Stop Asking Women to Pay to Meet You – A Manifesto Against Faux Masculinity
- Brainz Magazine
- Jul 21
- 3 min read
Nichell has done over 10,000 readings. She uses a person's Astrological Natal Birth Chart to read from. A birth chart is like a blueprint of a person's mind, body, and spirit.
When men expect women to meet them halfway financially, especially in romance, it’s not equality; it’s a failure of leadership, sovereignty, and masculine integrity.
Let’s be clear.
This isn’t about outdated gender roles. It’s not about transactional romance, gold-digging, or some 1950s fantasy of women waiting for men with open palms. This is about energetic alignment. About divine masculine and feminine polarity. About the absolute collapse of true masculinity in a culture where some men have the audacity to ask women, empresses, queens, creators, to prove themselves by paying for the privilege of access.
Let me say this with my chest:
A man who asks a woman to pay to meet him isn’t strong.
He’s not modern.
He’s not “equal.”
He’s hiding.
Behind contracts. Behind insecurity. Behind fear of being taken advantage of, when in truth, he has nothing real to offer in the first place.
You want divine union?
Then step into divine masculinity.
The real masculine leads. He covers. He builds. He protects. He clears the path for his woman to arrive, not makes her jump through bureaucratic hoops like she’s applying for a job at a call center.
We’re not asking to be worshipped. We’re asking to be met.
We carry life. We walk with intuitive knowing. We are the portal between spirit and earth. And yet, too many women, especially powerful, magical, spiritually awakened women, are being groomed to shrink under the illusion of “fairness.” To pay for dates. To split airfare. To put down deposits like they’re buying a man off the lot.
Stop it.
There’s a huge difference between co-creating and auditioning for someone’s love. And in this era of masculine collapse, many women are being emotionally and spiritually manipulated into giving before they’re received.
Here’s a truth bomb: If a man truly sees you, wants you, and honors you, he’ll make it happen. No excuses. No weird contracts. No 50/50 mindset when you haven’t even been met with 100 percent intentionality.
This isn’t about being spoiled. It’s about not settling for crumbs in the name of “strong woman” independence. Stop calling it high standards. Call it self-worth.
So if you’re a woman reading this, don’t you dare pay to be chosen. You are the temple, the throne, the storm, and the sanctuary. You were not sent to this planet to prove your worth to any man with a wallet full of excuses and a spine made of jello.
And if you’re a man reading this, don’t talk to me about leadership unless you know how to lead. Don’t talk about love if you need a wire transfer to feel safe. And don’t ever confuse control with commitment. A true king doesn’t send a queen an invoice. He sends a car. A plane. A message from the soul that says, “I’ve made space for you. Come home.”
Because we’re not auditioning anymore, we’re anointing ourselves. And anything less than divine is getting left behind.
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Nichell Delvaille, Holistic Soul Coach, Intuitive Astrologer
Nichell is a Wellness Practitioner. Healing affects all aspects of a person. She is a Holistic Soul Coach, Intuitive Astrologer, Reiki Master and Herbalist. Nichell also has certifications in Yoga, Meditation and Ayurveda.
