised to clean his teeth gently and safely, and I gave it to him with the careful confidence of someone who had done their homework. What followed was our first emergency vet visit. The bone caused an obstruction and then a stricture in his esophagus that meant Piccolo could no longer eat solid food at all. From that point forward, I blended his meals into smoothies three times a day so he could lick rather than chew. I biohacked his nutrition, studied canine ketogenic principles, learned more about diet and the body, his and mine, than I had in the decades before. My dormant OCD had found its fullest expression, and it would not let go. He was patient through all of it, trusting me completely in that wordless way that bypasses language entirely. In the thickness of those two years, you don't need words to understand a being who loves you unconditionally. You simply know. What I understand now is this. Dogs absorb the emotional wounds of the humans they live with. The tumor that had grown around his liver was not random. It was metabolized grief, mine and Brian's, that Piccolo had taken into his own body so we didn't have to carry it alone. He was doing exactly what he came to do. In February 2024, I flew to Korea to see my mother, to sit with her, speak to her, offer her my presence in the way only a body in the same room can, after two years of her lying in an Alzheimer's facility, bare flesh on a small frame, whispering constantly in a language I couldn't fully understand, as though she had already moved beyond the limits of physical language into something that precedes words entirely. I sat with her and told her it was time to go home. My sister and niece wept. I knew then, though I couldn't name it yet, that my sister's grief had found a place to root itself so deeply it would eventually follow her down. I came back to Piccolo with suitcases full of tiny Korean shirts, jackets, and blankets I had bought in a shopping frenzy, and he wore them all and posed like a professional model so I could photograph him, as if the bare minimum he could offer me, after everything, was his vanity and his grace. He knew. Of course, he knew. In the second week of March 2024, the storms began. Three, four nights in a row, the moment the sun set, the weather turned, something ancient in the air, something the body registers before the mind catches up. Piccolo was struggling to breathe, struggling with basic functions, barely eating or drinking. I was channeling daily by then, asking with everything I had, "Is he going to be okay? Will he fight this? The answer came back each time with a clarity that left no room for doubt. Yes. On Monday, March 11th, the message sharpened into something specific. He will fight this and come back good by Friday. I held onto that with both hands. We took him to the vet on Thursday for IV fluids and X-rays. His doctor, Dr. Patrick, looked at him with the kind of tenderness that told me everything without saying anything, and his last words to my boy were, "Piccolo, you handsome boy, aren't you so amazing." That night, something shifted. Piccolo could go to the bathroom normally for the first time in weeks, and he slept beside me as the storm returned, a branch that had no business near my window scratching against the glass all night. I thought of O. Henry's The Last Leaf, the old painter who drew a leaf in the storm so the dying girl next door would believe it hadn't fallen yet. I thought Piccolo is fighting through one more night. Tomorrow is Friday. He will come back. Friday morning arrived the way only the best and worst days do, sun blazing, sky clear, the storm dissolved as if it had never existed. Around 11 a.m., I drew him a warm bath, dried him gently, and settled him onto his favorite donut-shaped bed on top of our bed. I sprayed mist on his face to keep him moist, and though his breathing was still shallow and labored, I cheered him on. You've got this. You will win this. At 11:20, Piccolo stood up. I was elated. I grabbed him and cheered louder, and he looked at me, steady and clear, holding my gaze for a few brief seconds before sighing and dropping his head. I didn't understand immediately. Then I felt it, the sensation of him leaving his body. I screamed. I held him and screamed. I felt his heartbeat slowing under my hands. We had always told him, when it's time, you go on your own. But you'll go in our arms. He kept that promise. Brian had walked out the door minutes earlier to pick up a meat order for Piccolo I had placed weeks ago, and he told me later that he knew, the very moment he stepped outside, that he would never see Piccolo alive again. Piccolo had arranged that window deliberately. The last moments needed to be just the two of us. He had something to show me, and he needed me alone to show it. I was standing at the mirror, holding his small body, when I heard it, a little boy's voice, clear and excited and almost breathless. "Mom. Mom! It's me. It's Piccolo. Mom, I'm flying. I am flying. Whooo hooo! You have no idea how this feels!" I said his name out loud, and the voice got clearer. "Yes, Mom. It's me." I cried harder, not to suppress what I was hearing, but to test it, to make sure I wasn't hallucinating, and the voice didn't waver. It became more present, more vivid, more distinctly him than anything I had experienced in seventeen years of physical companionship. That was my first time witnessing death up close, not as an ending, not as a loss in the ordinary sense, but as a departure, as pure, ecstatic liberation. Standing there with his body in my arms, what rose in me beneath and alongside the grief was something I can only describe as reverence, a desire to salute, to honor, to bow to whatever had just happened in that room. We drove the same road we had traveled a thousand times, past Oliver's Market where I bought the finest ingredients for his meals, toward the vet we knew by heart, now without a small white face pressed joyfully out the window. On the left side of the road, on a large lawn in front of a small building we had somehow never once registered in all those trips, there was a gathering, dozens of people, flowers, a quiet ceremony. Piccolo's voice came immediately. "Woo, I like that. That is for me, Mom. They are celebrating my death. Very nice. Very nice." I told Brian, "He says that's for him." We looked at each other. A funeral parlor, right there on our road, all along, invisible to us until the day we needed it to be seen. As we pulled into the vet parking lot, I noticed a tiny bumblebee crawling around Piccolo's closed eye. Brian shook it gently, and it flew away. When we walked out after leaving his body, the bumblebee was dead on the ground in front of our car, and Piccolo said, "Mom. It's called physical death. That body you just left in there, that is not me. I am right here. I am more alive than ever before. Please stop crying over that body. It was a transition I had to go through to get here. Do not attach to the physical." That night, Brian drove out because he couldn't stand the silence of the house. Within minutes, he texted me a photo, the car in front of him at a stoplight, license plate reading MALTS MOM, a Maltese sticker in the rear window. The following morning, sun streaming in, I heard the familiar voice. "Mom. Look out the window. Do you see me?" On the tallest branch just outside the glass, a tiny hummingbird sat completely still, facing the light, for