Supporting Women Through Fertility Challenges & Motherhood – Interview with Alneja Gašpar Horvat

Alneja Gašpar Horvat is a Transformational Mentor for Modern Women, navigating life’s crucial transitions, from finding love and creating a family to unlocking fertility, becoming a conscious parent, and balancing family with business without losing themselves amidst the many roles and obligations women often carry. She is the author of the “Unlock Your Fertility” program, created from her personal success story. She uses her signature Butterfly Technique to help women and couples overcome fertility blocks, heal core wounds, and become the parents they always wished for but never had. As a Fertility & Mama Coach, she supports clients through miscarriage, failed IVF, and other fertility challenges, walking with them every step of the way, from conception and pregnancy to birth, motherhood, and beyond, guiding them through the challenges that arise in love, life, and work once children arrive. 

Alneja Gašpar Horvat, Fertility & Mama Coach and Transformational Mentor

Who is Alneja Gašpar Horvat?

That’s the million-dollar question. In the first 20 years of my life, I had absolutely no clue who I was. I was whatever people expected me to be, trying to fit in, be accepted, loved, and “good enough” for those around me. The next 20 years were about shedding all those fake roles and labels, and slowly discovering the real me.

My greatest life challenges, early trauma, the tiring search for love, heartbreak and loss, burnout, health challenges, fertility struggles, and deep personal transformation, have helped shape who I am today. And the truth is, I can’t really fit into one box. 

Yes, I am a Transformational Mentor for Modern Women, a Fertility & Mama Coach, and the creator of the Butterfly Technique and “Unlock Your Fertility” program. But beyond these titles, I am a woman, wife, and mother who has walked the path of transformation firsthand. My work is rooted in my personal journey, my greatest life challenges, and the moments that broke me open, times I questioned everything, and yet, through it all, I found my true calling.

But outside of my work, I’m still just me, a woman who loves books and history, traveling and sandy beaches, good food, deep conversations, and dancing until my feet are sore and my heart feels free. I’m endlessly curious, very passionate about spiritual and personal growth, and devoted to constant evolution. 

What inspired you to become a fertility and mama coach?

My path into this work started with a diagnosis that shattered me, and the inner journey it took me on. It wasn’t something I planned, it just happened. It all began the moment my doctor dropped a bomb on me, saying, “You might never become a mom.” Something inside of me shifted, and I decided I was going to find a way to prove him wrong. And I did, not once, but twice.

I was convinced that if I had somehow managed to break my body, I could also find a way to heal it. So, I went on a deep inner journey of healing and transformation. The woman who emerged from that process was a new version of me, pregnant, healed, and rediscovered. The most painful part of my life turned out to be my greatest blessing. It didn’t just make me a mother, it made me a woman who finally knew who she was and had found her true calling.

I began sharing my story to motivate and inspire others, helping women in similar situations uncover and release what was silently blocking their fertility, guiding them as they moved from fear and frustration to faith, healing, and creation.

Later, my calling grew with me. As I became a mother, I realized just how important the inner work I had done before getting pregnant truly was. If I hadn’t done that healing, I would have simply copied the unhealthy patterns from my own childhood, repeating the trauma, pain, and toxic ancestral cycles I was born into.

So, my work shifted from just unlocking fertility to helping my clients become the parents their children truly deserve. And then my clients kept coming back, sharing, “Now that I’m a mom, I’m exhausted, reacting, repeating old patterns, I want to find myself again beyond being a mother.”

Suddenly, I wasn’t just a fertility coach anymore, I became a mama coach, supporting women through motherhood and all the challenges that follow after the kids, in love, family, purpose, and career. Since my work emerged from personal experience, it keeps growing and evolving with me with every new chapter of my life.

What common misconceptions do people have about fertility, and how do you address them?

There are three major misconceptions I’d like to talk about today, and I’ll address them in the order they usually show up when I start working with a client.

Misconception No. 1: “Fertility is purely physical or hormonal.”

The first misconception is that if we fix the hormones or follow the right medical path, everything will fall into place. Often, we address physical obstacles, balance the thyroid and hormones, or improve sperm quality, and still nothing happens. That’s because the physical wasn’t the real problem, these issues are often just symptoms pointing inward, signaling that something is out of balance on a subconscious or emotional level. Just think of all the couples who suffer from unexplained infertility, their body works perfectly, yet conception doesn’t occur, because something internal, a mindset, emotional, or even energetic block, is holding things back. 

Therefore, I always inspire and guide clients to look within, beyond the symptoms, and uncover the root cause of their fertility or health challenges. When we work on the source, healing emotional wounds, releasing fears, and restoring inner balance, the physical symptoms ease, and the body naturally begins to align. It’s a domino effect, when the inner world heals, the body follows.

