Midlife For Men Is Not A Crisis
- Brainz Magazine
- Jan 1, 2025
- 3 min read
Updated: Mar 19, 2025
John Michael O'Shea is the founder of One Purpose Wellness, a health and wellness coaching company that helps high-achieving males define their purpose, improve their daily habits, and create a sustainable plan that enables them to achieve their goals. The sustainable plan is based on the evidence-based pillars of a healthy lifestyle.
As we move through the stages of life, the often-heard negative term “midlife crisis” begins to surface. This crisis is thought to be driven by increasing age, changes in the body, and a possible lack of accomplishments in one’s professional or personal life. It may bring feelings that you need to make drastic changes, recapture your youth, or correct decisions you made in the past. Contrary to that belief, when we approach this middle stage, we are entering the prime of our lives.
Reasons that support this view, the top three to consider are
1. You have real-life experience in midlife
By your mid-40s to early 50s, you have experienced success and failure, and you may have been part of a tragedy or faced traumatic situations. You have accumulated a wealth of experience, wisdom, and resilience. These qualities are incredibly valuable and often more significant than formal training. You have learned how to manage challenges, build relationships, and make rational decisions. These skills are essential in preparing you for new opportunities.
2. A time to re-define your purpose
You have the opportunity to redefine your purpose and create the life you truly want. At this point in your life, much of your time has likely been dedicated to building your career, your network, your marriage, and raising your kids. By defining your priorities and establishing a foundation for how you want to live the next chapter, you can integrate your non-negotiables into your daily life. These might include exercise, a healthy diet, a positive mindset, prayer, meditation, or other practices. Define what is important to you and how you want to feel.
3. Deciding how you will spend your time
What does the ideal workweek look like for you? Is it one where there is no strict line between work and play, allowing you to integrate activities that bring you joy into your everyday life? Maybe you have always wanted to volunteer for a nonprofit that aligns with your values, or you want to spend more time reconnecting with friends. It could also mean redefining your professional goals and deciding what you want to strive for next. Ultimately, it is about making a decision on what you truly want and how to maximize your time.
We have the opportunity to create the life we truly want. Rather than attempting to recapture your youth, embrace this stage of life and be fully present. By redefining your priorities and establishing a foundation for how you want to live, you can integrate your values and non-negotiables into this new phase and move forward with newfound energy.
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John Michael OShea, Seasoned Business Professional
John Michael O’Shea is a seasoned business professional with extensive experience leading and developing talent. Through his own struggles while advancing in his career, he realized he needed to implement change in his daily habits if he was going to achieve the vision he had for himself and his family. He dedicated himself to learning about the pillars of a healthy lifestyle, returning to school to earn a Masters of Science in Lifestyle Health Science & Coaching from the University of North Texas Health Science Center in Fort Worth, TX. Additionally, John Michael is a National Board Certified Health and Wellness Coach(NBC-HWC) and is Wellcoaches certified as a Health and Well-Being Coach. He is the founder of One Purpose Wellness, with a mission to help high achieving men define their purpose and unlock the best version of themselves.