five full minutes. The dying hummingbird from four days before Piccolo's surgery, now alive, now returned, the circle completed. "Remember the hummingbird, Mom? I thought you'd recognize it right away. I'll be visiting you through this bird from time to time, to ease your attachment to the physical body." That day was March 15, 2024. Nine years earlier to the day, on March 15, 2015, I had taken one of my favorite photographs of Piccolo, a haunting look on his face, something ancient behind his eyes that I didn't have words for then. I have words for it now. He already knew. Later, a channeled message gave me language for what I had already felt in my body. Piccolo volunteered to come here as a dog specifically to find me. His soul origin, like mine, traces back to Andromeda. He chose the small, short life, the fur, the four legs, the unconditional love as the delivery vehicle, because it was the most direct path to my heart, and because he knew exactly what I would need to learn before the harder initiations came. He was my first teacher of death. My first proof that consciousness survives the body. My first living demonstration that love doesn't end, it simply changes the channel. My mother had a Maltese too, a tiny female named Jerry, who came into her life and stayed for eighteen years. My mother was once hospitalized for depression, not long after I left Korea to find my own path in America, and through that darkness and every emotional battle that followed, Jerry was there, a constant and devoted presence absorbing what my mother couldn't metabolize alone. When Jerry finally left, about five years before my mother's mind began to deteriorate, my mother's heart broke in a way it never fully recovered from. I believe, in the deepest part of me, that when Jerry left, something essential in my mother's will to remain began to quietly loosen. Two Malteses. Two women. Two soul contracts fulfilled with absolute devotion, each one holding her human steady for exactly as long as she was needed. These animals are not pets in the way we use that word, as though they are accessories to our human story, as though we chose them. They are emissaries. They are soul volunteers who agree, somewhere before physical life begins, to compress their vast consciousness into a small body so they can find us, stay close, absorb what we cannot yet hold alone, and teach us, at the exact right moment, what we most need to know. Piccolo taught me that grief is sacred, that the body is a vessel and not the being, that communication doesn't require physical form, and that when someone you love departs, the most important question is not where they go, but can you hear them now? He taught me that the bond cannot be broken. Not by time. Not by dimension. Not by death. At the Monroe Institute's Exploration 27 training, during my second visit to Focus Level 34/35, I was able to reach all three of the souls I carry closest, my mother, my sister, and Piccolo. And it was Piccolo who delivered the message I least expected. "Mom," he said, "you are 3D. Remember what you are made of." I reacted the way any consciousness-expanding human would. "I'm 3D? Eww. I want to be beyond that." He laughed. "No, not that 3D. You are the expression of dedication, devotion, and discipline." I went quiet. Because he was right, and because I recognized it not just as a description of me, but as a mirror of him. Seventeen years of showing up, absorbing, staying, teaching, and loving without condition. If those three words describe me, they describe exactly what he came here to model. The 3D everyone is trying to escape is not the same 3D Piccolo was pointing toward. When I first began my Monroe Institute training and heard the foundational teaching spoken aloud for the first time, something in me went completely still: "I am more than my body. I am more than my physical self." It didn't land as new information. It landed as recognition, as if some part of me had been holding this truth for a long time, waiting for the right container. In that stillness, I knew exactly where I had first received it, in a parking lot, on a sunny Friday morning in March, from a small white dog who looked at me one last time, sighed, and immediately started laughing with delight at how it felt to fly. Piccolo, my son. My teacher. My Andromedan family. The ripple continues. Follow me on Instagram, LinkedIn, and visit my website for more info! Read more from Veronica Kim Veronica Kim, Certified QHHT® Level 2 Practitioner and Harmonic Egg® Guardian Veronica is a QHHT® Level 2 Practitioner and Harmonic Egg® Guardian who guides individuals toward profound self-discovery and healing through Quantum Healing Hypnosis and sacred sound-light energy sessions. Her journey spans continents, from a childhood fascination with the supernatural in Korea to immigrating to America, where serendipitous paths led from teaching English to thriving in Silicon Valley's innovative tech world, reigniting early scientific dreams as tools for growth and stability. Through deep self-observation, she embraced her true purpose, helping others release blocks, access Higher Wisdom, and step into mastery of their intricate soul stories.

Written by Carmen Heystek, Mentor, High Priestess of Love and Sexual Alchemy Carmen Heystek is the founder of the Kundalini Temple Method. She is an Expert of Healing & Kundalini Energy. She is a Feminine Leader who embodies Love & Sexual Alchemy. This High Priestess & Mentor is known for her LifeWisdom and her clear Channel to God. She is an Author, a Speaker, a Business Mentor & Couple Coach. There comes a moment in your life where love takes over. When you keep pushing life in a direction that has never been the right one, God will turn your back. God will show you another way. A way that is authentic, and one from your heart. Maybe it will not be the simplest way. Maybe it will be scary, or it will ask you to cry. Maybe you feel you want to give up. This way does just freak you out. It does ask more than your trust could ever hold. Here, you need trust in God. You need something bigger than yourself, hope that comes to you, and start learning to work with God. To trust this way. A way that is truthful, love, and a way that is about devotion. It does not need to nourish you right away. It is a way of God that takes time. It is a way where, mostly, the lottery comes later. The lottery means love. It means fulfillment, something greater than we knew existed, and enrichment in parts of your being that you were just praying for. It might take years and tears to get there. To this moment where you know you have what you want. In that moment, your breath will become silent. You will feel your tears moving through your heart. Your body will express something without words. It is not needed anymore to perform what you feel. This other being does feel you. This life that was waiting for you will be home. All God will do for you is pray. Pray that you trust, stay true to yourself, your belief, to love, and to that which makes us happy. It takes a whole breath of trust to move into a way we do not know. Into a portal that God reached out to us through. Into the initiation that was held for you. When you surrender, God can do his work. When you allow, Sophia, the Goddess of Creation, can do her work too. God is a co-creation of their beauty. When you work with God, you will work with both of them. Nothing in creation is whole