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Why Do You Question Your Decision?

  • Aug 23, 2021
  • 3 min read

Updated: Oct 11, 2021

Written by: Jerilyn Ito, Executive Contributor

Executive Contributors at Brainz Magazine are handpicked and invited to contribute because of their knowledge and valuable insight within their area of expertise.

When people come up to me and ask questions, it is usually with the intent of wanting a direct answer. I feel from them the hope that my answer will be the resolution to that particular problem, but as well as many other problems that they are experiencing.

As an intuitive reader in the past, I did give answers to their questions that I sensed, and then the person walked away feeling as if they knew how to go about with their life. There were people that reached out to me from here at home in Hawai'i to the continental United States, Japan, parts of Europe, and India.


What I did notice is that it doesn’t matter where they lived or what even they do for a living. They were all searching for the same thing.


They were seeking definitive answers to questions and confirmation of what they already knew.


But I realize now that through my intuitive readings, in some way, I also took away from their own decision-making.


I also realized that I took away the trust in themselves. That no matter what I said to them, they didn’t fully trust in taking the next steps.


After a while, I stopped doing intuitive readings as, quite frankly, I got frustrated with people continually asking me what do I see and what they should do. Additionally, it would be the same questions asked for different situations.


That is when I knew that I wanted to help people on a deeper level. That I desire for people to experience epiphanies.


I realize that these epiphanies are not just experienced in your thoughts but are reverberations that occur throughout your body. It is a full-on body epiphany experience that echoes throughout you as you finally hear from your soul.


But for these moments of epiphany to occur, I have also discovered there are core realizations that can easily turn into misconceptions.


For one, judgment.


Judgment can very easily turn into what people perceive as being judgmental, but in actuality, you need to tap into your own judgment. This is needed for you to become aware of the contrasts and differences. It is quite easy to question your judgment based on the outcome of your decision and feedback from others. But realize, an outcome based on your judgment is no right or wrong.


Especially when it comes from your intuition, it is quite easy to judge if the information received really did come from your intuition based on the outcome.


This questioning occurs from your mind.

But when judgment comes through your body, it’s like the full effect. You just know.


Another core realization is discernment.


With discernment, you become aware of those differences and are able to recognize it for what it is. It is quite easy to go back and forth between discernment and judgment, but once you are able to feel the difference and know its relationship, you will know and recognize discernment.


And finally, trust.


Trust is what brings everything together. This is when you have full realization and recognition throughout your entire being.


Realize, though, there are no how-to steps for any particular order. That is what most hope for to get to where they want to be.


These core realizations are for you to sit with—a bringing of your awareness to it.

If you glaze over this or have a blatant disregard, you will continue to search for answers to the same question.


It’s time to move on.


You have achieved so much in your life thus far, but now it is time to go beyond learning and listen to yourself—the discovery through your own evolution of trust and belief.


Isn’t it time for you to go from a high achiever to a high believer in yourself?


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Jerilyn Ito, Executive Contributor Brainz Magazine Jerilyn Ito is a gifted creator and guide in the realms of energy healing and confidence. She had been shy and quiet since childhood and could not overcome this shyness. When spirituality suddenly came into her life in 2014, she not only had to figure out how to make sense of spiritual information from a practical sense, but she discovered how to tap into her confidence. She also uncovered her ability to guide her clients through the process of breaking down complexity and sparked intuition for her clients to create tangible ideas and concepts for their work and business. She has a deep desire to help others stand in their own power of expression from their body, mind, and soul and live through their soul confidence 24/7.

 
 

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