Suddenly Single, Now What?
- Jan 12, 2022
- 4 min read
Written by: Shira Raymond, Executive Contributor
Executive Contributors at Brainz Magazine are handpicked and invited to contribute because of their knowledge and valuable insight within their area of expertise.
The end of a relationship can be life-altering. However, these events lead you to a crossroads and with-it amazing opportunities. Thus, opening the doors to choose between remaining on the same path you have been traveling for a lifetime or deciding to reinvent yourself, your life, your future. Ultimately, this is a choice only you can make. It is integral, for your own happiness, to question the emotional, physical, and spiritual toll of stagnation.
Are you afraid of change?
If so, what is it costing you? Choosing the same patterns and not looking deeply into your current life or at the person you have become will hinder your personal growth into the life you ultimately want. Not growing gives you permission to make the same mistakes for years. So, you go from one relationship to the next without taking the time to heal, which inevitably leads to the same relationship with the same problems with a different person, leaving you wondering why things are not changing. Does this sound like the definition of insanity? It should! Only when you can decide to grow, to heal, and to see a different future are you able to create that in your life.
About eight years ago, I was working with a client who opened my eyes to a new understanding of my beliefs and other avenues of personal growth. It turned out to be life altering for me. I took the time to learn the steps necessary to shift perspective on the past, to dream big, to create a desirable future, and to accept everything that has happened in life from this day forward is all for the greater good. It is a mindset I now teach my clients. Letting go and viewing the events of life with gratitude—even the bad or challenging ones—allows us to let them go and use them as a springboard for growth.
How are the choices you are making affecting your life?
You have a choice: to be stuck in the past, holding on to negativity—like shame, guilt, fear, anger—or to release the past.
The word release is so powerful for me because it conveys so much depth. Choosing to hold onto negative emotions only hurts one person and that is you. Are you choosing to blame others for the negative instances in your life? Those people do not realize what they did, nor do they care. Are you giving them the power to effect how you live your life? Are you allowing them to take up mental space and emotional energy that is a privilege they do not deserve? If you blame others, you are not taking control of your destiny but giving it away.
Are you ready to change the trajectory of your life forever?
I challenge you to free yourself and move forward into your true potential, here is one tool that you can begin today? It will begin shifting your perspective: Make a list of at least fifty things you are grateful for. I know it sounds like a crazy number. It is much easier than you think. Start with the small things and go from there. How many things are you taking for granted in your life? Shifting your mindset is about taking the time to see everything as blessings even negative events are often blessings in disguise.
Here are ten things to get your list started:
You have a roof to protect you
Food to nourish your body and mind
Hands to feel the world with
Eyes to see the beauty surrounding you
Teeth for chewing
A mouth for tasting
Ears to listen and hear the world and people in it
Legs to help you move through the world
Feet to stand on
Arms meant for embracing
I bless you to have the courage to change your life one positive statement at a time! The list is endless once you change your perspective.
Do not forget to share and acknowledge everyone around you with complements and words of praise as this will be empowering for both of you.
Acknowledge the people in your life that help make your life easier, you will put a smile on the other persons face!
Carry this list with you, read it when you wake up in the morning and first thing before you go to sleep. Every time you catch yourself in those old negative thoughts, pull out your list and read it. At the beginning you might catch yourself only once or twice a day. But the more you put it into practice you will train your mind for gratitude. This can take some time so please be patient with yourself. Just keep at it and watch the miracles happen.
To learn more, downloading my free eBook: Embrace New Beginnings
Shira Raymond, Executive Contributor Brainz Magazine
Shira Raymond, is a leader in the life transformation field for women, who are Suddenly Single. After leaving her marriage of 24 years, Shira has dedicated her life to empowering women to heal the past, gain clarity about what is important in their life and to create it. Her coaching encompasses all three aspects of self, mind, body and spirit. She helps her clients to master their mindset and emotions so that they can change every aspect of their lives. She is the CEO of Suddenly Single and Shira Raymond Coaching. She has three books coming out in the first quarter of 2022. Her mission: Create the next chapter of your life, on your terms.