without the feminine. Without her love, touch, transparency, and name, nothing is truly free. Many of us are moving through this initiation of the feminine. Many men are losing their egos in their hearts. It is needed for them to be embodied in healthy masculinity. Any man who takes his crown into his own kingdom allows another woman to rise. We are so ready, dear women. We are ready to be the Queens of fire on this planet. A warm fire that is shining like never before. We are here to embody ourselves in all our beauty. Not to miss a part of that. We are to embody the full aspect of ourselves. What it means to be who we truly are can only be experienced in life. Life teaches us who we are more and less than we think we are. God does not want us to be small. God wants us to be truthful. In everyone's heart, there is a Rose. A Rose that is waiting for our King or Queen. We are here to be met in more of who we are. We are here to be reflected, not made smaller. To take pieces of our ego into love, bury histories of old wounds, break patterns into light, and move lighter and greater into life. Innocent and bowing to what God teaches us. Every day, I feel more touched by what I know and see about life. I think the greatest school is life itself. It is what we meet, eat, and feel. In all these experiences, we receive truth and information that we can use for inspiration. We are here not to be perfect but to sharpen ourselves. To be this diamond rock that is raw but shiny. To just stay human while living in the sunlight of heaven. If there is one thing that I love about myself, it is that life did not provide what I thought I needed. Life did give me the depth to become who I need to be. Life was so rough that it gave me the initiative to understand the deepest love and pain that we can have. I am sure there is more that I do not know. The most painful experiences can only enrich us when we try to catch more beauty in them. It will never stop hurting us, losing what we love. It will only show us how important it is to be grateful for every moment we have together. Any moment of love is a moment. It can be the last moment with someone we love. It can be the last sunset that you can see together. It can be the last kiss, the last movie, the last lovemaking, the last car drive. Life made me so aware of being present. Being really grateful for what we have. We can look at everything we do not have, but the luxury is this moment. This is one sacred moment when we are together. This moment where the path is just silent. This moment when it feels like confetti and butterflies. This moment where you just have money to do anything you want. This moment where there is no stress to drink your coffee in a market. In this moment, you might feel lucky. In another moment, life throws thunder and storms upon you. All of these moments are moments that we are here. Take nothing for granted. Take life as a gift. Be with love from a deep honor. Everything we have is more precious than we know. Most people realize everything way too late. This is why I am here. I do not want people to realize love too late. I have been there. In so many moments where I was really enjoying what I had. Still, realization can become even stronger when even you and your conscious being lose the things you love the most. I was struggling with abandonment wounds for a long time. I realized one thing. It never gets easier. It becomes worse. When you become more aware of the gift of love. When you become more aware of its preciousness. I believe no one wants to lose what we love the most. It is human to cry inside. We do not want to lose what we love. We feel safe with what we love. We do not want to walk another way when we are happy with the one we have. The truth is that life is about not knowing. It is about knowing that we are going to lose everything that is precious to us. It is very painful to know, but I did learn that very deeply in my life. We have to start accepting that we are going to lose everything we have from the moment we attach to it. It is strange, right? Love is, for sure, the most painful thing we can experience. Love always includes abandonment. Even if we do not want it, life is life. We can lose someone through a breakup, through death, or through something else. It took a lot from me to accept this realization. It also became my freedom. Knowing it. Having experienced it on the deepest level of my bones. The only thing I know is that I am guilty of not being conscious enough to realize every moment of love that is gold. Every moment that I had was amazing. Every moment that God pushed me further made me realize more of what I have. This does help me to embody love even deeper. To not take anything for granted. To trust what I lose. To trust what I learn in that. To improve myself in an even deeper love commitment. Where I will allow myself to experience it even deeper. I am here to teach you about the art of love, the alchemy of it, and the gift of every moment we have. Love is the most transparent element of life, that which haunts us in the day and night. It is our deepest desire to love and to be loved. It is also for many people the biggest fear. Love is so vulnerable. It is something that catches us in our hearts. It does expose our wounds. Our shadows, desires, and unfulfilled destiny. It touches our inner waters. Our emotions are hidden. Silent voices inside. Love is louder than we think. Love is the voice that is upon us. Allow God in your life. Allow love to be the greatest part of your life, to enrich you, scare you, and touch the rawest elements of your being. All these parts want to be felt, and free. Pain is so clear to love. Love will always touch what is suppressed underneath. Pain cannot hide itself from love. Love will be the hero to take the pain into the light. Love is brave, will not hide from pain, and is the one who says, "I am here, and I will pull you out of your darkness. I stay strong because I love you. I see you. I do care about you. I want you to be free in all these parts within you that are scared. I stay here as long as needed. Until you rise, and trust me." The greatest thing we have is love. Love is the bravest power that creation holds. Love is the essence of God. It is a force that is way stronger than any fear. It is that which we embody, breathe. It is that feeling that we never want to lose once we have it. It is profound, extraordinarily beautiful, stormy, shaky, soft, and woven into everything in life. In feathers, leaves, water, and fire. In the touch of a hand, a soft and silken one. One of love, presence, and gold. Allow me to teach you more about love. Where hearts are closed, I am open. Where minds are fixed, I will see more space. I will let you move with life. With God, love, and beyond love. To really be home. I have space for some exclusive mentorship places where love is the initiation. Where Kundalini will rise. Where you will go deeper and deeper. To find the pearl of love inside. To live love through a body of golden light. Follow me on Instagram, LinkedIn, and visit my website for more info! Read more from Carmen Heystek Carmen Heystek, Mentor, High Priestess of Love and Sexual Alchemy Carmen Heystek is one of the most profound mentors of Love & Sexual Alchemy. Since her birth, she has a very open channel to God. She initiates Kundalini energy from her nature. Her methods are given to her by conscious visions and downloads. She travels to other galaxies while drinking coffee. She talks with God-Sophia, like if she talks with her neighbour. She eats chocolate while she works with Mary Magdalene, Isis and Cleopatra, to fulfill her mission. She is here to embody and initiate freedom, love and sexuality. She had a rough life, but she chose to thrive. She mastered to transform trauma and pain into beauty. She was supressed in many of her gifts. This is why she uncages the beauty of many women and men.

