Written by: Ruby Rose Walker, Executive Contributor
Executive Contributors at Brainz Magazine are handpicked and invited to contribute because of their knowledge and valuable insight within their area of expertise.
Are you asking for support when you need it? Asking for support is not only OK, it’s powerful! If you aren’t reaching out for support when you need it, you’re not alone. We’ve all been there. But the sooner you push past your internal barriers and ask for support when you need it, the stronger you are going to feel, the easier your life is going to become, and the more you will be setting yourself up for success.
As human beings in this society, we are so reluctant to reach out to others for support. Whether it be within our personal or professional lives, we often choose to be overwhelmed, stressed, and to struggle rather than admitting we can’t do it alone. We fear that we will be judged by other people, and by ourselves. We fear that people will think we’re incompetent, we should know better, we’re an annoyance, the list goes on.
The thing is, we can’t be great at everything, we can’t do everything alone, we can’t get to the top without first starting at the bottom, NO ONE can. And the irony is, the more we ask for help from others, the faster and more successfully we will get to where we want to be in our lives.
A common trait in successful people is that they know when to ask for help, and they do it often. They’re not afraid to ask for support, and they don’t care if people judge them for doing so.
One important thing we often don’t consider is that people LOVE to help. We love to give advice, to share our hard-earned knowledge, to play a part in improving the lives of others or reduce their suffering (the majority of suffering these days is caused by stress and feeling overwhelmed or lonely). Human beings are hardwired for connection, and helping one another is one of the most integral parts of human connection.
Next time you feel stressed and overwhelmed or you’re struggling, ask yourself: “Is this something that the support of another could help with?” This support could be within your personal or professional environment. You may need support with knowledge, skills, physical help, emotional support, guidance, or coaching.
Remember, the barrier is internal. Push past that barrier and show yourself that you value yourself enough to ask for what you need. It just takes doing it once, to make it easier next time. And it just takes doing it a few times for it to feel normal and for you to feel the benefits. For you to realise that asking for support is a sign of strength, and one of the kindest things you can do for yourself.
Ruby Rose Walker, Executive Contributor Brainz Magazine
Ruby Rose is an international coach whose clients achieve life-changing transformation from the inside out. She is passionate about empowering individuals to step into their full potential to live with intention and lead with impact. Her unique life growing up across continents and cultures and her non-linear career path strongly influences her approach in unlocking the right path for each client. Knowing intimately how no two lives are the same, her work with clients is personal and tailored to each unique situation. She strongly believes there’s no right approach for all and coaches individuals to tap into their own unique potential to achieve a fulfilling life of their own. Having overcome her own experiences with a burnout in the past through mindful rewiring, Ruby Rose aims to be a partner on your journey to create a life of alignment, empowerment, and purpose you deserve.
