Written by: Georgie Maroudas, Executive Contributor
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When it comes to self-development or even self-healing one of the concepts that creates the biggest transformation is taking responsibility of your life!
What exactly is taking responsibility for your life all about?
Taking responsibility for your life is your ability to respond to life. When situations, events, or circumstances occur in life, we choose how we choose to respond to all external experiences. And with that, we can either respond in a positive manner, or we can respond in a not so positive matter. The choice is ours!
However, when we usually talk about taking responsibility for our lives, we typically associate it with taking responsibility for something that has either already happened, or something we want to change within our lives.
Now if we use this information and apply it to the game of a tennis player, who just lost his most recent match, he might say something like this:
- "I’ve decided to accept and take responsibility that I’ve lost my most recent match. And I’ve chosen to take responsibility for my actions now so that I can win the next game. To make this happen, I’ve decided to practice for an extra hour each day to get better for my next game.“
This all sounds great and can even give him momentary hope, making him feel empowered in that moment. Now the only problem with his game plan is that he never actually figured out why he lost the game in the first place, which is what we have all done at some point in our own lives!
The missing link to the puzzle!
Now, if we never actually figure out why we lost the tennis game, why our marriage failed, or why we can’t seem to make enough money to pay all the bills, it leaves us feeling confused. We can even make our own game plan to address these issues, which may bring us momentary feelings of hope or empowerment, but they tend to be fleeting as we’ve never addressed the root cause of the experience.
Most professional tennis players, those who have mastered their craft, will always watch a replay of their most recent tennis match and study it! They will look at their footwork, their body positioning during all shots, and look and what went well and what went wrong. By figuring out what they did wrong in the shots that went out or hit the net, they can create a specific game plan to improve those errors before the next match. Ensuring that what went wrong previously is adhered to and improved.
However, when we look at our own lives, rarely do we take the same approach to the things that have gone wrong. Rarely do we say, “I created this, let me have a look at what I did, what I said, what energy I emitted, what beliefs I had that created this reality!”
What are you creating?
Are you maybe creating some things in your life that you would like to change for good? If so, here are some questions you can begin to ask yourself to identify the root cause of your creation:
1. What are you creating that you would like to change?
(E.g. Debt, toxic relationship, single but want to be in a relationship, etc.)
2. Now ask yourself when was this created? Did something happen in your childhood that created it?
(E.g. When I was younger my parents never had any money and always told me they were broke, My parents always fought when I was little, and I always saw my mum crying and upset)
3. What fears do you have around getting what you want? Are you energetically pushing away what you want because of these fears?
(E.g. If I have all the money I want I will have to pay for everything, If I’m in a relationship I’m afraid I’ll get hurt)
4. Why am I creating this? What are the benefits for me?
(If I don't become rich, then no one will ask for handouts. If I stay single my heart is safer, etc.)
5. What is the highest truth, what actually happened?
This particular question is best done by closing our eyes and revisiting where our creation first began (usually in childhood). But we don’t want to revisit the event and be in the event. Instead, when we revisit the situation, we want to be above it, looking down on it and watching it like it’s a movie.
Replay the event, without your feelings attached to it. Watch it like a movie and see what others around you were doing at that time.
Now rewind to before the event. What happened, what where others doing around you?
Fast forward to after the event, what happened, what were others doing around you?
From this vantage point, ask yourself what have I learned? See how it has shaped you into who you are today!
The deeper you allow yourself to go with each of these questions, the more profound your transformation in thought, action and behavior will be, which will ultimately change what you are creating within your life.
Be kind to yourself during this time of discovery and allow yourself to see the truth without judgment. Forgive yourself as you were doing the best you could at that point and didn’t have the tools, skills and abilities you have today. Let it be and let it go with love, gratitude, and appreciation for everything it has taught you. But know you are worthy, deserving and allowed to let go of the past and move forward!
There is no right or wrong. All that has occurred has shaped you into the person you are today. So allow yourself to fully stand in love, light and truth so that you can begin to create a different reality for yourself from this moment forward.
Georgie Maroudas, Executive Contributor Brainz Magazine
Georgie Maroudas, founder of www.georgiemaroudas.com is a certified ThetaHealer Practitioner and Instructor. Using the Theta Brainwave, Georgie helps men and women release any fears, limiting beliefs, self-sabotaging behaviors and/or trauma that are limiting and no longer serving them. She is a big believer that our inner world of thoughts, beliefs and emotions create every aspect of our outer world and is passionate about helping and empowering every human being. Her mission is to empower individuals by teaching them the skills and abilities they need to be able to release what is no longer serving them, so that they can create a life they love!