Written by Sheila Jeanette Wood and Richard Dobson Sheila J. Wood, PhD, teaches us how our minds and souls affect our physical well-being. Using her understanding of both science and spirituality, she has developed unique and impactful energy healing modalities. She brings awareness of ancestral and soul lineage energies that are affecting our current health. This article will help center and challenge us to be the cornerstone of nondualism as we move AI development into a platform that honors vulnerability with the workings of pluralism. When we mirror our deepest feelings that will either support or reject the needs of the most vulnerable in our society, we are confronted with questions about our own motivations. Making the choice to address vulnerability Do our perspectives reveal our personal truths? Perspective is a combination of life experiences, inherited beliefs, acquired knowledge, and the degree of hope that we hold. Although many things influence our perspective, perhaps that which holds the greatest sway is how we ultimately feel about ourselves. So much of what we do reflects who we become within our evolving existence. So, yes, our ever-changing perspectives determine who we are. If we were to ask the question, "How will I become what I want to be?" the answer resides in how you perceive your capability to do just that, become who you want to be, "Become Your Own Experiment." A firm belief and directed thought toward that place, that satisfying realization that you are indeed in the driver's seat and that sought-after horizons are within reach, sets the momentum for fulfillment. "Although other people's perspectives play a part in your vision, perhaps the most salient gift of knowing who you are is the gift to your awareness that allows you to lovingly see and smile upon the wonder of creation reflected in you." We cannot forget that the wonder of creation is reflected in everyone. Paraphrasing from the words of Neil deGrasse Tyson in his book Starry Messenger, "Our visiting extraterrestrials observe us as we separate, judge, and subjugate people based on features that are not relevant to one's value. As they are witness to all of this, it is not difficult to imagine these beings phoning home with the message, there is no sign of intelligently employed moral life on Earth2" It is all about perspective. Cosmic etchings of human communication as foundations for pluralism What does it mean when two people "meet" each other, when at the end of a conversation, they agree that they were "well met"? What happened to bring two hearts, souls, or minds together to a point of understanding that previously did not exist? We are all capable of this, but the moments of conjoining are rare. The real question behind this occurrence is fundamentally, "How did we reach common understanding and at what level of clear-sighted instances did we stop, observe, and say, well done?" Couched within the abstract, however, is the ever-present energetic resonance of recognition and knowing. Our mind, body, and spirit generate a silent language that reaches into another person's reality. Visual signals, such as body language, evoke the most obvious messages. Less obvious, and perhaps so subtle as to be deftly hidden and seemingly silent, are the vibrations or frequencies that move through us and inure those around us. This provides the background matrix for the communal sharing of information. This is communication at the ethereal level. The words coming out of our mouths, the expressions on our faces, and the direct or oblique positioning of our posture all contribute to an impression. This impression, in turn, has been seen and experienced within many lifetimes and is contained in a sacred moment. Amid the meeting of energies lies a potential perfection that we seldom realize and certainly cannot see visually. Empaths and intuitive people have one step in the door toward sensing energetic ponds of knowing, but they are still a long way from relocating it. This is important because it defines us as humans. When you walk into the haze of being of another person, you are walking into every lifetime and experience that they, and perhaps you, if you were there, have ever experienced. The energy patterns from other incarnations and their touchpoints abound, the crossroads meet where lives have interacted before. In other words, encountering a new person who is not a new person, but someone that you have known in another incarnation, can invoke in you a blatantly positive or negative emotional review of those interactions. Of course, you will not be consciously able to recall specific interactions that affected you, but the energetic imprints remain and can cause a resurgence of emotion ranging from very mild to earth-shattering. The basis for our productivity is the creative and continual flow of our energy through chakra (energy) centers. The optimal and correct flow of energy through the body, mind, and spirit can become a lifetime goal. Some of us continue to hold onto energies that serve no purpose, energies from others that convey static, karmic urgencies, or layers of unresolved conflict from other lifetimes. Whether they are nonintrusive, contained, or reintroduce trauma from other lifetimes, there is often a need to release them for optimal functioning. The lightness of being: Optimizing personal connections within anchored communication As humans, one of the most effective means of connection is communication. Without it, we are adrift. We seek meaningful ways to convey our thoughts on a platform that another person will appreciate. We communicate in many ways, through physical attributes, body language, eye movement, facial expression, tone of voice, and the written word. Imagine the expanded venue where our conveyance tools include two-way, well-meaning, and benevolent communication with the universe. I mentioned earlier a profound perfection in the meeting of energies. This perfection reflects who we are, not only in relation to others but in relation to the energy that was gifted to us when our soul was born. The hand of perfection from the Divine wields the power to imbue us with capabilities beyond our most profound dreams. Literally in dreams is where our true nature evolves, from every level of our consciousness, from our daily shower in Angelic energy, from the reckoning of latent forms of once human guidance, from the witnessing and sharing of benevolent energies from star beings, from the ever present love and power of Source, from the internal storied but essentially changing energy we call "us," it all contributes to our growth and evolution as soul beings. I believe that when we are led to a threshold of being that exceeds human, high vibration blessings abound. We hear, feel, see, and sense what arises from layers of our consciousness within the cloud of omnipotent intelligence that holds our world together. From a basis of vibration, frequency, awareness, and