Misconception No. 2: “Age automatically limits fertility.”

Even though we often hear from doctors and IVF clinics that age is the main reason we can’t get pregnant, reality tells a different story. We keep reading about celebrities having babies at 52, or seeing our neighbors welcoming their fourth child at the age of 48. The truth is, we are not just statistics. Every body is unique.

It’s not age alone that determines fertility, it’s the overall health, energy, emotional safety, and nourishment of the body that matter far more than the number of candles on a birthday cake. Someone can have an exhausted, imbalanced body at 32, while another woman may have a vibrant, fertile body at 52.

I’ve worked with women in their mid-40s who were declined IVF for being “too old,” for having genetic mutations that affect conception, or for having low ovarian reserve. Yet, through my Unlock Your Fertility program, as we worked on the deeper blocks, the ones draining their energy, aging their bodies, and throwing them out of balance, they conceived naturally. Emotional and energetic health can have a profound impact on fertility. 

I always encourage women to see beyond statistics and medical predictions and help them focus on healing, balancing, and energizing the body, physically, emotionally, and energetically. When the body feels safe, supported, and vital again, fertility is no longer an issue, even at 44 or 50.

Misconception No. 3: “Fertility is only the woman’s responsibility.”

This is one of the most damaging myths. Fertility is a shared journey, both partners contribute equally, and both can carry emotional or energetic blocks. I’ve seen couples where the woman did everything, supplements, stress management, endless appointments, and therapy, while her partner stayed on the sidelines. When only one person heals, the process often remains incomplete. 

In my experience, when I work with women alone, we achieve about an 80% success rate, which is an incredible result. But when both partners commit to the process, the success rate has been 100%. Having witnessed that many times, I always encourage men to take part in this journey, not only for conception purposes, but for their own healing, their relationship, and the generations to come. Emotionally healed people make better parents, that’s a fact. Men who join the program, even if a little skeptical at first, become deeply invested in the process, sometimes even more than their partners.

In the end, true fertility begins when we stop chasing quick fixes, stop fearing numbers, and stop placing the responsibility on just one person. Getting pregnant is a two-person journey, both physically and emotionally.

Can you share a success story of a client you’ve worked with and how you helped them?

I had a client in her early forties, 42, to be exact. She already had a daughter from a previous relationship and didn’t want to go through IVF, but she was determined to have another child with her new partner. Getting pregnant wasn’t the issue for her, staying pregnant was. She had gone through six miscarriages in a row. Every medical test said she was perfectly healthy. There was no physical reason it shouldn’t have happened, and yet, it didn’t.

When she joined my Unlock Your Fertility program, she came searching for answers, but what she truly needed was healing. About halfway through, we found the missing piece of the puzzle. Years earlier, when she gave birth to her first daughter, her partner at that time had left her just before labor. She had to give birth completely alone, under incredibly difficult circumstances. That pain, that fear, that moment of abandonment had rooted itself deep in her body.

Even though she deeply longed for another child, her body remembered. On a subconscious level, it had linked pregnancy with danger and loneliness. So every time she conceived, her body tried to protect her by ending the pregnancy before she could be hurt again.

After one deeply emotional session, everything shifted. She told me, “It feels like something heavy has finally lifted. My body isn’t fighting me anymore.” And not long after that, she conceived naturally again, only this time, her body didn’t resist what her heart desired. She carried the pregnancy to term and gave birth to a beautiful, healthy baby girl.

But the story doesn’t end there. Just a few weeks ago, she sent me a message that she’s pregnant again.

And she’s not an isolated case. I’ve had three similar cases recently, women who struggled for years to have their first child, and once we helped them unlock their fertility, the second pregnancy happened naturally, unexpectedly, and with incredible ease.

Because once the body feels safe and the heart feels seen, life no longer needs to be forced, it simply flows.

What are the most overlooked factors that impact a woman’s fertility?

Every couple’s story is unique, each client I work with has their own deeply personal reason why conception isn’t happening. But if I had to name the most common and often overlooked factors that impact a woman’s fertility, they would include unhealed emotional wounds, unresolved trauma and stress, and a lack of emotional safety.

We often underestimate how much early childhood experiences, ancestral trauma, and relationship patterns influence our reproductive health. The womb holds memory, it remembers loss, fear, heartbreak, and even the things we never consciously processed. When we clear that space emotionally, mentally, and energetically, the body begins to trust life again.

One of the most common hidden blocks I see is the loss of a significant person, often a mother. Deep down, many women carry the fear that something might happen to them too, and that their own children could experience the same loss they once did. The body, in its own protective wisdom, may hold back conception to prevent that pain from repeating.

