Resonance Over Attraction – The Deeper Law That Shapes Your Life
- Brainz Magazine
- Oct 7
- 3 min read
Sophie Benbow is a self-development coach, mindfulness and meditation teacher who holds various qualifications in Health & Fitness.
When we think about ‘creating the life we want,’ most of us jump straight to goal setting, positive thinking, or manifestation. But beneath those surface practices lies something more fundamental, the Law of Resonance. This principle invites us to look not at what we do, but at who we are being. The truth is, it’s your state of being, your energy, emotions, and self-concept that quietly shape the reality you experience.
What is the Law of Resonance?
At its core, resonance is about alignment. It suggests that the frequency you carry, the sum of your thoughts, feelings, and identity, calls in experiences that match it.
Unlike the idea of “attracting” something you don’t yet have, resonance is about becoming the kind of person who already lives that life. The focus shifts from "How do I get this thing?" to "How do I embody the version of myself who naturally holds it?"
Why it matters
Many of us try to change our lives by working harder, setting bigger goals, or forcing new habits. But when your inner state is out of sync with what you want, progress feels like a push uphill, unsustainable and unfulfilling.
When you align internally first, change begins to flow.
If you carry unworthiness, you’ll likely meet relationships and jobs that echo it back.
If you cultivate self-respect and confidence, opportunities and people who reflect that state will appear almost effortlessly.
The Law of Resonance is not about forcing results. It’s about congruence, living in a way where your inner and outer worlds match.
How to work with resonance
Get clear on the life you want: Ask yourself not just what you want to have, but how you want to feel and who you want to become. Whether it’s career, health, relationships, or finances, clarity is the first step.
Notice your current state: Reflect honestly, do your daily thoughts and emotions support or contradict that life? For example:
Do I believe I deserve success?
Do I feel secure when I think about the future?
Do I speak about myself in ways that build trust in who I am?
Reframe and rewire: Replace patterns that don’t serve you with new internal narratives. This isn’t denial, it’s direction.
Instead of: “I never get opportunities like that,” try, “Opportunities are always around me, and I’m ready to step into them.”
Instead of: “I’m not confident in meetings,” try, “I bring value to the room, and I’m learning to express it clearly.”
Over time, these choices become your new emotional baseline.
Embody the state daily: Ask, How would someone who already has this life think, move, decide, and speak? Then begin living into that state today.
Want health? Respect your body in small daily ways.
Want fulfilling relationships? Practice honesty and openness now.
Want abundance? Act from sufficiency, not scarcity.
It’s not about faking it. It’s about rehearsing the qualities of the life you desire until they feel natural.
Anchor with simple phrases: Choose a few statements that call you back to your resonance:
“I am aligned with opportunities that support me.”
“I treat myself with the respect I want from others.”
“I choose actions that match the life I’m building.”
Take aligned action: Resonance isn’t passive. As your state shifts, you’ll feel guided toward new actions, applying for the role, investing in yourself, or saying no to what no longer fits. Follow through. That’s how resonance translates into reality.
When it feels hard
Consistency is key. Old patterns, doubts, and fears will surface. This doesn’t mean it isn’t working, it means you’re noticing the gap between your old frequency and the one you’re choosing. Stay with it. Each time you reframe a thought, each time you choose aligned action, you strengthen your new resonance.
Final thoughts
The Law of Resonance isn’t a shortcut or a trick to get what you want. It’s an invitation to transform who you are being, so the life you desire unfolds as a natural extension of that state.
When your inner world reflects the qualities you long for, your outer world will rise to meet it.
Sophie Benbow, Self-Development Coach and Mindfulness Teacher
Sophie Benbow is a self-development coach, mindfulness and meditation teacher who holds various qualifications in Health & Fitness. She aims to guide you on a journey of self-love, healing, and compassion. Head on over to her website to enquire about coaching, listen to her meditations, and follow her social channels.