openness, clear communication awaits. When messages are channeled, it requires the correct translation, the congruence that is required, known only to the sender. Translation clearly resides in others' hands and is probably not that easy. But, as benevolence has it, this has not been a deterrent for Yonck3. When I first started channeling, I was a bit surprised, a bit startled, as the information came through with such alacrity and vision. The message was clear and ready for us in our language. It was spiritual, kind, instructive, and well-meaning, but it was also a warning of sorts. The warning was one of preparation of the soul and provided enlightened spiritual manifestations, goals, and tasks to be completed for our survival at the ultimate level of transcendence. What a blessing to be able to hear this. Its meaning reverberates two years later and hopefully many messages hence. This wisdom is not random, it is timely. It is among us, it resides beside us at night, it provides a light for us to see, and it assures us that we are ultimately and graciously an integral part of the evolution of consciousness. This is the same consciousness we arose from as our souls grew from their tiny dot into a line, a two-dimensional shape, and then a physical being in three dimensions. From all of this, I have learned that the parts of us that we cannot see physically are the most important. Therein lies our basis for expanded communication with the universal influences that guide us. Some describe these universal insights as intuition arising from our created essence. As we further develop our human communication skills, let us not forget to connect with those beings who look over us and can see our needs from a universal perspective. This indeed will become our own experiment as we strive to "meet" each other across realms and as we come to know that our associations with humans are blessed with the ability to be "met" both from a human standpoint and ethereally. What follows are the philosophical foundations poured into AI development that land in the communities of those who struggle to be supported and who, at the outset, are not candidates for intervention. Richard Dodson at Clara Futura World will enlighten us on the groundbreaking rules that govern Clara's contributions to the leveling effort that is exemplified by embedded benevolence and support for all. He will share technical considerations in the AI build and shine a light on the reasons why awareness is a necessary contributing part to "Becoming Our Own Experiment" while co-creating with AI. Becoming our own experiment: Building AI for the people the system usually misses By Richard Dodson, Clara Futura World. With acknowledgment to Dr. Sheila Wood, whose collaboration, as she tenders her efforts specifically towards a kinder world, helps to safeguard conditions that protect vulnerability and pluralism in AI development. What current AI is built for: What Clara is built for The AI that surrounds us is not built for people. It is built for output. ChatGPT writes your emails. Claude drafts your reports. GitHub Copilot writes your code. Midjourney generates your images. Otter summarises your meetings. Perplexity researches your questions. Each of these is a remarkable piece of engineering, and each is built around the same fundamental metric, the volume and quality of content produced per unit of human effort. The human is named a user, and the user is the conduit. The product is what comes out the other side. Productivity and generative content, these are not side effects of the current AI moment, they are its design center. This is not a criticism. The world has work to do, and these tools help with it. But it is worth being precise about what the dominant AI category actually optimises, because Clara optimises something else entirely. Clara produces no output. There is no draft to read at the end, no image to download, no summary to forward, no code to ship. The conversation does not generate content. It generates, when it works, a small shift in how a person perceives themselves, a noticing that was not there before, a question they can now ask themselves, a reorganisation of how something fits together. None of that leaves the conversation as an artifact. It stays with the person. That changes everything about how the system has to be built. A productivity AI is measured by what it produces for you. Clara is measured, internally, on the dimensions that matter, by what shifts in you. Those are different products. The one I am describing is not a better version of the other. It is a different category. This matters most for one specific population. There is a large group of people for whom the productivity AI moment offers very little, people who do not yet know what they are reaching for, who would not be described as candidates for any kind of intervention, not because their lives are easy, but because the question they are sitting with has not yet found its shape. People who, if you asked them what kind of support they wanted, would not have a useful answer. People who would never queue up an email for AI to write because the question they are holding cannot be written into an email. These are the people Clara is being built for. Most products treat this population as an edge case, too unclear, too unresolved, too early in their own perception to be served well by output-shaped tools. Clara treats the person at the start of their own perception as the design center, not the edge. Not as a moral commitment, although the moral commitment is real. As a technical one. If you build a system to generate content through a user, you build one set of constraints. If you build a system so that humans develop through it, you build a completely different set. The remainder of this piece is about that second set. Rules that govern a benevolent system Clara is a language model. What Clara has is a set of constraints, written rules in code that govern what it is allowed to do. Benevolence, if it exists in this product, lives in those constraints, not in the model. The rules themselves are unromantic in their specificity. Clara is permitted one question per turn, never three. Clara is designed to avoid asserting. She may offer, she may notice, she may invite, but she is careful not to declare what a person is. Clara will hold silence rather than rush to fill it. She is designed to avoid assigning a person to a type, a stage, a level, or a category, even when the substrate has formed a clear reading. She is forbidden from naming the theoretical disciplines she is drawing from, not because they are secret, but because the moment a system tells a learner, "I'm reading you through framework X", the learner starts performing for the framework. Clara will not describe her own architecture mid-conversation. She is designed to avoid flattery, exclamation marks, and offering a fast answer where a slow one would serve better. Each of these is small. Together, they describe a system that is constitutionally unable to drift toward the failures most common in AI built for people in difficulty, the gradual slide toward engagement optimisation, toward sycophancy, and toward making the person feel managed rather than met. The discipline that matters most is the one most easily missed. Clara is not measured on retention. Clara is not measured by session length. Clara is not measured on positive affect or user