Nothing Will Change Until You Decide To Change It
Updated: Apr 26, 2024
Meagan Brody is a Relationship and Communications Coach who helps her clients connect better within their own relationships and helps those looking for a relationship find the right partner. Although she studied Psychology, for ten years she worked in fashion pursuing the creative side of marketing.
No one is coming to save you. Do you want something to happen for yourself? You are the only one in control of that change. It seems daunting, knowing that you are the only one making decisions for yourself and you want to make sure that you are making the right choices.
As you may have heard, not taking a risk is the biggest risk of all. When you pass up opportunities to stay in your “safe zone” then you are prohibiting yourself from growing. If you want to make a difference in your life, the only way to change is to grow. Growth sometimes feels scary because it can feel like a bus that you are driving to an unknown destination. How do you make changes for yourself when you are unsure where those changes will lead? Sometimes, an unexpected outcome becomes the desired outcome, and that’s all part of the growing process.
If you want to make a change in your life, but you don’t know where to start, here are some questions to ask yourself. This will help you map out exactly where you are and where you want to go.
1. What is it that you want to change?
Look at what is serving you and what is not serving you in your life. Where do the changes need to happen based on what is working for you and what no longer works for you? Make a list of the things you like in your life and the things you want to make changes to.
2. Where are you now versus where do you want to be?
Ask yourself what the end goal is. Maybe you don’t have a specific end goal, but rather you want to be happier with yourself or not care about what people think of you. It isn’t necessarily going to be obvious like “I feel out of shape, so the end goal is to lose 10 pounds”.
3. What is the gap between where you are now and your end goal?
What are the things stopping you from accomplishing this goal? Do you sleep in too late to be able to apply for that new job? Do you sit on the couch instead of going to the gym? What is the space between you and your goal?
4. What changes can you make to get from where you are now to your end goal?
Now look at the steps you can take to get to this desired outcome. Your goal may be completing more hikes, and you won’t be fulfilled until you climb Mount Everest. Your first step to change your patterns could be adding that hike to your hiking list this year.
5. How much can you break down those steps in the “gap” to see what you can do daily to make that change?
If you stick with the Mount Everest example, you want to now break it down into pieces. What steps do you need to take to get to Mount Everest? Look into flights, check out hotels, see what the expenses will be and even dig deeper, break down how you will get those expenses in order. Then you will break it down so much that you have 30 tiny pieces (or steps) of your plan that you can focus on each day or each week. Look into expenses this week and form a plan to fund this trip. Next week start looking at flights and the time of year to best travel there. This will give you a manageable goal rather than overwhelming yourself with a mountain of ideas (no pun intended).
Meagan Brody, Relationship and Communications Coach
Meagan Brody is a Relationship and Communications Coach who helps her clients connect better within their own relationships and helps those looking for a relationship find the right partner. Although she studied Psychology, for ten years she worked in fashion pursuing the creative side of marketing. As she has transitioned into Life Coaching, she has realized that her creative abilities have helped her clients in reaching their full potential; whether that be in their relationships, personal growth or confidence in the real world. Meagan is NLP Certified (Neuro-Linguistics Programming) and has used these techniques to help her clients with various mindset goals.
