Why You Keep Drinking When You “Know Better” – The Simple Truth That Makes Stopping Feel Effortless
- Brainz Magazine
- Aug 13
- 5 min read
Written by Sonia Grimes, Alcohol Control Coach
Sonia Grimes is The Alcohol Control Coach and founder of The Simply Sober Path. She helps high-achieving individuals break free from the Alcohol Illusion and silence Alcohol Noise–creating lasting freedom with confidence and ease.
If you feel trapped and helpless in your drinking habits, this is a must-read. Changing your drinking isn’t hard, and it doesn’t have to take long. In her latest article, Sonia Grimes, Award-Winning Alcohol Control Coach, tells you the truth about how change happens naturally, easily, and quickly.
How many times have you struggled to understand your drinking? You’ve probably had this thought more times than you can count:
“I know alcohol makes me feel worse… so why do I still want it?”
It’s confusing and frustrating, isn’t it?
You know the hangovers, the anxiety, the broken promises, the mood swings, the guilt, and the shame.
You know how much better you feel when you’re not drinking.
Logically, it makes no sense.
And yet, there you are again, glass in hand, telling yourself it will be just one, and that you’ll start tomorrow.
Except by the time you go to bed, the bottle is empty… and the tomorrow you promised yourself never comes.
So, what’s going on?
Your drinking isn’t about weakness, brokenness, or lack of willpower. It’s much simpler than that, easy to understand, and when you do, easy to change.
The real reason is that you have two parts of your mind working from different truths, and right now, they don’t agree.
The two parts of your mind
1. Your conscious mind – The logical part
This is your thinking, rational mind.
It’s the part that knows alcohol causes hangovers, anxiety, and guilt.
It can picture tomorrow’s exhaustion and remember the shame of last weekend.
This is your Logical Reality, and it’s completely true.
Logically, you know you’d be better off without the drink.
2. Your unconscious mind – The emotional part
This part doesn’t think in words; it works entirely in feelings and associations.
It doesn’t even know what alcohol is. It has no concept of hangovers or guilt.
It only knows this:
“When I feel tired, stressed, bored, unconfident, or any other emotional discomfort, alcohol makes it stop, fast.”
That’s your Emotional Reality, and to your Unconscious Mind, it’s also true.
It’s your Emotional Truth, the deeply held belief that alcohol equals comfort, safety, and relief.
How your unconscious mind learned this
You taught it, without even realizing.
Every time you felt stress, boredom, overwhelm, or loneliness and reached for a drink to make it stop, your Conscious Mind made a decision:
“This will help me feel better.”
And it did, at least for a little while. You relaxed. You got the “lift.” You felt lighter.
Through conscious repetition, making that same choice over and over, your Unconscious Mind learned a rule:
Feeling bad → Drink → Feel better (briefly).
And here’s the crucial part, the reason why knowing the results of your drinking isn’t enough to stop you, no matter how hard you fight:
Your Unconscious Mind controls 98% of your behavior. Its sole purpose is to protect you from pain. And it feels the pain of your fight, your stress, tiredness, boredom, lack of peace, connection, and emotional safety.
Now, your drinking is automatic. You don’t have to think about it, your Unconscious Mind just pulls you toward alcohol whenever you feel discomfort.
Why the emotional truth wins every time
In moments of discomfort, your Emotional Truth will always override your Logical Truth.
Not because you don’t care about tomorrow, but because the Unconscious Mind doesn’t know about tomorrow.
It doesn’t know about hangovers, guilt, or broken promises.
It only responds in the moment, and it knows you feel bad now, and alcohol has been its quickest solution for years.
That’s why logical solutions like limiting, avoiding, or even being “mindful” around alcohol rarely work.
They are logical strategies aimed at an emotional pattern.
And they don’t always create the one thing you need before you drink: a felt sense of safety.
If you don’t feel safe and settled before the first sip, safe in yourself, safe in your emotions, your Emotional Truth will pull you toward the drink, no matter how many “rules” you set.
The alcohol illusion in action
Here’s the critical insight most people miss:
The relief you feel doesn’t come from alcohol; it comes the moment you decide to drink, because that’s when the battle (Alcohol Noise) ends.
You make the decision to drink, and immediately, the fight is over. Ease comes in, and then you pour the first glass.
Do you recognize that?
If the comfort comes before the first sip, alcohol cannot be the comfort you’re craving.
This is The Alcohol Illusion, believing the thing causing your pain is also the source of your relief.
The simply sober path to freedom
You don’t end this battle by fighting harder or using more willpower.
You end it by changing your Emotional Truth so it finally matches your Logical Truth.
And you do that in two simple, natural steps:
Awareness
See clearly what alcohol has come to mean to you emotionally, comfort. In the moments when the pull feels stronger, simply notice your thoughts and feelings, and let them pass. This is the easiest thing you will ever do to change your drinking because the discomfort fades quickly when you stop fighting it.
Conscious repetition
Make new choices in moments of ease and release until your Unconscious Mind learns a new rule: “I am safe. I can comfort myself. I don’t need alcohol.”
When your Emotional Truth and Logical Truth finally align, the pull toward alcohol simply isn’t there anymore.
There’s nothing to resist.
You don’t have to stop drinking, you just stop wanting to drink.
Where this change happens in weeks, not years
Inside my 6-week Simply Sober Path, we go straight to the root, transforming the Emotional Truth that alcohol brings you comfort.
Because when you change that truth, alcohol becomes an easy choice, never a need.
A glass is just a glass, never again a bottle.
You return to the happy, whole, connected version of you that’s been waiting for you to see the light.
This is why 98% of my clients change their drinking in week one, because we address the cause, not just the symptoms.
And every single person who walks the Simply Sober Path finds peace, freedom, and control around alcohol.
When your Emotional Truth shifts, the pull disappears.
And life, your real life, rushes back in.
Next steps
If you’d like to discover more about how The Simply Sober Path will change your drinking, you can join my FREE 7-Day Alcohol Reset Program. In just one week, you’ll begin to dissolve the belief that alcohol brings comfort and feel the first wave of freedom and control.
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Sonia Grimes, Alcohol Control Coach
The Alcohol Control & Midlife Mindset Coach
CREA Global Award Winner
Author of This Isn’t Me
Mentor to thousands of high-achieving women ready to stop the battle, reclaim their peace, and live powerfully as themselves.