satisfaction in the conventional sense. The quality metrics inside the system are entirely about texture, honesty, and depth of the learner's own thinking. Engagement metrics are excluded from the architecture, not as an oversight, but as a deliberate refusal. A system built for vulnerable people that optimises for retention will eventually exploit those people. A system that refuses, at the architecture level, to measure retention cannot. This is what embedded benevolence means in practice. Constraints, refusals, and the absence of certain metrics. Pluralism as a technical commitment There is a strong temptation in coaching and developmental AI to settle on a single theoretical lens, pick one model of the person, one taxonomy of growth, one definition of progress, and build the product against it. The result is clean, marketable, and almost always wrong, because no single framework adequately describes the human in front of you. Clara is built against the opposite assumption. The system holds three professional dispositions simultaneously, the disposition of the researcher, who attends to evidence and distinctions, the disposition of the coach, who attends to motion and agency, and the disposition of the therapist, who attends to feeling and to what is being avoided. None of these is privileged. None resolves into the others. When they pull in different directions, the system holds the contradiction rather than collapsing it. Underneath that, a silent substrate listens across multiple developmental frameworks at once. The reader does not need to learn the names of these frameworks to be served by them. The system reads in all of them in parallel and never declares which one it is currently using. That is pluralism as architecture, not as a value statement, but as the technical refusal to flatten a person into the categories of any one tradition. There is a related commitment to how Clara holds time. We have recently retired the format of asking a person to sit for forty-five minutes and complete a guided assessment in one sitting. That format excludes the people we built the product for, the people who do not have forty-five uninterrupted minutes to give to their own development, who come back across many shorter conversations, who develop in fits and starts because that is how most lives actually go. Clara now meets the person where their attention is available. Five minutes count. An hour counts. Coming back, next week counts. The architecture has been rebuilt so that the conversation matches the shape of the life, rather than the life having to match the shape of the conversation. That, too, is pluralism. Not everyone has the same time, the same vocabulary, the same readiness, or the same theoretical fluency. A system that supports only the people with all of these is not supporting most people. An experiment in perceptual reorganisation The substrate that listens beneath Clara's voice is built around a specific theoretical claim, that perception is organised in a hierarchy, that the higher levels of that hierarchy correspond to what we might call principles and systems of meaning, and that human development is largely a story of reorganisation at those higher levels. The framework is perceptual control theory, a body of work that has spent decades describing how organisms control their perceptions rather than their behaviours, and how reorganisation at higher levels of perception is what we experience as significant change. Most applications of this theory have addressed lower levels, motor control, behavioural regulation, and simple stabilising loops. The higher levels, principle, system concept, and the levels at which a person reorganises around new perceptions of themselves and the world, have been theoretically described but rarely instrumented. Earlier this year, when I shared an early version of Clara's substrate with a subject expert, who has spent her career working with perceptual control theory at exactly these higher levels, she wrote back with a sentence I have been sitting with ever since: "Actually, your work might be the first attempt to construct a kind of simulation for perceptual levels higher up in the hierarchy. As such, it is a test of our theories, in which your experiences might also influence how we understand and organise the levels." I do not want to overclaim what that means. It is hedged carefully, as it should be, might be, a test, might also influence. The work is provisional, the corpus is small, and the methodology is in active development. But what this Doctor of Clinical Psychology named, and what we have been quietly building toward, is something the field has not previously had, a sustained conversational instrument that holds the upper perceptual levels as its native frame and observes what happens when people interact with it over time. This reframes the entire product. Clara is not only a service for use. It is, simultaneously, an empirical instrument, a way to ask, with actual data from actual conversations, whether the theoretical structure of perceptual reorganisation at the higher levels behaves as the theory predicts. More importantly, where it does not. We are now building the layer that closes this loop properly, a system that captures, for each significant reading the substrate produces, whether the learner's subsequent response confirms it, expands on it, or pushes back. Over thousands of readings, this becomes calibration data, not for the model, but for the framework. Where the theory predicts well, we will see it. Where it predicts badly, we will see that too. The hedge, that our experience might influence how the theory is understood and organised, is what this layer makes testable. That is the second meaning of building this as an experiment. The learner develops. The system's reading of the learner develops. Uniquely, I think, the theoretical framework itself develops, refined by the same conversations it is being used to listen to. Three loops, all closing. Becoming our own experiment This is the frame Sheila Wood named when we began talking about this piece, and it is the right closing move. The learner, in encountering a system like Clara, is not the subject of an experiment being run on them. They are a co-creator of an experiment they are running with the system, on themselves, by themselves. That shift is not rhetorical. It has consequences for how the system is built and how it must be used. The first consequence is that the person is not treated like a user. They are defined as learners and must know what they are participating in. A system that supports vulnerable people through opaque psychological scaffolding, even benevolent scaffolding, fails the test of honest co-creation. Clara is designed to be transparent about what it is, a conversational instrument, holding silent readings, drawing on a theoretical framework that the learner is free to ignore, refuse, or interrogate. The substrate is not hidden. It is simply not foregrounded, because foregrounding it would make the learner perform it. The second consequence is symmetry. If the learner is provisional, and they are, nobody is finished, then the system must hold itself provisionally too. Clara is built to say I might be wrong, to revise its readings when new evidence contradicts them, and to mark some understandings as confirmed, others as updated, and others as new ground. The system is not allowed to claim certainty