There’s also the guilt many women silently carry after a past abortion, the subconscious belief that “I gave one child up, so I don’t deserve another.” This unprocessed grief can quietly close the door to new life until it’s acknowledged and healed.

For others, the block comes from being in an unsafe or misaligned relationship. The body senses when it’s not secure enough to bring a child into the world with a certain partner, and no matter how much the mind wants it, the body won’t move forward until it feels safe.

Another common pattern is the fear of reliving birth trauma, experiences that left women feeling powerless, violated, or alone. The body remembers that fear vividly, and often resists another conception to protect itself from going through it again.

And finally, there are the inner conflicts that pull women in two directions, they deeply want a baby, yet fear losing their freedom, their career, their identity, gaining weight, or giving up the life they’ve built. You simply can’t receive what you secretly resist.

All of these blocks, whether emotional, energetic, or subconscious, are the body’s way of protecting, not punishing. Once those fears are met with compassion and safety, the body naturally shifts from defense into creation. When the heart, mind, and body are in harmony, life begins to flow effortlessly again.

How do you tailor your approach to meet the unique needs of each client?

My Unlock Your Fertility Program is not a one-size-fits-all solution, it’s a special and highly valuable individualized program designed to meet the unique needs of each client. Every fertility story is different, and that’s why my approach adapts to your personal journey from the very beginning.

The program is built around my signature Butterfly Technique, which unfolds in three transformative stages:

1. The caterpillar stage: To make sure every client receives exactly what they need, we start with a diagnostic session. This session reveals the hidden emotional, energy, and mindset blocks and lays the foundation for a fully personalized program tailored to your story, your challenges, and your specific blocks, because no two journeys are the same.

2. The cocoon stage: Once we have your fertility plan, we move into the Cocoon Stage and begin the healing journey. Here, we carefully address and release all blocks, restore balance in your body, boost fertility, and prepare you physically and emotionally for conception.

3. The butterfly stage: In the final stage, we shift your mindset to manifest a successful pregnancy and coach you into becoming the conscious, empowered parent your children deserve. This stage transforms pain, wounds, and blocks into fuel for manifestation, making pregnancy more accessible and helping you step fully into the parent you’ve always wanted to be.
   

The program consists of an online course packed with fertility tips, guidance, and practical advice, along with a fully individualized 1-on-1 program via Zoom, tailored to your unique needs. This combination ensures you receive both the tools and the personal support necessary to move forward with confidence.

Every step is tailored to your unique needs, ensuring that your journey to parenthood is supported holistically, emotionally, physically, and energetically.

I believe my client’s fertility story deserves a plan as unique as they are, one that truly fits their needs, empowers, heals, and leads them to the family they’re meant to have. Not by putting their story into the same basket as someone else’s, but by making them feel safe, fully supported, and cared for throughout the program. Fertility is a delicate and deeply personal journey, and my goal is to ensure every client feels seen, heard, and truly nurtured every step of the way.

I am aware that an individualized VIP program is not accessible for everyone’s budget. Therefore, I have also created a more accessible version of the program in the form of an online course without 1-on-1 support, which covers the main fertility topics and guides participants through the most common fertility challenges with practical tips, exercises, and tools they can explore on their own. However, most of my clients choose the individualized package, as it is tailored to their specific needs and provides the deepest level of support and guidance on this sacred journey.

What are the first steps you recommend for someone starting their fertility journey?

Start with awareness. Tune into what your body and emotions are trying to tell you. Don’t rush to “fix” yourself, begin by creating a sense of safety within. This will help you see what might be wrong or out of balance and what needs to change to find success. 

So the first step is to acknowledge what didn’t work, what you didn’t try yet, and what else you can do to reach a different result. In other words, you need to change something and do things differently. The same approach will only lead to the same results. To achieve a different outcome, you must take a different path. Reflect on what you haven’t tried yet, and explore what you can change.

• If you’ve focused only on the physical level, try going within and exploring your emotional or energetic blocks.

• If you haven’t seen a doctor, check your hormones, thyroid, and other potential obstacles.

• Approach holistically and think of all potential blocks – on body, mind, heart and soul-level. 

• Move away from old ways and ask yourself, “What do I need in order to feel safe to receive?” That’s where true fertility begins.
  

And finally, remember that you don’t have to walk this path alone. It’s okay to ask for help and find the right support, someone who can guide you, provide tailored advice, and hold space for you throughout your fertility journey. The combination of awareness, new approaches, and the right guidance is the foundation for creating the envisioned result.

If you need help or support on this sacred journey, you can always reach out to me here.

You can also schedule a diagnostic counseling session to uncover your hidden fertility blocks.

Or check out my Unlock Your Fertility program that helped me and so many of my clients become parents.

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