Testing, Testing, Testing – How To Handle The Issues That Test You
- Mar 20, 2023
- 4 min read
Written by: Dianne McKim, Senior Level Executive Contributor
Executive Contributors at Brainz Magazine are handpicked and invited to contribute because of their knowledge and valuable insight within their area of expertise.
When you were in class did you panic or get scared when it was test time? Did the mind go blank or details forgotten?
What happens when you are tested in other areas? Testing may not look the same in different situations.
Testing may look like challenges, struggles, issues, conflict, uncertainty, hurts, or offenses. So what do you do when these testings come your way?
In my overcomer series we cover some of the various topics that can cause these testings and ways to overcome these issues. Below are the Main topics with two key points and just a few of the tips offered in each session.
1. Handling Stress
we each may experience stress differently, yet there are many common symptoms including: difficulty sleeping, weight gain/loss, stomach pain, irritability, fatigue, etc.
a few things you can do to help yourself manage your stress include: acknowledge 2-3 things daily for which you are grateful, incorporate movement in your day (walking, dancing, cycling), and eat healthy
incorporate protein in every meal to help keep your cortisol levels in check
2. No Fear, Worry, or Anxiety
these are three powerful emotions that can cause strong effects on our minds and body
some of those effects include: heart racing, shallow breathing, sweating, stomach churns, dry mouth, etc.
Break free by getting up and moving to release those feel-good endorphins, build a good support system of people who can help you work through these emotions, find contentment with what you do have, and don’t compare to others.
3. Manage Your Anger
anger can rise up within us in a way that causes us to wonder where it came from
being stuck because your anger is related to another person’s actions results in you allowing that person to exert control over your life
to release or manage your anger first acknowledge its existence, be willing then to consider your perspective about the situation, adjust to allow for personal and spiritual growth
4. Victim Mindset
this is often seen in people who are always complaining about their lives and how it seems to them that the world is against them
those living in the victim mindset are genuinely suffering as a result of how they see and experience their lives
some ways to stop being a victim are to see yourself as a survivor of the things that have occurred in your life, to be kind and compassionate to yourself, and to practice being thankful
5. Boundaries
they show us what we are responsible for and what we are not responsible for in life
setting and establishing healthy boundaries comes with lots of questions and possibly guilt
A few ways to establish these healthy boundaries include setting consequences with others when they violate your boundaries, don’t let your feelings rule, and own your thoughts
6. Handling Conflict
conflicts in relationships can cause a litany of negative emotions for you and the others involved
Low self-esteem can affect interactions causing great conflict
Work at knowing your strengths to build your self-esteem, have more open communication, remain calm to properly assess the situation, and look for common ground on which you can agree
7. Confidence for Life
confidence is the feeling or belief that you can rely on something or someone
confidence can be learned and no one feels confident 100% of the time
to gain the confidence you may need to assess where your lack of confidence has roots, acknowledge when you don’t know something, ask for feedback or help to boost your confidence levels, and practice doing what you are unsure about doing.
As you can see there are many ways to overcome issues of life, and these few suggestions are only the tip of all the ways to improve and grow. If you are interested in participating in the Overcomer Series Lunch n Learn, just reach out to me here and let me know which of the 7 you would like to join.
You can overcome the struggles and challenges and rise above them. You can do it!
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Dianne McKim, Senior Level Executive Contributor Brainz Magazine
A Certified Career, Leadership, and Life Coach, Workshop Facilitator, Author, Speaker, and Guest Interviewee, Dianne McKim has the professional training, personal experiences, and knowledge to help clients successfully grow and thrive.
Dianne enjoyed a long and impactful career in Corporate America, successfully leading teams, influencing peers, mentoring team members, and interacting at all corporate levels (including C Levels). During that time, she developed strong relationships with executives, management, peers, and team members, allowing her to successfully spearhead major projects while negotiating, and navigating bureaucracy.
This wasn't always the way, however. Dianne is an abusive relationship survivor, who navigated through a long and difficult divorce, which resulted in her running a household, working full time the whole time, and raising children as a single mom for 14 years. She dealt with family issues, job losses and job searches, loss of relationships, a lack of confidence, and very low self-esteem.
Over time, Dianne rebuilt her life, rediscovering herself and strengthening her confidence. As she did, she learned how to stand strong in her abilities, understand her value and embrace her identity. As her confidence grew, she discovered how to have professional success, personal contentment, and spiritual fulfillment.
Dianne has taken all that she learned, along with her unparalleled ability and deep care and compassion for others and began Precious Stones Coaching. Her coaching style is inviting, understanding, and encouraging with just the right amount of leadership, guidance, and accountability to help her clients focus on their priorities and accomplish their goals. Dianne wholeheartedly commits to helping her clients achieve and fulfill their calling, purpose, and destiny.