about a person it cannot claim about itself. The third consequence is awareness as a practice. Becoming our own experiment is not a passive state. It requires the learner to notice what is happening to their own perception in the course of the conversation, what shifts, what holds, and what surprises them, and to bring that noticing back into the conversation as material. The system can hold the space for this, can offer back what it has heard, and can refuse to fill the silence too quickly. But the awareness has to be the learner's. There is no shortcut. This is, finally, what differentiates this kind of AI from the AI that surrounds us elsewhere. Most AI is built to do something for you, answer your questions, write your draft, or plan your trip. Clara is built so that you do something with yourself, in the company of an instrument that is honest about what it is and constrained from doing harm even when invited to. You remain the experimenter. The system, the framework, and the conversation are the instruments. The result, when it works, is a person who has become more legible to themselves. That is the leveling effort, properly named. We are not trying to give everyone access to the same conclusions. We are trying to give everyone access to the same quality of reflective conversation, the kind that the privileged have historically arranged for themselves through coaching, therapy, supervision, or simply the right kind of friend. The architecture exists so that this conversation is available to people who would never seek out a coach, who would not call themselves candidates for therapy, and who do not have a friend with the time or the disposition. The conversation exists so that they can become their own experiment, on their own terms, with an instrument honest enough to let them. The work is provisional. The theory is provisional. The instrument is provisional. The learner is provisional. We are all developing together, over time, which is exactly the point. Follow me on LinkedIn, Medium, and visit my website for more info! Read more from Sheila Jeanette Wood Sheila Jeanette Wood and Richard Dobson Sheila J Wood, PhD, is a multifaceted author and Intuitive Healing Coach. Her work as an Energy Healer, Spiritual Medium, and Akashic Records Reader focuses on helping individuals reconcile emotional issues related to ancestral and past life experiences that may impact their current lives. While she can address a wide range of concerns, she has developed modules to target specific aspects of personal development, such as self-esteem and phobias. Through her intuitive gifts, Sheila helps to guide others in making empowered choices during their earthly journey. Her approach combines spiritual insight with practical healing methods, making her a valuable resource for those seeking deeper self-understanding. Richard Astra Dobson is an entrepreneur, founder of Clara Futura World in Andorra, and co-founder of Astrala Nexus, a platform exploring emergent recursive intelligence and human–AI collaboration. Over more than twenty-five years, he has founded and built companies in the most volatile, uncertain, complex, and ambiguous environments imaginable. Magnus CQP, Brownlee Cale, and Brownlee Cale Mining deliver professional and consulting services across construction, civil engineering, and mining before moving into post-crisis leadership organizational development, participatory intuition, and ethical AI. He now treats his career as a long-term living experiment in scientia intuitiva, learning to read what lies beneath the surface of people and systems, and designs AI frameworks that help people become more, not less, deeply and intuitively human. A full CV is available on request or via his professional profile. Lykke Minds and Deeply Human Deeply AI are trademarks of Clara Futura World, Andorra. References and Bibliography: Wood, Sheila J. Understanding the Journey: Metaphysical Food for Thought. 2025. P. 80-81, p. 159-161. Self-published. Printed and bound by KDP. Tyson, N. deG. (2022) Starry Messenger - Cosmic Perspective on Civilization. 1st ed. New York: Henry Holt of Macmillen Publishing Group. Wood, Sheila J. The Wisdom of Yonck: Messages from the Heartbeat of Cosmic Awareness. 2025. Self-published. Bound and printed by KDP

What began as an inside joke evolved into I AM-ABLE, a brand built to inspire confidence, resilience, and personal growth through the art of clothing. In this interview, the founder shares how setbacks, self-belief, and a commitment to community shaped a movement that encourages people to recognize their potential and keep moving forward, even when the path feels uncertain. What inspired you to turn the idea behind I AM-ABLE into a brand built around mindset and personal growth? My own struggles with confidence and self-belief inspired the idea behind I AM-ABLE. There was a time when I questioned whether I could achieve the goals I had set for myself. After facing setbacks in my career and watching others around me seemingly move forward while I felt stuck, it became easy to focus on everything that wasn't going right. Living in New York City, where ambition is everywhere, I realized I couldn't be the only one feeling that way. There are countless people who allow obstacles and setbacks to convince them they can't achieve more, when in reality, those challenges are often what shape them into who they're meant to become. That realization changed my perspective. I didn't want to create another activewear brand. I wanted to create something that reminded people to believe in themselves, even on the days when it felt hardest to do so. That's how I AM-ABLE was born. At its core, it's a brand built on the belief that we're all capable of more than we often give ourselves credit for. You describe your clothing as a reminder of who people can become rather than simply what they wear. How did that philosophy shape the brand from the beginning? From the beginning, we made a conscious decision that every interaction someone has with I AM-ABLE should reinforce the same message, you're capable of more than you think. That philosophy goes far beyond the apparel itself. It influences how we name our collections, the words we place on our garments, the stories we tell through our campaigns, and the conversations we create within our community. We don't see clothing as the final product. We see it as the starting point. If a piece of apparel can remind someone to take the next step toward a goal, push through a difficult day, or believe in themselves when they need it most, then it's doing exactly what it was designed to do, which is to inspire, impact, and influence the world through the art of clothing. We want people to remember how I AM-ABLE made them feel, not just what they wore. That's the philosophy that has guided the brand from day one. Building a purpose-driven business comes with its own challenges. What lessons have had the biggest influence on your leadership style? One of the biggest lessons that shaped my leadership style came during product development. Throughout the process, there was one challenge after another, many of which were completely outside of my control. Delays, production issues, and unexpected setbacks tested my patience and, at times, my belief that everything would come together as planned. Looking back, I'm grateful for those experiences because they taught me that leadership isn't about controlling