What Happens When a High-Achieving Woman Stops Pretending
- Brainz Magazine
- Nov 7
- 4 min read
Updated: Nov 8
Bronwen Sciortino is an International Author and Simplicity Expert who spent almost two decades as an award-winning executive before experiencing a life-changing event that forced her to stop and ask the question, ‘What if there’s a better way to live?
It’s not burnout that wakes her up. It’s the moment she realizes she’s built a life she doesn’t even like. Her calendar is full. Her inbox is wild. Her reputation is rock solid. And still, there’s a quiet ache she can’t shake. It shows up in the silence, in the mirror, and in the way her body tightens before Monday even begins. She doesn’t want to crash. She wants out. Not from her job. Not from her family. But from the version of herself that learned to cope by keeping up appearances. When a high-achieving woman stops pretending, her world doesn’t fall apart. It begins to rebuild.
She starts telling the truth, to herself first. The truth about what drains her, what excites her, what she’s sick of carrying just to make other people comfortable. And in that truth, she finds her way back. Not to the life she had, but to the one she’s ready to create.
What she does next (that changes everything)
When she stops pretending, she doesn’t need a master plan. She just needs to start, one honest move at a time. Here’s what she does next to come back to herself and build a life that finally fits.
1. She clears the noise
She starts by pulling back. Not from her goals, but from the clutter around them. She turns off notifications, cancels what doesn’t need her, and puts her phone on silent mode and face down. The silence feels strange at first, like she’s forgetting something. But then her shoulders drop, her breath slows, and in the quiet, she hears something she’s been missing, herself. She doesn’t need a five-year plan. She needs five minutes without interruption. This isn’t retreat. It’s repair.
2. She tells the truth
She stops sugarcoating it, "I’m not fine." "This isn’t working." "I don’t want this anymore." At first, she whispers it to herself. Then she writes it down. Then she speaks it out loud to someone who won’t tell her to push through. The truth doesn’t solve everything, but it does bring new perspective, and that stops pretending in its tracks. That right there is where her energy starts to come back.
3. She lowers the bar
Not her standards, her survival settings. She quits being the one who says “yes” to everything. She turns toward the simple path, takes shortcuts, and leaves the rest behind. She doesn’t chase perfect, she’s already proven that pathway doesn’t work. Instead, she consciously decides what’s good enough. She chooses to rest before she breaks. She eats when she’s hungry. She lets the laundry pile up and doesn’t make it mean anything. This isn’t failing. It’s choosing life.
4. She redraws the lines
She looks at her calendar and sees it clearly, this isn’t her life. It’s a list of other people’s priorities. So, she shifts. She cancels what drains her and blocks space for what fills her. She says, this is what matters now. Her boundaries don’t scream. They state unequivocally, calm, clear, final.
5. She comes back to her body
She notices how often she leaves it, how often she clenches her jaw, tightens her shoulders, and holds her breath. She doesn’t force it. She just begins. With a stretch. A walk. A real breath. She doesn’t try to fix anything. She just listens. Not to the noise in her head, but to the truth in her bones. This is her new compass, and she chooses to follow it home.
When freedom starts to reign and pretending stops
When she stops pretending, life gets quieter, but not smaller. She lets go of the roles she never chose, the pressure to perform, and the need to hold it all together so no one else feels uncomfortable.
She stops smiling through situations that drain her. She walks away from the version of herself that was built for approval. And in doing that, she unlocks something she hasn’t touched in years, freedom.
This isn’t about escaping. It’s about arriving. She starts making choices that come from her, not the version of her she built to survive. She stops asking for permission and instead starts building her days around what matters.
She rests without guilt, speaks without softening the truth, and starts to wake up and feel steady. Not because everything’s perfect, but because she is. She’s grounded. She’s present. She’s in her power. And that’s when it happens. She becomes the woman she was always meant to be. She stops chasing a life that looks good and starts living one that feels real. One where she’s not just surviving, she’s creating. One where freedom reigns, where peace is the plan, and where pretending is no longer part of the story.
Bronwen Sciortino is a Simplicity Expert, Professional Speaker, and an internationally renowned author. You can follow her on her website, Facebook, Instagram, or LinkedIn.
Bronwen Sciortino, International Author & Simplicity Expert
Bronwen Sciortino is an International Author and Simplicity Expert who spent almost two decades as an award-winning executive before experiencing a life-changing event that forced her to stop and ask the question, ‘What if there’s a better way to live?’ Embarking on a journey to answer this question, Bronwen developed a whole new way of living, one that teaches you to challenge the status quo and include the power of questions in everyday life. Gaining international critical acclaim and 5-star awards for her books and online programs,
Bronwen spends every day teaching people that there is an easy, practical, and simple pathway to creating a healthy, happy, and highly successful life. Sourced globally for media comment as an expert and working with corporate programs, conference platforms, retreats, professional mentoring, and in the online environment, Bronwen teaches people how easy it is to live life very differently.
