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Why Anyone Would Choose ERP (Even When It Sounds Terrifying)

  • Jan 19
  • 3 min read

Kelsey Irving is a licensed therapist and recognized specialist in OCD and anxiety disorders. She is the founder of Steadfast Psychology Group and author of the children’s book Jacob and the Cloud.

Executive Contributor Kelsey Irving

If you’ve spent any time researching Exposure and Response Prevention therapy (ERP), you’ve probably come across a common warning: this is hard work. ERP asks a lot of you. With the guidance of a trained therapist, you intentionally face the thoughts, images, objects, or situations that trigger anxiety and obsessions, without doing the rituals that usually bring relief.


A woman in a white sweater and jeans sits on a gray sofa, gazing out a window. The room is softly lit, creating a contemplative mood.

Fun? Not exactly.


So why do people willingly sign up for something that sounds so uncomfortable, and often pay good money for it? The short answer: because it works. ERP has the strongest evidence base for treating obsessive-compulsive disorder, especially when combined with certain medications like serotonin reuptake inhibitors (SRIs). For many, it becomes a turning point.


The reluctance to let go


Even when people know ERP is effective, committing to it can feel daunting. A major reason is the fear of giving up compulsions. After all, compulsions often masquerade as strengths. They can make you feel responsible, prepared, detail-oriented, or vigilant. They may even feel protective.


But if you’re reading about treatment, especially if you’re searching late at night, hoping for something different, there’s likely a part of you that’s tired. A part that wants change.


So what’s driving that feeling?


What’s pulling you toward change?


Maybe the constant mental noise makes it hard to focus. Maybe anxiety is straining your relationships or draining your energy. Maybe you’re stuck in endless “what if” loops that spiral into panic. Or maybe you’re simply exhausted from the daily vigilance your anxiety demands.


Take a moment to consider what made you think, “This might be a problem.”


Then ask yourself another question: What would my life look like if this felt more manageable? More freedom? More presence? More ease?


Why take the risk?


At its core, ERP is about learning to live according to your values, not your fears. Through a series of carefully planned, challenging-but-approachable exercises, people begin to build trust in themselves. They learn they can tolerate discomfort, and that anxiety doesn’t get to call the shots.


Along the way, ERP teaches practical coping skills to prevent anxiety from escalating into panic. Over time, fear loses its authority.


One former client summed up the decision this way:


“I realized I had two options: be controlled by my OCD in a state of fear and stress, or grow and learn in a state of fear and stress. I decided I’d rather suffer in the right direction.”


What it can feel like on the other side


Many people who complete ERP describe it as empowering.


One client shared that after years of feeling helpless, ERP gave them tools they could actually use. Another described starting with “baby steps” to face fears, like simply driving to a grocery store alone, until those once-impossible tasks became manageable, even routine.


The common thread? Confidence grows when you prove to yourself that you can do hard things.


Still unsure?


If you’re on the fence, a simple cost-benefit analysis can help. List the pros and cons of continuing compulsions versus letting them go. A helpful rule of thumb: if a behavior feels urgent, like something must be done right now or things won’t be okay, it’s likely a compulsion.


And if you do decide to try ERP, one thing matters above all else: work with a therapist trained specifically in ERP. The right guidance makes all the difference.


ERP isn’t easy. But for many, it’s the first step toward a life that feels bigger, freer, and no longer ruled by fear.


If you’re curious about whether ERP could be right for you, working with a therapist trained specifically in this approach matters. Kelsey Irving is a licensed therapist who specializes in ERP and anxiety treatment. You can learn more about her work, or reach out to take the next step, at steadfastpsychology.com.


Sometimes, choosing help is the bravest exposure of all.


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Kelsey Irving, Licensed Clinical Therapist

Kelsey Irving is a licensed therapist specializing in the treatment of adults with OCD and anxiety disorders. Inspired by a close family member’s diagnosis and the widespread misunderstanding of OCD, she became deeply committed to providing informed, compassionate, and effective care. Kelsey serves individuals through her private practice, Steadfast Psychology Group, and extends her impact through her children’s book, Jacob and the Cloud.

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