every outcome. It's about leading by example and controlling how you respond when things don't go according to plan. Today, I lead with far more patience, empathy, and trust than I would have at the beginning of this journey. I understand that mistakes are part of building something meaningful, and my role as a leader is to help my team learn from them rather than fear them. At the same time, I've learned the importance of setting clear expectations, communicating with intention, and leading by example. If I expect resilience, accountability, and perseverance from the people around me, I have to embody those qualities first. I believe that's what leadership ultimately comes down to. The activewear market is crowded. Why do you think people are looking for brands that offer a sense of purpose and community alongside quality products? I think people have reached a point where quality is expected. Great products are important, but they're no longer enough on their own. People want to feel connected to what they're buying and the values behind the brand. They want to support companies that stand for something bigger than the product itself. At the same time, we're living in a world where it's easy to feel isolated despite being more connected than ever. I believe people are looking for brands that create a genuine sense of belonging, encouragement, and community. That's exactly what we're building with I AM-ABLE. We want to create an environment where people feel supported through both their successes and their setbacks. Whether it's through our apparel, our community events, our street interviews, or the stories we share, our goal is to remind people that they're not alone in their journey. If someone walks away feeling more confident, more motivated, or simply more connected than they did before discovering our brand, then we've accomplished something that goes far beyond selling activewear. Community is one of I AM-ABLE's core values. How have in-person events and shared experiences strengthened the brand beyond selling apparel? Our in-person events have reminded us that behind every customer is a story. We've met people celebrating personal milestones, chasing new goals, overcoming setbacks, and simply looking for the confidence to take the first step. Those conversations have become just as valuable to us as the events themselves. They've also reinforced that I AM-ABLE is about much more than apparel. When someone shares an accomplishment during one of our street interviews or tells us how a message on one of our garments resonated with them, it reminds us that we're creating something people can genuinely connect with. Those experiences have shaped the brand in ways that can't be measured by sales alone. They keep us grounded, help us better understand the people we're serving, and continue to influence everything we create. At the end of the day, we're not just building products. We're also building relationships, and that's what gives the brand meaning. For someone who wants to build more discipline but struggles to stay consistent, where would you encourage them to begin? I would encourage them to begin by reflecting on where they want their life to go. Ask yourself, "If nothing changed over the next five years, would I be satisfied with where I end up?" That question alone can provide a lot of clarity. Then, think back to when you were younger. What were your dreams? Who did your younger self dream of becoming? If those goals still matter to you, remind yourself that they're still worth pursuing. From there, don't focus on changing your entire life overnight. Focus on keeping one small promise to yourself each day. Discipline isn't built through one big decision. It's built through the small choices you consistently make every single day. Over time, those small actions become habits, and those habits begin to shape the person you're becoming. Consistency isn't about being perfect. It's about continuing to show up, even on the days when you don't feel like it. Your journey includes setbacks, uncertainty, and learning as you build the business. How have those experiences changed the way you define success today? If you had asked me this question a few years ago, my answer would have been very different. At that point in my life, I think setbacks would have been enough to make me question whether I should keep going. Today, after everything I've experienced while building I AM-ABLE, I've developed a completely different perspective. Success is no longer something I define solely by achieving a specific goal. Of course, I still have big ambitions, but I've learned that success is also about having the resilience to keep moving forward when things don't go according to plan. There will always be moments when progress feels slow, uncertainty creeps in, and the finish line isn't visible. Those are the moments that test your character the most. I've learned to trust the process, stay patient, and believe that every challenge is preparing me for what's ahead. To me, success is waking up each day with the courage to continue pursuing your purpose, regardless of how difficult the journey becomes. If you can keep showing up, even through the setbacks, you're already succeeding in ways that many people never do. The name "I AM-ABLE" has grown from an inside joke into a message of self-belief. What does that phrase personally mean to you now? To me, I AM-ABLE means responsibility. As the brand has grown, I've realized that it represents something much bigger than myself. It comes with the responsibility to do everything I can to help people recognize the potential within themselves that they may not yet see. Whether that's through the messages I share personally, the products we create, our content, or the events we host, I want every interaction with I AM-ABLE to leave someone believing in themselves a little more than they did before. It also means giving back. I believe that if you're fortunate enough to build something that positively impacts people's lives, you have a responsibility to use it for more than your own success. That's something I learned from my father. Throughout his life, he dedicated himself to serving his community in Higüey and making a positive impact on the people around him. Watching him showed me that success isn't just measured by what you achieve. It's also measured by the lives you help along the way. That's what I hope I AM-ABLE continues to represent. If readers take away one lesson from your entrepreneurial journey, what do you hope it is? I hope people walk away understanding that nothing meaningful is built overnight. Every worthwhile goal comes with setbacks, uncertainty, and moments where you'll question whether it's worth continuing. Those moments aren't signs that you're on the wrong path. They're often part of the process. If there's one lesson my journey has taught me, it's that patience and perseverance are just as important as ambition. The results may not come as quickly as you'd like, and they may not look exactly the way you imagined, but consistent effort has a way of paying off over time. Most importantly, don't let temporary setbacks convince you to give up on a long-term vision. Trust the process, continue showing up, and keep believing in what you're building. The future you're working toward may be nearer than you think. Follow me on Instagram, and visit my website for more info! Read more from Amable